Can you be friends with an ex?

@cryw0lf (1302)
United Kingdom
February 14, 2009 4:50pm CST
Can YOU be friends with an ex? Does it depend on how it ends? WHY? Tell me your ex- friend stories haha... im intrigued...
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8 responses
@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
14 Feb 09
I could never be friends with an ex but then as you say maybe it depends how it ends but I think once its over both should move on and let it be over for the fairness of both parties new relationships, I don't think in all honesty anyone would feel compfortable with their boyfriend or girlfriend seeing their ex, I think it is best to leave the past in the past for the sake of all in the future.
• Philippines
14 Feb 09
I'm friends now with my ex boyfriend, and the friendship's been going on for more than 10 years already. If the "closure" for both sides had been good, I think it's possible. It's kinda dangerous to remain friends, especially if one of you already has a new relationship and the other doesn't. It tends to make the unattached one cling to the other one and that can present a lot of troubles. What's important is that both respect the boundaries of friendship, and continuing to be friends is a mutual decision. You can only be a true friend to someone whom you do not harbor anger or hate, so it's wise to "clean the slate" first, so to speak. Friendship borne out of love can be deep, but it also must know its limits.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
15 Feb 09
Im friendly with my ex, but I do not want to be his friend, and why should I? if we could not live together why whould be friends?, my ex call now and then but I never call him I have nothing to say to him, when we were together he was not interested in what I have to say, so why would he be now? I turned the page is another chapter so I like to move on.
@grace24 (1050)
• Philippines
15 Feb 09
well it depends in the situation, if both of you accepted the decisions that you made well it is not impossible that you and your ex will become friends. Me and my ex were friends because we value our friendship because we started as friends before we become lovers..
@ronnyb (6117)
• Jamaica
14 Feb 09
I am not sure that would be a good idea .Well we could be on speaking terms but we wont be going out for drinks .I think getting too close again could make the fire rekindle unless that is what you want .I personally feel when you end it you should end it and nver look back.Thank you for your answer
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
14 Feb 09
I believe it is possible to be friends with an ex, even though I am not friends with any of my ex's. After we break up, that is that, I do not want to have anything else to do with them. There was one ex, that continued to try to get in touch with me for over ten years. My husband is friendly with one of his ex's, they call each other and send emails, I do not have a problem with that though. Even though he tries to be friends with his first wife, she does not want to have anything to do with him. My husband was married twice before me.
• Philippines
14 Feb 09
I think it's possible but it will probably take time especially if the breakup was bad. Get some space to allow for everything to heal first and who knows maybe in time you'll see you ex somewhere and then realize that everything is actually okay and you can be friends again.
• Philippines
14 Feb 09
Hi there crywolf! Good day to you, I myself do have a friendly relationship with my ex. But you know it is not like before, we do have communication but we rarely communicate. If it's important then we communicate with each other. Yes, I agree that it depends on how it ended. Maybe, we cannot say some of our ex are still bitter about us. Some of my ex wanted to go back to me, but you know i have a boyfriend and i do love my boyfriend alot. Past is past, Present is Present. What i do mind now is the present and the future. I learned from the past and I also learned from my exs. Yes, I cried for my exs but I learned to be independent and to move on because of them. There are positive and negative qualities about exs that sometimes you just have to thank them for being a part of your life. Now, I am not bitter with my exs and i think that all of them has their own relationship now. I am happy for it. That's life, you just have to go on with life. Happy Valentines.
• United States
14 Feb 09
It depends on how it ends, but usually we end up growing apart anyway. Sometimes I can be friends with an ex for awhile, but eventually it seems to drift away slowly. I think once the relationship is over, whatever held us together is gone. And it's hard to explain a relationship with an ex to a new boyfriend. :D