I'm still ignoring her
By HomeFlower
@HomeFlower (987)
Canada
February 9, 2009 12:16pm CST
Our daughter who sent us a very nasty note in November -- telling us to get lost until her son is big enough to say he wants us in his life, and who also left a nasty voice message on our machine in December, sent me an invitation to join her msn live friends list. This was on January 29th and I still haven't responded.
I have neither accepted nor rejected the invitation.
I'm just going to ignore her completely
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4 responses
@techsavvy999 (178)
• India
9 Feb 09
In my view its better to leave her. I think she is trying to find out how you are feeling with out her. she want to know whether you are happy or not after in her absence. Its better to reject the invitation.
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@HomeFlower (987)
• Canada
9 Feb 09
I'm not sure why she sent the invitation. It could have been sent by mistake, I suppose.
I'm not going to respond either way.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
9 Feb 09
You go girl! Why in the hell did she send you the nasty note in November , a nasty voice message in December , and without apologizing ask to be friends in January? It doesn't make sense. Were you suppose to forget what happened? It doesn't work that way.If you are like me, she has to call and apologize before I talk to her ever again.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Feb 09
What's her problem? I know there must be a long back story and I am prying but what happened? I will understand if you don't want to tell me.
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@HomeFlower (987)
• Canada
10 Feb 09
I don't know really.
One day she was telling us everything is fine - they came over for a visit for a few days (3 or 4) -- everything was good. We went over there and brought a surprise thanksgiving dinner with us for thanksgiving ( it was steak instead of turkey ) but since it was their first one with the baby and they're so far from home, we drove up there and tried making a nice day of it.
Anyhow, like I said, everything was fine and she kept telling us she's paying the bills and he's collecting EI benefits and looking for work but then it turned out she was lying and her man wasn't working and she was seriously behind in her rent. So I said whatever happens make sure you pay the rent and keep a roof over your head or the city will scoop down and take custody of the baby until things get stable .... then I told her we don't have enough money to fight the city for custody if that were to happen but pay the rent and we'll work on getting them everything else -- food whatever.
This started the spiral downward
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@HomeFlower (987)
• Canada
10 Feb 09
I guess a phone call that doesn't result in a nasty message would be nice.
She also is making trouble for me with networks I work for.... maybe she needs to stop doing that and apologize before anything changes on my part.
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@amrith (291)
• India
9 Feb 09
Have you heard This "To err is human but to forgive is divine.You should accept her as she is after all she is your daughter Who if you tern back and see gave you the happiest moment in life by making you a mother. and ofcouse she may not have the maturity as you have as she has not seen the christmases as you In my opinion accept the request and be their friend .seeing this even the enemies will have a tear of happiness in their eyes
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@HomeFlower (987)
• Canada
10 Feb 09
You may not be familiar with my posts about her. To gain a better insight into what we've been dealing with, read my posts: Creditor Calls, Symptoms of Relapse, We won't be seeing our grandson
To forgive is divine - but to forgive and get dragged into courts, get sued, get harassed by creditors, drag her to rehab, lose money, and on and on and on ....... to forgive under those circumstances might be stupid. And anyway, we've always forgiven her and ended up with more problems and getting slapped in the face
@fasttalker (2796)
• United States
9 Feb 09
You never know what you would do in another persons shoes but I think I would accept the request just to see what it is that she wants. Maybe she is trying to get in touch to make things right and then again maybe she just wants to stress you out a little more! LOL Who knows? But I think it would be worth a shot just in case she is by some strange reason growing up a bit!
Good Luck
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@HomeFlower (987)
• Canada
10 Feb 09
I think I'm more comfortable just not doing anything about the invitation.
She's already cancelled, her dad, me and her grandmother off her facebook friend list, and off myspace ... maybe she just wants to add me so she can ban me. Hmmmm, another point to ponder
