coming over without being invited
By sameroad
@sameroad (3178)
United States
February 12, 2009 8:03pm CST
Do your friends ever come over uninvited? Do they ever come over even after you just got done telling them "I have stuff to do today, i can't hang out"
Every since new years my cousin and friend have been coming over a lot more
and it's not that i don't like seeing them a lot more and getting to hang out...
but it feels like it's almost a DAILY thing now... and we don't do anything but sit around and stuff. I mean we do stuff but nothing active really...
and it's started to effect my mood... even my mom said something to me the other day.
she said i seem worn down and grumpy... and shes right.. I am grumpy... because i'm not getting in my time and i'm not getting done the things i need to get done.
I've tried telling them a couple of times. "No, i can't. I have things to do! "
but they came over anyway and then ruin my day.. well, they don't ruin but the mess it up and stop me from finishing my stuff.
Do you have friends like that? How do you get them to understand you can't hangout 24/7??
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4 responses
@srganesh (6339)
• India
13 Feb 09
It is the previlege for our best friends to appear uninvited or without prior informations.And I have no trouble to get them accompanied to do any jobs.For instance,I am a businessman and I am solely responsible for all activities.And if my friend happens to come from a farther place to see me,then I would put him also in my bike and take him wherever I go.He too will be pleased to accompany me.In the mean time besides the business,we use to talk over.So,if it is your best friend you need not worry about him as a disturbance.Cheers!
@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
13 Feb 09
I rarely have that happen. You'll find that as you get older, your friends will be more considerate, it's a matter of maturity and appreciating other peoples' needs. When I was young it would sometimes happen but I just stood at the door and said I was busy and could we get together later? Sometimes you have to be rude, because they certainly have no qualms about being rude themselves!
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 09
I would find it very annoying and distracting. I'm not very sociable, so I would not welcome uninvited guests. However if they turn once in a while, it's fine. But to drop in every week or day, is a nuisance. I would most probably tell them; and if they still insist on dropping in, I would tell them off nicely and close the door on them.
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
13 Feb 09
One of my children have friends come over unannounced. It is so annoying when it happens at least once a week and they do it on days when we are busy. I personally would prefer it if there was warning because I can say yes or no. I just don't like wasting time of people regardless if the person is an adult or child.
