I'm trying to buy a car...and my BF is driving me insane!!
February 7, 2009 3:55am CST
I decided that I am not going to buy as expensive a car as I originally thought, the money I don't use on the car is going to help pay bills and finish the up grading on my home. The thing is, I will ask my BF his opinion on a vehicle and he won't voice it, until I reach the point of seriously being ready to buy the car and then he decides to tell me that I really shouldn't get the car. Does your man do this to you??? It doesn't have to be a big purchase, he'll do it to me on many of my purchases. Gift buying for him is HORRIBLE!!!!!!!! I'll try to find out what he would like and he pulls the "I don't need anything, and I really don't want anything" routine. Does this happen to you too? How do you handle it? I am going beserk about the car, as I find ones I really like, do my research and fill him in on all of it and then get "THE ANSWER".
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• United States
7 Feb 09
Thank you, it would be a wonderful idea...I know, you're waiting for the "but". My BF has been there for me through everything, several surgeries, my Mom dying, my kids moving home and killing my car and running me broke, and has been a pillar for me through all my own insanity. It's just the one thing that is driving me wild, and I know full well he is trying to protect me from making a mistake buying a vehicle. I just wish he'd respond before I make a semi decision. I hate shopping for a car (as I've said I even drive myself nuts when it comes to making decisions about major purchases. It takes me three months to decide on a new fridge...so I'm hopeless when it comes to buying a car! ) I am in kind of a rush this time as I don't have transportation and have to have my BF drive me where I need to go...I feel really bad that he has to do all the chauffeuring when he has things he'd rather be doing instead of waiting for me to finish with classes. I love the man with all my heart, and hate putting the load that I am putting on him right now... He is being a saint about all my leaning and I just can't keep doing the depending that I am doing right now.
7 Feb 09
That is why I say that book Man are from Mars and girls from venus is totally correct. This really happens with everybody. My strategy is to decide whatever I feel like and just ignore his comments. As for sure girls are less intelligent to decide that is what men think.
• United States
7 Feb 09
I guess it boils down to I am horrible about making decisions about big purchases. Just after my Mom passed away I decided that I should get rid of the huge van she bought and get a smaller car. One of the lots had a Mercury Tracer wagon that I fell in love with. I looked at the thing nearly every week for three months. I finally test drove it and after a couple of more weeks decided to buy it. I loved the car like crazy and it handled like a dream. But my daughter managed to blow the engine on it for me. The replacement would have been over four thousand dollars, so I replaced it with another Tracer wagon which I hated and traded it in on an Acura CL. I loved that car and figured it would last me for five years. Well I was stupid and let my daughter and her husband "borrow it for a couple of weeks". Seven months later they finally got their car fixed...after putting 44,000 miles on the car and doing body damage and destroying the catalytic converter. I sold it for $800 after paying $6,000 for it. OUCH! Now I am driving myself nuts with trying to find a car, and my BF isn't too much help either. I finally found a Subaru Legacy Brighton that I am going to pass by him to see what his opinion is, and when I get a chance to test it out I will decide and let him know that this is the way things are going to be. I really think at times that men are from someplace further out in space than Mars! Or else it's a plot by the martins to take over the earth. Thank you for your response...I love your thinking.