a girl wants a relation with me...

@delkar (1716)
Romania
February 15, 2009 1:01pm CST
What do you think that i should do? A girl, a classmate let me understand that she wants to be together. She it`s calling me every day, we speak a lot, today we were out, and it was quite fun, but i live with a girl. She knows that i don`t want a long relation with her (this ome witch i livve with in the same house). Even she knows that, she wants to be together. I told her that all i can do it`s to be with her until the summer, but i wish that she will find a boy until then. This girl doesn`t know that i`m living with a girl. I think that i will tell her how it`s all about, and i`ll tell her that i can`t be with her now, but in the future. I want to be with this one, but only when i`ll be ready for a long term relation, because i really wish a long term relation. Please help mw with that.
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• Philippines
16 Feb 09
brother you are playing safe, it is better to tell her the truth that's all.
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@delkar (1716)
• Romania
16 Feb 09
the girl that it`s currently with me, know that we can`t have a long relation. The girl that likes me, knows that i stay with someone else. SO, all it`s ok, until this moment. We`ll see what`s happening.
• United States
16 Feb 09
I'm curious about the new girl she knows that your living with someone but she still after you what type of morals do this girl have she sound like a home recker and she don't respect you or your current relationship. I wouldn't trust her she have a hidden agenda. I asked a couple of people about this and they think this women is crazy and a loose. There is something your current girl friend isn't giving you and she don't know what it is you want and it's up to you to tell her and work on it.
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@delkar (1716)
• Romania
16 Feb 09
well, i said it before, the girl that`s i`m currently living, she knows that in the summer we will not be together anymore. Now we are just good friends we are not having intimal relation animore. We just stay as good friends and slowly we are colder every day. Today i made her an hi5 account and she added some pictures there. I hope that she will pass on easier. I promissed her that she will not see me with any girl until the summer. I explained to the new girl, and we decided that we`ll be just best friends until the summer will come.. then we`ll talk seriously. hope that you understand me soon.
• United States
16 Feb 09
I read your last message and I wish you the best. But sometime we jump into things that we feel is best and turn out that it's not. I have a question for you were you interested in the new girl before she showed any interest in you, or did you start noticing her after she notice you. You look young to me and personnally you shouldn't be living with someone playing house that's a big commitment and should be taken seriously. I have a 22 yr. old son that jumped into a relationship and they live together and they battle at lest once a month and I knew it wouldn't work but they are still hanging in there. I wanted him to take his time play the on the field for awhile meet alot of girls get married at 30 or 35 and make me some grandkids. Relationships isn't easy there are ups and downs in all relationships and you have to deal with the bad as well as the good. I wish you all the best life have to offer.
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@delkar (1716)
• Romania
16 Feb 09
First of all, please read before, were you commented someting .. i answered there . But i must tell you here that i start noticing her after she noticed me. I`m not so young, i have already 21, and when i say that i don`t want any short relations, i say that , because i`m sick of thouse one week relations. I wanna be with serious girls, and maybe in some years, i`ll find the right one for me. I had a lot of girls, and i can say that i already know what to expect from a girl, what she will ask me, what should i do, and more. Now, i know maybe too much, because sometimes, i "read" a girl just if i`m talking with her for just 10 min. I know what type of girl i`m looking, but i can`t find. This new girl, it has something that i wish, but there it`s something that i don`t like. She was with two of my classmates from college. Thouse two, are 2 boys, that i never liked them ,and i`m not the only that thinks like that. This thing will make me think a lot if i really want to be with her or not.
• United States
17 Feb 09
good luck in your search you going to need it.
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• United States
15 Feb 09
I not sure if I understand the problem. How can anyone live with a witch unless this is were you want to be. Do you need to be rescured from the witch and using the other girl to help you,or are you happy with the witch and just like the fact that someone else is showing you some attention. Personnally I couldn't live with someone who I'm unhappy with life is to short for that especially If I found someone that I'm interested in. But breaking up is hard to do when you living with them. One of you will have to move out in order for the new relationship to begin in more than just a freindship. there is a lot of things you would have to consider like the emotional detactment,finances,who take what,and if the new girl want what you want it's alot to thing about.good luck!
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• United States
15 Feb 09
I agree with you, but some people they think differently from us... so if they are happy with what they do then we have to support them, right?
• United States
16 Feb 09
no! Idon't. Some people think their happy because it's a new relationship and both parties is putting up their best behavior. It's when time go by when the true you come out and your relationship is tested and if your truly in love you will work it out. He must have loved her in the beginning in order to move in with her and know things are getting all rough he wants to bail to someone new and it's wrong and I don't support that because it will make him happy. Plus he need to learn what it takes to make a relationship work before jumping into anything else.
@maezee (37229)
• United States
16 Feb 09
If you're not ready for a relationship, just tell her so and that it's not the right time in your life for it.
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@delkar (1716)
• Romania
16 Feb 09
i wish a long term relation, but don`t want such a relation with her. Even this new girl.... it`s hard to imagine that i can have a long term relationship with her.. I don`t think that she`s my soulmate. Too bad , you`re not answering me to the questions in thouse messages i`ve sent you. I just wanted to talk more with you. Anyway, thanks for answering here.
@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
16 Feb 09
"Oh what a tangled web we wieve when first we practice to deceive". This very famous saying is oh so true. If you really want a long term relationship with this girl what is stopping you from doing that right now. You are living with another girl. What feelings do you have for her? Clearly not what they should be and I dare say she may not know that. Are you there because you can be or are you there because you really want to be. There is nothing more alluring to a man than to have a girl seem attracted to him. It can change how he feels about her without him even knowing it. What you must do is make up your mind what you really want both now and in the future and go for it. Be up front with this girl, actually both of them, about where you stand. Truth often will get you where you want to go in the long run where if you do not tell her where you are it is the same as lieing to her. She finds out another way and she will be history. You take a chance of loosing her if you tell her where you are right now. But what have you lost? Her attention sure but how do you really feel about her? If you really are attracted to her tell her and then tell her that you must separate yourself from your current attachment before you can continue a relationship with her. If you do that you stand a much better chance of being with her long term. Honesty is always the best policy. If you show her that you have the integrity to be up front with her now she will know she can trust you to be truthful in the future.
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@delkar (1716)
• Romania
16 Feb 09
well, i said that to the girl that wants to be with me. I told her that i was with a girl, and we live together, but just until the summer. I told her this last night, when i was in Valcea at a walk with her. It was so wonderful, just to talk and walking. She was expecting me to kiss her, and i wished that too, but i didn`t because i knowed that we can`t be right now together. After we went home, i`ve spoken with her, and i told her that i wanna tell her something. I`ve sent her 15 sms, and i`ve told her all. To be honest, she was with 2 classmates of mine, but nothing intim, and that make me thing again. It`s hard for me to accept that. Just for that, i`ll think better before i`ll act in any way. Anyway, i will not be with her until the summer, or maybe never, because she was with thouse classmates. They are the worse classmates ever. Nobody accept them, they are so difficult.
@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
For me, dont take advantage on that girl because of what she feels from you. What you have to do is that make a nice explanations why you don't want to have a long term relationship now. But if you feel that you have feelings for her too, so let your self decide what's really the best for the both of you. But before you do this, just make sure that you will not hurt others feelings.. goodluck my friend..
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@delkar (1716)
• Romania
16 Feb 09
well, i always try to make that. I try to make all happy. i don`t like when someone is suffering after me, it happens sometimes, but i try always to make all to be sweet. I will not be with the new girl , until i`ll know for sure that i`ll love to be with her for a long time. Until summer we will not be together for sure. I promissed this girl, that i`ll not have any other girl, until we`ll go each on his road.
@smileonstar (4012)
• United States
15 Feb 09
Can I ask you something about your living life? Is your current girl friend work or in school like you? What make you want to break up with her ? and why you have to wait until Summer? If you are not happy with the one that you are living with then you dont have to wait until summer to break up. I dont understand why people always find a short term relationship. If you think you two won't get along then dont move in together... Try to find out who is better than who, sometimes new girl friend is never the same like your current one... Good luck
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@delkar (1716)
• Romania
16 Feb 09
well, you just need to know that i`ve spoken with her, and she said it`s ok when i said her that i don`t want anymore a relation with her. She was a little bit mad on me, but now she`s ok. We`ll stay together until the summer, when we`ll move on to another house, but separately. We`ll move then, because until then it`s hard to find another rent fosr such a short term, until summer. There will be just 3 months. Thouse months we`ll stay as friends in the same house, and maybe more, but from then, we`ll take each one his road.. and we`ll be friends. That`s what we established for now.. As about the new girl in my life, she it`s not so new, because she`s my classmate and we know each other since we started the college. She`s cute, and very sensual in all that she is doing. I love this at a girl.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
15 Feb 09
What you have decided is the correct solution. If you are already living with a girl why just let this girl spoil her life and carrier as well? It is not a very rare case, it happens many time even with me similar things had happened. But I adopted your way I told her the bare truth but still she was not ready to accept the truth and one day I took her home and introduced with my wife and after then she understood the reality but we are still good friends.
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• United States
15 Feb 09
I agree with your inclination. Even if you plan on breaking up with your current girl, you have made a commitment to her. Don't begin anything new until you decide and act on your current girl. I know lots of people view living together as non-commital, but I see as a strong commitment to each other, a financial commitment, etc. It shouldn't be broken up lightly.
@izathewzia (5141)
• Philippines
15 Feb 09
If you don't like the girl, tel it to her in a subtle way. But offer friendship if that is the only thing you like. But if you like her, why not give it a try? Who knows she is the one for you.