Do you ever just feel....alone?

@stacyv81 (5903)
United States
February 11, 2009 4:21pm CST
I have a great family. My 3 kids, their dad. They are awesome! But I lost my dad when I was 8, and my mom got cancer 2 years later, and died when I was 20, 2 months after my first child was born... I dont have parents, I have a step dad, but he has remarried, and I have no one to ask about my childhood before my stepdad was involved, and I sometimes see people with their parents, and their children, and I just feel alone sometimes, ya know? I am a happy person overall, but I miss them, and kind of feel alone on the earth if ya know what I mean.
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@mamabeezy (172)
• United States
11 Feb 09
I feel alone a lot. I have a child as well, and I feel as if that contributes to it. I am a single parent, and my mom's always working. It's hard to relate to a lot of people my age because of my situation... Which, makes me feel alone even more. Idk if it's odd, but I'm never physically alone... But I feel emotionally alone, a lot.
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@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Its not odd at all. In fact I think most people understand completely what you mean. =)
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
11 Feb 09
I think that is a normal feeling, anyone can feel alone even in a crowed room, I guess in a way we are all really alone, we all have our own road to travel and I think one never gets over losing your parents, they are such a big part of us and I guess it makes it so clear that we really doing it all on our own in a way.
• India
12 Feb 09
I am sorry for ur sadness happened for u in ur life i kn't even image ur sadness . I am alone while i am studying 11th that time time i got one sister in my life she very caring towards me....... now she also don want me in her life so that i feel alone if also i have parents ..............
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
i can say that what you are feeling is natural. i lost my dad 13 years ago but we are so close that it was kind of hard for me to adjust. we still have our mom so she is the one i ask with any question i have regarding life or if i need just need to talk with then i will go to my mom. but you have no parents and its really hard. dont you have an aunt or any relatives who are older than you. do you go to church? you can talk to the head of your church if you need someone to talk to. and of course mylot. it is a good community to voice out what we feel. if we need advice then we can also be free here to ask.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
11 Feb 09
I have a great cousin who is older and has 3 kids as well. She was very very close with my mom while she was growing up and I am a little jealous cuz she got more time with her than I did. But she is so far away and has her own life, and again, 3 kids...lol... Thanks for the response!!
@stacy624 (2776)
• Canada
12 Feb 09
Im so sorry and can't image how you feel! I know I have 2 parents who are not apart of my children lives (which hurts me too) I to will walk throught the mall and see Grandma or Grandpa with the Grand children.child and I think my kids are missing out! I know that I can't be your mom or dad but you can email or talk to me =) I have 8 children and another on the way in July =) I would Love to be a part in your life and hope that you will become a part of mine too =) Chin up We are here for you =) You're friend Stacy
• Hungary
12 Feb 09
I admire you that you are so positive! Yes, it is nice to have a family and parents alive! At times I do feel alone and and those times I draw close to Jesus. Well, He is really always with me and I found He fills up the empty space.
• United States
12 Feb 09
yes I do all of the time. even when people are here. I feel so down and depressed more often lately. I am getting pretty worried about it too.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
Hi stacyv! I know what you mean my friend. I too feel lonely whenever I see grown-up women with their mothers. I missed that embrace of assurance and love..that kind of loving embrace that makes me feel so at peace and secured. I know it is much more difficult if you lose both parents. I guess, we all feel so all alone one way or the other and I know we can not compare our loneliness and sadness because each of our hearts are hurting in its own way. Just like you, I am basically a happy person but deep inside I feel so alone some times. Take care and blessings to you! lovelots..faith
@dropofrain (1167)
• India
12 Feb 09
Many a times I feel all alone. ? I think there is no one with me. The whole world is empty for me. I sometimes feel there is no shoulder to lean on and all my sorrows are to be borne by me only. So I am trying to be strong enough to make the world better place to live on.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
I lost my Dad too, my mom, my sister and my husband. Missing them sometimes made me feel alone too. As they are differrent from our children. There are instances that we're looking for the love and concern of our parents which we can't find in our children, Maybe because the children relies on us and they are looking for our love and concern to them, they are used to be loved by us, the same thing with us we are used to be loved and cared for by our parents and that's what we're missing and the reason why sometimes we feel alone. Much more on me, I'm missing not only my parents, but my sister and my husband as well. Good I have 3 children and one grand daughter, otherwise I don't know where to go...
@sunil_008 (1269)
• India
12 Feb 09
Hi, don't be so disheartened by this. if you have some feelings about your childhood or something that you want to talk about then you are free to do so with your friends. if you are hesitating abt this. then you cxan write them on some blog site.after writing them down i am sure you will feel more relaxed and won't feel that lonely...:)
• China
12 Feb 09
I'm so sorry to hear that.I have similar situation as you.I lost my mother 5 years ago.And i still miss her so much.It's unale to stop the people or the animals who you care about or something important going away from you.
@ddfreedie (690)
• India
12 Feb 09
hey...its just the conscience that makes you feel like that....come of that feeling...be happy..overcome all the thoughts that supress you....life every second of your life...be happy... have a great day
@jimbo88 (231)
• Indonesia
12 Feb 09
Don't give up. I have a complete family and i still have a parent. But we stay in different region. Sometimes I feel lonely like you, but i can skip this feeling by going to my friend or browsing in the internet. You can skip this feeling with do a positive mind.
@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
11 Feb 09
I can only imagine. I lost my dad when I was 24 but my mom is still around. Her memory isn't real good but at least I still have her. I think I would feel totally lost without her.
@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
11 Feb 09
I feel for your lose. It is very sad. But, also very normal, you miss them. In time it will get a little easier. As for feeling lonely? I feel most alone when I am amongst people. Sounds weird I know, but I am that way. I think everyone knows this feeling. I just try to keep myself occupied and then I will feel better. Take care.
@dodo19 (47066)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
11 Feb 09
We all have those moments. I certainly do. My mom's side of the family is very close. They'll gather special events and such. When I'm those gatherings, whether it be Christmas, Thanksgiving, or something, I always feel like I'm alone, as though I don't really belong. So, I can certainly understand how you feel, or at least imagine how you feel. Because I feel as though I'm alone, even though both of my parents are alive.