Does his love for you fit into a schedule?
By PlantBuddy
@PlantBuddy (183)
Canada
February 10, 2009 2:36pm CST
Are you in love with someone who is just too busy or too tired? Do you often feel like you have to make an appointment just to get his/her attention?These days many of us have more than one job or work crazy shifts just to pay the bills. As a result, our partner can feel they have to schedule themselves in or miss out seeing us. . .and what about the kids? Do they have to pencil themselves into Mom or Dad's life?Have you ever sat with your spouse at the end of the day trying to make conversation and he yawns in your face? He's so exhaused he falls asleep on the couch watching TV at 8 PM and doesn't wake up until the news comes on at eleven?Are you dating someone who gives you the excuse that he's just too busy at work to see you? Do you believe him?
3 responses
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
Hello There!
When he went abroad to work, i felt that I have to schedule or email him in advance when I want to call him so he will pick up his phone. I feel frustrated and down at that time since I can't even call him whenever I wanted to. That only happens after few months of staying there.
We got into fight after I kept telling him about that problem but later on, I understood that he always leave his phone in the car but my point is he should return my call or send me a text message at least... the result of that was I got used to it... I don't know... maybe I got tired of saying the same thing over again and I don't want us to fight just for that. Though I am happy because he calls me when I least expected it.
Right now, we are not talking much since we have different schedule and I feel that I have to send him a text message before we can chat online so that he knows that I am waiting... awww.... but everything will be okay, this is just one of the days that we don't have the same attitude in communication... :)
Thanks for the discussion! Happy Mylot and Have a great day! Cheers!
@PlantBuddy (183)
• Canada
11 Feb 09
I want to wish you a Happy Valentine's Day and thank you for responding. Wishing you all the luck in your relationship. This weekend, may I suggest going out to see a good movie about relationships... "He's Just Not That Into You".
@mityang (13)
• Australia
10 Feb 09
i'm proud to say that i got a responsible partner. being busy at work, getting home really tired & watching t.v is no excuse for not giving any time for you & his family. both my part & i are busy w/ work, infact we have opposite working hours he works at day & i work at night. but if there's really love & understanding in a relationship you should have find time to talk, eat & enjoy each others company & so w/ the family. these also prevails meaningful sacrifices since these times are spent w/ your love ones.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
10 Feb 09
I had this situation with my ex husband. He went to work at 6am and sometimes didn't get home till 8pm. It was brutal running his own business. He'd fall asleep on the couch watching tv. Our marriage had other problems but this didn't help and looking back I can see that I should have taken action sooner than I did. If this is happening to you, make sure the two of you carve out some time, even 30 minutes a week, to be alone together and have fun. That doesn't mean sacktime, that means laughing and having fun time!
