this pretty girl is flirting with my boyfriend..

Philippines
February 8, 2009 1:43pm CST
She is damn sexy and pretty. She is nice and was in fact my new acquaintance. I introduce her to my boyfriend(I fondly calls my husband that way). I am not the jealous type so I didn't react when she told me that my boyfriend is handsome(I got flattered anyway that she notice my bf's big appeal.The problem now is she loves calling my bf "honey" and sort of making sweety moves when she talks with him. I don't wanna let them know I am affected.I trusts my bf but I started getting annoyed with this girl. I think she pretense not to notice I'm getting irritated with her every time she passed at our house. I'm starting disliking her. How can I stopped her going around at our house in a diplomacy way? (when her aunt rent a room at our residence.)
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17 responses
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Don't get jealous because the girl is pretty. Get jealous because your man thinks she is.:)
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• Philippines
9 Feb 09
you're right.. I have not yet confronted my husband regarding it.. all he'll me is that "don't you trust me?" I don't want any nagging this time.. that is why I'm planning on best good way to get rid of this girl.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
8 Feb 09
you should talk to your husband face to face.dont use your mind to judge her.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
9 Feb 09
welcome
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I am waiting for the right timing.. I will do that soon.. thanks dear friend..
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I've change my mind now.. I think I am exploding now.. I wanna start a fight with my husband now.. I just pm him now and he said there is no wrong with the girl.. I am the one who is very wrong.. what does he mean? that he takes side with that dumb girl? oh I might really do something extra ordinarily with that girl.. a slap on her face might be great!
@kezabelle (2974)
8 Feb 09
Kick the aunt out? I dunno seriously just tell her you dont like the way she acts with your boy friend, tell her you find it disrespectful and it needs to stop failing that tell the aunt visitors are no longer allowed at your house! To be honest if someone is so nasty as to make moves on another womans fella right in front of her i dont think being diplomatic with this woman will do you any good tell her straight!
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
I think your right.. I have to do that before everything went down.. what if she accuse me of being "jealous" and that I am possessive.. what would I tell her? she have told me earlier not to be bother nor be affected of her sweetness.But it just that I can't tolerate it..
@kezabelle (2974)
8 Feb 09
Just tell her it is not about being jealous is about her disrespectful attitude, in my opinion you just dont do that to a friend!
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
thanks a lot my dear friend..
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
8 Feb 09
How dpes your spouse reacts to her behaviour? This is more important than your feelings of uneasiness towards her. He may not even be affected by the attention, meaning that you are wasting your time and energy worrying over nothing. It could be the nature of the girl. I know of girls who would flirt with almost any man, young or old. They have no intention of forming any special relationship with anyone. They just want to have some fun without any attachments. At the moment try not to pull your hair out over this matter. I have had girls flirting with me in front of my spouse. I knew the girls were just flirting, nothing more than that. Try to find out your spouse's feelings over this. Do you really think that this girl is sexier and prettier than youo are? Fight her in this aspect. all the best, rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 09
I apologise if I have offended anyone. It seems that many do not know who I really am. What I wrote was probably not comprehended properly. I never said that the girl is innocent of any wrong doing. What is true and applicable in one part of the society may not be so in another part of the same society. Our experienes differ. So are the way we grew up. So naturally we tend to have differences in opinion. So you want to know part of my life in connection with flirts? Basically I did not respond the way many men would have reacted. When one girl tried a ruse so that I would touch her I simply signalled to her friend to look at the problem which was non-existent ( a leech was supposed to find its way to between her bosoms). A friend of my spouse admitted she liked doing it to see the reaction of her target. My reaction when a man flirts with my spouse in front of me? It depends on the situation. I have never hit a man physically or hurled verbal abuse over this issue. In any relationship problem it is best not to jump into conclusions and be emotional. That was why I suggested to arrah to take it step by step, to eliminate wrong assumptions and to keep in mind the facts. So when she has enough she can meke plans for the next course of actions. I am not telling her everything on what to do because the decision then will not be hers. Arrah's culture and mine have many similarities. Let arrah decide on whether I have been talking nonsense or whatever. all the best, rosdimy
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
He used to entertains her very well as if she's not a threat to us.. that is his weakness(sexy ladies) I don't want to argue with him since I don't want the cheap girl to spoiled our relationship. I feel jealous whenever he smiled at her and talk with her.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Thanks for that friend.. the best thing I might do tonight is to have a talk with my husband regarding this matter. Be more positive and should not be too impulsiVE with my acts..thanks a lot.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
She's calling your boyfriend honey? DUH! If i were in your shoes, i'd try to talk to her about it.. i'd let her know how i really feel.. i mean, why is she making sweety moves when she talks with him? you have the right to voice out.. don't let her pursue whatever her plans are...
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
She have warned me already about her being sweety.. in fact she would call me darling every time.. It just that I found her very flirt now.. I hated her for it.. and I was thinking of her as a threat to me..
• Canada
9 Feb 09
I call everyone sweetheart..but not any woman's man. If I do, I say sorry about that, I call everyone sweetheart so that way the woman knows that it's a habit I have. One thing..jealousy isn't good..because it can destroy your marraige. I'm not jealous one bit..why? Because it's a waste of time, the cancer of the mind. I don't waste time on it. You just make sure that the person is truly...flirting with your husband or it's a habit of hers..or if she does it just to men. You can't be jealous because your husband talks or smiles to a woman..its with you he is sharing his bed. It's with you he wants to make his life with. You make sure you have a reason to be jealous and not just imagining it and what you do..just tell her that you don't like it that she calls your husband honey and that you rather she call him by his name and don't be shy to tell her that you are a jealous lioness & watch your marriage..not your husband..like a hawk. Your husband works in public so he must feel comfortable to talk to women and not fear you going to blow up in his face all the time..that is wrong. You have to trust him otherwise why did you marry him? You see he belongs to you and you him. When something like this happens..you warn him about it, tell him to watch that person and see on his own if she is coming on to him and if she is..to tell her to lay off! He may not see it as you because men don't see as women do..so give him the chance to see it and if he sees you trust him that much he will tell you about it and will get rid of her. So analyse the whole situation..carefully..be calm..tell your husband to watch out for her and you get her alone and tell her that you don't like how she is flirting and to flirt with a single man and that its better you are no longer friends and you don't want her around anymore. period Let her say what she wants to anyone about you..some will smile and say..she is right. So stop shouting..arguing won't help it and also instead of getting jealous and upset..fix the problem..and trust your husband..men will cheat if they feel they are not trusted.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Talk to both of them! If your BF really loves you so much it doesn't matter what the girl say or do your BF wouldn't entertain the thought of flirting back at her. tell that flirty girl "back off moron" and tell her to go to her mother and ask her to teach her some manners!!!!!!!!!!!! if you really trust your partner there's no reason for you to get worry with what your friend doing with your bf unless you've noticed that your bf feel the same way that's the time you need to confront them. here's the thing, it's all depends on your instinct.
• Canada
8 Feb 09
Bunny Punch - Ever get punched by a bunny..it hurts hehehe.
First of all my dear..you don't hang around with a single woman..trust me she is after your man. Get rid of her and fast..tell her to go find her own HONEY and that you don't accept her being disrespectful. Tell your husband and whether he likes it or not and he better not like it..get rid of her and fast or you will regret it..men are weak..their brains are in their pants first..hahaha. You don't need to be diplomatic..why should you be! She is outright flirting to get your man and I would tell her to her face and tell her if she ever comes by again or find out she is after her man that you will rip her eyes out. and talk loud and trust me..she will. And stop calling him your boyfriend because boyfriends are not serious..but a husband makes it look more serious. It happened to me..a girl had a mad crush on my husband, she kept knocking at the door..one day when I opened the door I punched her right in the smacker..trust me she never came back. so don't be diplomatic because there is no place for diplomacy when a woman is trying to get your man and never ever be friends with a single woman.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
what a good advice.. know what I am a bit coward.. not able to accept what keeps gong on.. I'm the typical person who would accept everything out of fate. Now I've just realized that if this woman entered our relatioship and be engaged with my husband,it's no longer fate but due to my own carelessness.. I gotta stop her now before it's too late..
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
You've made me cry indeed.. I wish I would have a happy marriage life like you.. I am sobbing hard right now.. I envy you dear.. You really got a very good love story.. and you deserve it because you got a warm heart.. your love story is one of the best story ever told..
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I don't feel good at his point of time.. only you mylotters comforts me.. I've never share my feelings to anyone but here in mylot only.. the best I really have to do is rest,think and call on God. I am relying everything to God now. I am very depress right now. We just argued.. I hate fights.. It weakens me because I am a worst enemy. My heart sank every time I hurts anyone how much more if its my loved one whom I am hurting more?..
@ericajoyce (1746)
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
Hello. arrah_1027. Why is that girl flirting with your boyfriend? I think the best way is to tell her that you dont like it when she flirts with your boyfriend. Also talk to your boyfriend about it.
• Philippines
14 Feb 09
Thanks to God that our problem has been solved now.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
cooking - food I cooked
It's good that you don't show them your negative reaction. Better tell your husband that you are pissed off about this sweety moves of that girl. Warn her beforehand that you don't like the girl's flirting and everything. If your husband is sentsitive, then he will do something to stay away from this girl.
• Philippines
14 Feb 09
Its good when things are being talked over. Our problem has been solved now.
@zhuuraan (961)
• United States
9 Feb 09
I think you need to tell your boyfriend how she makes you feel uncomfortable. I realize you trust him, but if her actions are making you uncomfortable, that's not fair. Who knows, maybe she is making him feel uncomfortable too and he just hasn't mentioned it to you for the same reason. Have a chat with him I think. You may need to give her an ultimatum, either stop flirting with your boyfriend or she will not be allowed to come around your house. Who cares if her aunt is renting a room? Her aunt's not the one you have the bone with, and even if she were, it is your home. She doesn't have any place to say anything, nor her niece. Neither of them has the right to say anything if you tell her she is unwelcome in your house. If her aunt wants to see her, she can go out somewhere with her. If the aunt insists on the girl coming over, which if she's even half a woman she'd understand and not, but if she insists, give her the same ultimatum. I doubt she'd risk losing the room she's renting form you though. It's her niece causing trouble, not her.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I just have a heavy argument with my husband. He have put all the blame on me before I could have talk. Damned, I never got the chance telling him how bad I feel for him right now. I think he really meant hurting me by exchanging conversation with that girl.I feel very down right now.My weakness is that it's very hard for me to accept my emotional angst.I loved him very much but I don't want to give him the impression "I can't live without you.." If he is not comfortable with me now, I'll give him what he want. If he want divorce then I'll give it to him. I won't stand in his way.I am hating myself now.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
2 Apr 09
The last sentance in bracket makes the situation a little more difficult. It again has been 2 months now and I think you must have found some solution to that. So, is she still irritating you or you got rid of her or you did do something to get her know that you don't like her calling your bf(hubby?) honey![i][/i][u][/u]
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
21 Apr 09
I never knew that. I have always thought that if someone loves yu then you don't need to do anything special to make him/her happy all the time. S/he will understand automatically!
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
thanks for dropping by dear.. We have already solved our problems.. I've learned a lot and there's one thing I've learned enough "Always be attentive with your partner's needs" I never would introduce him "my bf" now but "My husband". Time is all that matters.. I've tried organizing my time in order to give him huge time.
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• Philippines
18 Apr 09
well, friend if that would be the case..you will need to consult a health and beauty consultant...you supposed to look more prettier compare to that pretty girl who is flirting your boyfriend..get rid your boyfriend of seing that pretty girl ..there's a possibility that he'll gonna fall inlove or crush with the pretty girl..that's sad because we all know's boys weakness..a woman, a womans's beauty
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
well, my belief friend is that truelove sees no beauty imperfections. When two loves each other much all they see is good things. And If you'll gonna ask one who's the most beautiful girl in town.. I'll bet he'll say that it's the one he loved most. I am a simple woman and my husband hates make up. So I stayed with no make up at all. My husband is not that easy to get with. I had been suspicious before but we've handled it now.. we've tried having a frank talk and that's how we've solve the problems. The girl has a bf now and My husband have ignored her now.. She's not her type of girl. He've told me of that. For short "He hates agressive and flirty girls." I don't doubt him no more.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Tell her straight..ignoring her flirty acts will just give her courage to go more father so better tell that to her face that u dont like whats shes doing..or better slap it on her face..LOL
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
wow..lol.. I am now saving my energy for that woman.. I am gonna talk with her soon.. if she answers back.. she'll surely win a slap on her face from me.. I am waiting for her now..
• China
9 Feb 09
I suggest you talk to your boyfriend about it and ask him what he think. if you boyfriend do care about you, do really love you, he should know that to do about it.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I don't think it will work.. as you see.. It didn't work.. the worst of it is now at my face. I don't think I still could face this. I think I am giving up this marriage now. This is what I didn't know would happen.
@kant11 (12)
• China
9 Feb 09
i show mercy to you,but i believe you can deal with it soon.good luck
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
things don't seem good now.. I am the type of person who would rather hide and let go than do any drama or any damn crying begging for someone to listen to me or loved me or choose me or anything.Are you sure I could deal with it soon?
@fsound (756)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
It's best to sit down with your boyfriend and talk about the situation.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I would probably do it tonight asap.. thanks dear..
• United States
9 Feb 09
Don't be jealous, men like a little jealousy, but they do not want you to be overly jealous. If your boyfriend really loves you, he will not go for that other woman. Before I got together with my boyfriend, there was another woman who want him as well and she flirted with him a lot, but I was not about to let her have him without a fight. I began working out every day, I did what I could to make myself look smoking hot, and I read a lot more to make myself sound a lot more intelligent when I talked to him. He told me after we got together that I did not have to go through all of that trouble and that he loved me the minute he saw me. I loved him that minute I saw him as well, and I did not want anyone else to be with him. We have been together for more than a year, good times and bad times, and we love each other just as much as the day that we met each other.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
We love each other. I know it. This time I have to be more insightful. My husband is faithful but I gotta let this girl out of our backyard before it's too late..thanks for sharing your insightful experience..
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
8 Feb 09
What a bad girl of your friend. She knows he is your boyfriend and flirts with him? I would first try to stay away from her and tell her you and him are not free when she wants to stop by.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
you're right.. I've to avoid her and gotta tell my bf to away from her.. she's a threat for me.