Should couples who are getting married should share the wedding expenses equally

Philippines
February 11, 2009 3:38am CST
I just want to know if nowadays, the couples are sharing wedding expenses equally? Or the man should cover all the expenses? Those married couples, what can you say and share about this? Did you share expenses? Or who answered everything? I really wish I could help my boyfriend in expenses, unfortunately, I am so broke, and made him broke also by using his money. I feel so stupid I used the money to help an old american man because his wife had a ceasarian section and cant get out of the hospital. He said his debit card was blocked because he accidentally entered more then the withdrawable limit. He said that his card will be reactivated after 24 hours. I offered help that I can lend him money and because he needs money he offered me additional 25% interest and because I easily trust people and would like to earn also some interest, I allowed him to b0rrow our wedding budget. He made a promisory note that he will pay me. I am not used to letting someone borrow money its my first time because I know that my company will close soon, I got blind with the interest to compensate the time that I will be out of job. Its been more than two months already and he hasn't pay me. I have three months left to prepare for my wedding I would like to hit the american 68 year old liar named Walter Groves who claims that he has a lawyer in Atlanta, Georgia with a lawyer named Lawerence Bakey (Bakeyl@yahoo.com) who's office address is Bakey Law Firm L.L.C. 2213 Peachtree Road, Atlanta, Georgia? anybody who can verify this?
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5 responses
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
I think it should be, i mean couples should become practical now.. You both will enter into marriage then y not help each other to make it happen not just leave the burden to only one, coz once you get married every decision and every actions done by each one of you both will be affected.. like for instance the guy borrow money to get married after the wedding both partner will carry the burden of paying the money owed.. so help each other even before you marry..
@tudors (1556)
• China
11 Feb 09
Wedding customes vary from culture to culture. In China, men bear the majority of the expenses including buying the house, decoration, electric appliances, furniture, clothing and women see to bed stuff, part of electric appliances. So if you ask a Chinese womom such question , you'll get the same response from me-- no way! Why? because nearly all the job positions are still dominated by men, they earn higher than most women, why should we women share equally?
@srganesh (6345)
• India
11 Feb 09
Well,somebody share the expenses and somebody don't.I am sad you fell in prey to an old american who took advantage of your soft corner.I don't think you will get your money back,but I will pray,somehow for you to manage your wedding expenses.Hope the best!
@nansheeca (215)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
i guess it really depends on what the couple have decided into if they wanna share or if the guy will shoulder everything. if the guy is super rich, then its only but fair to shoulder all the expenses, but if the girl insists that she's gonna share then it's up to them.
@RieRie (820)
11 Feb 09
It really looks like you've been conned and I doubt you'll ever see that money again. About the wedding costs, traditionally the father of the bride pays, but nowadays families club together if they can. If you can cut any costs by getting family members to just help out, e.g you have an uncle who does photography or cousin who does dress making. I hope you end up having a lovely wedding.