My house is such a mess!!!

@4ofmyown (1119)
United States
February 6, 2009 7:10am CST
I hate clutter!!!! When I was growing up our house was always a disaster, so much so, that I rarely had friends over. So, I try to keep my house in fairly good order most of the time. This week I have been so busy with functions at my kids school almost everyday and something to do everynight (science fair, soccer, boy scouts) It just happens that it was one of those weeks.I have Mt. Laundry in front of my washer and dryer, a mound of ironing, all the sheets need to be changed, bathrooms need to be cleaned. The only room that is in order is the family room/kitchen. I refuse to have my kitchen be a mess! Now, I feel overwhelmed...where do I start? I made a list and after looking at it, I just want to go back to bed. Do you have a cleaning schedule for your house? Are you a neat freak?
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@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
I love to keep my house neat and tidy. It feels really good to live in a neat environment so I always do make it a point to make my home a nice place to stay. As a working wife though there are times, I do come home already tired and feeling too lazy to move. I'm glad I have a husband who is also a neat freak. He always help me out handle things when I can no longer afford. That way, our home is always tidy and never a mess.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
7 Feb 09
You are very lucky that you have a husband that helps you, alot of women don't.
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@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
Yes, I do feel so blessed for having a wonderful husband who makes my role as a working wife quite easy and enjoyable. He does not leave me alone in doing the chores in the house. He always give a helping hand. Indeed, I'm blessed and I thank God for him!
• United States
6 Feb 09
I hate clutter too. My hubby is a pack rat and is home now and our house is such a mess . we cannot even walk down the hall way for the toys and I am getting stressed from it all. I want it all put up and when I put it up it gets pulled right back out. I am going crazy,.
@busyB4 (875)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I am so with you! I think too once it gets out of control, you lose all desire to do any of it!! I keep thinking I want to get this and that done but my hubby is retired and home all the time so I feel like it is hopeless. I am the worst at cluttering it though. I stack mail and paperwork etc... and always seem to find more important things to get done. It has helped some since I started on free cycle as I can do it a little along, offer it on freecycle and let someone else come and pick it up. Then I dont wait till I have so much to tote off somewhere for a donation. Really I wuld like to get rid of a lot of it and live more "simply" so I too can enjoy more time to do what I want instead of fretting over it!
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I feel for you both. Sometimes it gets to the point when I am like...I just can't even stand to be in this house anymore. Usually that is after a busy week like I just had. My husband is so good though, he always picks right up on it and helps out tremendously.
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I can feel ya on this one... I always feel my house is a total clutter box. I do a 15 minute quick clean up daily, always after everyone goes to bed. It seems to help with the cluttery mess. I have catch all spots, and that's where everything goes threw the week and then I seperate it and dispose of things to proper places as needed. I always have a pile of laundry to do (which I should be doing now). That's a never ending cycle, once I get caught up, there's another 3 more piles to go.. Just sit down, take a deep breath and start at one end of the house and work your way threw it... don't try to do everything in one quick burst or you'll get runned and burned out pretty fast. Assign jobs to your children when they come home from school today, say ok mom needs little help, can you please go clean your room up for me, or can you go clean up the toy room, such things like that are little jobs they can do for you and it can help you out. If they are older, maybe have them fold the clothes for you. My son is 6 and he get's little special jobs as i call them for mommy and him time to do together. We fold the clothes together, or he helps me put away the dishes, he likes doing them because we get that extra little time together, and he don't really know he's actually helping me. Good luck and just take a breather...
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Thanks for the encouraging words. I have a catch all place on one of counters and it drives me nuts. My husband is usually the guilty one there. I have gotten quite a few things done today, so I feel a little better. I even have dinner already in the oven and it is only 2:30.
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Oh, you're so welcome. You are ahead of the game plan if you've already got dinner in the oven... great job!
@katsmeow1213 (28910)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I'm the opposite of a neat freak! I usually beat myself up over the state of my house on a daily basis, but I just dislike cleaning so much that I only do it when I can't stand the mess anymore. There are certain things that get done daily, like laundry, and dishes, and each of the kids have chores to help out. They have to pick up the toys in the dining room and living room, they have to take out recyclables and feed the cats, wipe down the table and high chair, sweep the dining room (sometimes the kitchen if I ask them to), the oldest takes out the trash and scoops or changes the cat litter everyday. So mostly the only things that need to get done is a good sweep (the kids don't do it well enough of course), mopping, vacuuming, and a serious deep clean, and stuff like our desks and the bathroom. I try to do all that at least once a week, but sometimes I'd rather just do a quick wipe down and forget the rest, lol.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
6 Feb 09
It does make it easier when the kids are involved. My husband is very helpful as well and he is off this weekend so I am hoping by Sunday I have a nice clean house. But I try to get as much done as I can while he is a work or I feel guilty that he has to come home to a mess.
• United States
6 Feb 09
My husband is by far lazier than I am when it comes to housekeeping. You should see his desk. I mean mine is cluttered with papers and such, his is cluttered with soda cans and dishes. If I don't clean them off everyday, he'd end up with a soda can tower, he literally did have one before. He doesn't care much about how the house looks, and even when I do clean he wouldn't notice, at least not in this house. Most of the way it looks is not due to my lack of cleanliness, it's due to the house being a piece of... you know. I'm sure once we move and have a better looking house, I'll be more inspired to keep it cleaner, and he might be as well.
@maximax8 (30121)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 09
I went to a clutter clearing one day course a few years ago. It gave me some helpful tips and it worthwhile meeting other people that were in a mess. Since then I have bought a filing cabinet which I update quite often. I have got rid of disk cases and put all my music disks, computer disks and movie disks in books. I have bought lots of boxes to store things in. I have problems getting rid of emotional clutter and my shower room is like a dumping ground for mess. I suggest you write a list of four things that need doing and do the easiest first. It could be sort your washing of the sheets after you have completed washing all the clothes. Then you could do some ironing one evening whilst listening to some music. I tidy up before someone important comes round otherwise my home is either fairy tidy or a bit of a mess. I look at and sort out one room at a time or do one job like laundry. Good luck.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
14 Feb 09
One of the things I have begun to do is going one room at a time. I always start with the room that someone would see if they were to visit. I do agree with making a list and not making it too overwhelming for yourself. Thank you
@kpsaran (74)
• India
7 Feb 09
A neat freak????nah the tag wont suit me at all..I don't normally put a cleaning schedule.But at least once in a while tend to clean my room.Great task!!! And yes i succeed...I finish up cleaning the room and feel greatly satisfied thinking about what i have done.. To me its like making the impossible happen!!!!!! good day..take care.. :);)
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I guess certain things like that don't affect some people the way it does me. I get very stressed out when there is clutter. Be glad it doesn't bother you.
@sunita64 (6470)
• India
7 Feb 09
In the second week of January I was in the same mess owing to flower show in office and there was no time for home. Then to deal with it I wrote down all the task and every day finished at least two of them. Started offcourse with the kitchen. Gradually house came back to normal shape.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I think maybe I need to do that. Make my cleaning list as usual but highlight the things that have be done for that day. I guess eventually everything will get done.
@TnWoman (1896)
• United States
7 Feb 09
hello 4ofmyown i know what you mean when you talk about clutter. the other morning after i had gotten ready for work, i took the time to clean the clutter off of the kitchen table and it looks so much better now without all of the clutter that was on it. and it does seem to happen every single time, that everything in the house needs to be done at the same time. that drives me crazy when that happens around my house. just recently my Dad was in the hospital and that is what happened around here while i was at the hospital almost everyday for two weeks. good luck to you in getting your clutter cleaned up and it doesn't take that long at all to get things straightened back up and put back in order and everything washed up. take care and have a beautiful evening.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I hope your dad is doing better. Life seems just a little less stressful when things are organized and neat. It is kind of like your brain goes on overload trying to figure out what needs to be done first. Hopefully by the end of this weekend I will relaxing and enjoying a tidy house.
• China
7 Feb 09
i am also not that kind of person keeping the house dirty. i am now living in an studio appartment alone and my place is totally a mess. a lot of books, CDs, DVDs, Clothes are just everywhere in my place. i think most men are not good at keep house tidy or have no interest in doing so. i think it is one of the reasons men need women.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I do appreciate your response but I don't think women were put here to keep mens' lives in order or to pick up after them.
@palonghorn (5483)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I'm not a neat freak, but I do like my house being cleaned up. At the moment, it is driving me crazy! lol Me and my b/f are parting ways, but due to personal business I have to take care of, we are still living together, until I can get things done and move. So, the clean room in the house is the bedroom, where I spend most of my time scrapbooking at my desk. He has been buying new 'toys', wii, laptop comp, etc. and the boxes are just piling up in the dining room lol. I try to keep things picked up, but he is of no help. And he just retired, so he is home all day. lol But that's a man for ya. lol. I figured out a long time ago, if ya keep things picked up on a daily basis, then cleaning is no big deal. I went by that philosophy even when I was raising my daughters.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Sorry to hear about the breakup. I am always telling my kids to clean one thing before you get out another. They all ho and hum but when it comes time to wind down for the day the ones that listened are done and the others are throwing a fit. I am like that when I cook, as I use it I either put it away or wash it. It makes eating more enjoyable knowing you don't have a ton of stuff to clean up.
@winterose (39897)
• Canada
6 Feb 09
my house is always a mess, I am disabled and I just can't keep up with it anymore, though on the days that I am feeling better I do as much as I can, the trick I find is to do a little something everyday, maybe you can put in 1 hour of cleaning, but you might be able to put in 15 minutes, every little bit helps. while you are watching tv you can do you ironing.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I try to do a little everyday, I just need to get in a routine. And, the ONLY way the ironing gets done is if the t.v. is on. If I didn't have the t.v. ironing would be worse than it already is.
• United States
6 Feb 09
My husband and I both work full time and we have three kids. We are also active in a variety of different things. Basically we use home as a stopping off point some times. We run here, run there, so my house is a chronic disaster. I rarely have people over and the people I do have over love me inspite of my natural disaster. I usually make a game plan. I start with one room and tell myself ok, this is what I'm going to get done in here and I just start and keep at it until that room is done and then I move on to the next room. I take things that don't belong in the room I start with and carry them to the room that they do belong in but I don't put them away until I start that room because if I do then I'll get sidetracked and start on something else and then I feel like I haven't done anything. It still seems that I never accomplish anything because as quick as I can get something clean and done it's messy again....but I suppose that is what happens when you live in a two bedroom house with five people.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
6 Feb 09
It seems going room to room is the easiest way. I don't except my house to be perfect all the time but the clutter is what gets to me. I, too, think that people are crazy if they think they are going to walk into my house, with 4 kids living here, and expect it to be perfect.
@kingfan (30)
• Canada
6 Feb 09
I work from home and try to take an hour or so a day to keep the house up to par. I, like you, hate clutter and try to keep the house clutter free. My kitchen is the first room to be cleaned because I dislike dirty dishes lying around. For the rest of the house I have a routine which works pretty well for me. I do at least one load of laundry a day so it doesn't pile up. I tackle one room a day for a good, deep cleaning and on Wednesdays and Saturdays I vacuumm. I find by doing this I don't get overwhelmed and even have some time for myself! Hope this helps.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Doing one room a day is a really good idea. I never thought about doing it like that. I have been doing all the dusting one day and all sheets another and so on. Maybe doing one room a day might work out better. Thanks for the idea. Your lucky you get to work at home, I have been trying to find something I could do from home.
• United States
6 Feb 09
I was in the same boat growing up, and like you, I rarely had friends over. So, I'm the opposite now and I've often been called a neat freak. LOL I don't mind that at all because it means I'm keeping the house exactly the way I want it to be. This week, however, I've been sick and my house has quickly fallen apart. Now that I'm feeling better today, I'm getting it back in order because it's driving me NUTS. I can't stand it when it's like this - you never know when someone's going to pop in unannounced! I don't want it to be like this if that happens! LOL
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Yeah, I think I border on being a neat freak because of childhood. I really hated the house when I was growing up. Now, when my house gets a little out of hand or cluttered, I actually get stressed out. My luck today would be the day someone showed up for an unannounced visit.
• Canada
6 Feb 09
HEHEHE Oh I have been there...just a few days ago. My hubby and I were both sick so finally wednesday I was feeling better when he went to work, I kinda went nuts and went through the whole house....But I find it just gets all messed up again!!! The laundry is ok but my kitchen needs to be cleaned and so do my kids rooms....I am not a neat freak but I like it clean and my hubby is a neat freak so we keep on top of it!!!!Good luck hope you have a very productive day!!!
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Thanks..I feel better knowing I am not alone. I always try and keep it at least presentable so if anyone were to stop by I would not be mortified. I think today I will have to have an extra cup of coffee and just get busy. Thanks again.