my 5 year old has adhd and is out of control :(

my son has suffered from it all his life getting into one thing after another.he has gotten into so much trouble until i just gon,t know what to do with him he soon will be 18 and he don,t think before he cats have a bad attiude thinks he no more then all adults.no matter how you try to protect them they still wants to do what they qant to do.my son is disrespectiful.i feel sorry for him he is making his life so hard.he stals from me his own mother.i know you have your hands full with your child i hope you can find a program that works.

I have son who's 2 and a half old.Like your son he's also very violent not only when mad he also make fond of hurting others.Playing with playmates always lead to fight. He once stub my little brother. The more i say don't the more he do it. Is it too early to say he have adhd too? I always explain things to him as much as i can. I also punish sometimes but i dont think it works. rewarding works more on him.

My grandson was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD at 2 years old. He was an absolute terror. When he turned 6 they put him on Ritalin. That helped for a while but then it started not helping at all it made him just the opposite to what it was supposed to. They hospitalized him to try and find a medication that was suitable. The Dr. told us that Ritalin works in 75% of cases but we were not fortunate enough for my grandson to be in that 75%. He has been in the hospital more than once. In school he had problems from day one. We even home schooled him for a while. He finally made it to High School where the Principal - a woman was an absolute b**ch to him so finally his Mother let him quit because of her, This nasty woman left to go to another school but not soon enough for it to help us - but she got hers - she wasn't at the other school long before she was fired. When he was 19 he was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. He can be so helpful and loving one minute and ready to knock you senseless the next. He has tried to control it with regards to people by punching walls, doors etc. He has demolished a big part of my house. He is now 23 and still has a lot of problems. I used to work with a Paramedic - and at his job he was one of the best - but at age 42 he was diagnosed with ADHD but not before it had wrecked his marriage so this will tell you it is a long term thing for most people. My advice to you would be to get your son into some decent counselling and with a suitable Dr. who is well versed in ADD & ADHD. Good luck and God Bless.

I question whether it's really ADHD, a lot of doctors just diagnose it as that to be done with it. I've met lots of children diagnosed as ADHD that were not really. Likewise, I have meet people, children and adults, who have varing degrees, some who take meds and some who don't. First I would advise that you take him to more than one doctor and get another opinion since it is so often falsely diagnosed. As for keeping your cool I am not sure on that one, but you know what he is like and that it's not entirely his fault, so just try to remember that when he pushes your buttons. However, do not allow that to be the excuse all the time. He cannot learn to use his condition as a crutch or an excuse to get away with things a normal child wouldn't. After all, he is pretty much normal. It'd be like a blind child running into everything and breaking it all and using "I can't see" as an excuse. There are always ways around things like that and if a child learns to use it as an excuse, it'll only be worse in the long run.

My son was put on many many meds for years/ He was diagnosed at 6 and was on 7 different meds until last summer. We weaned him off when after years they put him on an adult med and a deppression pill and sleeping pills and turned him into a zombie. Then they tried to diagnose him with bipolar. It is really hard to know what your child has and doctors sometimes go to the first diagnosis they can think of you have to know what to ask. there are a lot of online help sites. They give you the questions to ask. I really hope your son gets the right meds. You have a long road but eventually it gets better.

My son was diagnosed at age 4, but he was wild from before birth, for example, when we went for the ultrasound, they couldn't tell if it was a boy or girl because he wouldn't hold still long enough for them to see. We tried several different medications, and I will tell you that Adderall made him violent, so if he wasn't violent before the medication, and was after you started, it could be the medication. He is 12 now and we stopped the medication about a year ago. He is calmer, but he has NO impulse control, if he thinks about doing something, he does it. I tried taking him off of white sugar and banans and peanut butter, and all of the natural remedies, but actually, he just needs to work with the counselor and learn how to regulate his own behavior. After he turns 14, the doctors usually will not let him have medications (Except Straterra, which works really well, but after a while the body gets used to it, and they took him off of it.) Good luck!