Do you read the responses on the discussion before you respond?

@TLChimes (4838)
United States
February 15, 2009 3:24pm CST
I usually do. I like seeing what others have to say and what they think. That and some of you folks are down right fun to read. Do you itch to answer what someone else has responded. Do you or do you wait till the original poster has had a chance? What is your personal thoughts on responding to posts?
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@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
16 Feb 09
It depends on the discussion. If someone is asking how to do something, I read the responses to see if anyone already answered the question. If everything I was going to say has already been said, then I move onto another discussion. If part of what I was going to say had already been covered, then I respond with everything else I was going to say that wasn't already covered. And of course, if no one has said anything I was going to say, then I respond as if I hadn't read any of the other responses. However, if the discussion is like this one and is just asking for opinions or personal thoughts on a matter, then I respond without reading the other responses. After I've posted my response, then I go and read some of the responses. But I usually respond first.
@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Good way to do things. That way you get your thoughts out with out being influenced by others. I like the way you responded to this. Thanks.
@o2bnocn (2895)
• United States
15 Feb 09
Sometimes I will read the first two responses, other times I will just respond myself. I rarely respond to other peoples response unless it is a discussion that I have started. I will respond to there response if I find something really interesting or want to answer something myself.
@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
15 Feb 09
Thanks for stopping by to share with us!
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Okay Okay, I'll bite! I don't! I try to atleast skim now because I always have a feeling that I've responded to the discussion, probably because the discussions are mostly months old or I've read the title a million times! I know I'm bad, I need to start reading the responses!
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Lol, I read the rest of your discussion now, and so I'll say : Yes I do try to wait, Yes sometimes I itch to respond, and I think it's better to wait and give the discussion starter a chance to respond, some people don't comment on their responses!
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Honestly? People who don't respond to their own discussions don't really play the game well, or fair. If we ignored them how would they feel? I'm not fond of that way of doing things. People take the time to answer (twice in some cases lol) then they deserve something back even if it's just a thank you. I have skipped an answer of someone who wasn't really answering for any other reason then to get that half a penny, or who is just trying to start trouble. Thank you for both your responses.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I think that is why some people don't respond because they just want to make a discussion and get the money thinking it pays you more, but I think doing discussions and responses pay you more and are just fun altogether!
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@mysdianait (65079)
• Italy
15 Feb 09
Yes always. I get the notifiers in my email and I can't see the responses so it's a long trip to reach the discussion before responding but I've put up with it for so long now that it doesn't matter I read them all and comment on some too, even before the OP has a chance if I am there first. I barge in Then I respond. If we got paid for reading wouldn't that be luverly too!
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
15 Feb 09
I try not to barge in... but sometimes I just have to. Only once have I answered without reading through first and I said so. (A touchy topic that I knew I might get touchy about) Most of the folks on my friends list keep me interested even when they are responding so it's cool to read through them. Besides I might learn something from them. It would be very nice if they paid us for reading. (hint hint)
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@mysdianait (65079)
• Italy
15 Feb 09
I've been doing that 'hint hint,nudge nudge' thing ever since I joined It seems to fall on deaf ears sadly
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Maybe if we nudged with a 2x4 instead of our elbows?
@mummymo (23707)
9 Mar 09
I usually respond to discussions straight from email and don't read before I respond! I like to answer with my views and opinions and then read other peoples responses and maybe even chat with them! xxxx
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Hello My new friend! Very nice to see you. That's how I've gotten now that I've been here a minute. I love to read others after and enjoy the thread. I've gotten to know a few really good people in my time here. You know? The "faces" you love to see show up on your screen as you are going through your discussions. Thanks for stopping in on my older discussion. It's almost gotten a second life!
@mummymo (23707)
9 Mar 09
Glad to drop in chimes! I do agree that it is fun to read through all the responses - I love doing that! I think I may be a bit strange as although I love to see those faces - I also hear their voices (or at least the voices that in my head belong to them! ) Isn't it fun when an older discussion gets a second wind? Hugs xxx
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• United States
16 Feb 09
i respond right from the email notify so it doesnt give you a chance but if i go through the long way to where i can read them all i wouldnt ever be able to answer anyone because it would take too long
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
That's what you get for being popular. Gosh darn it all. But you know, I'm starting to see that the more active you are, the more you can't give it all your attention.
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• United States
16 Feb 09
yeah not if you want to be a good friend.. but even trying to do that i end up still not reading a lot of notifies or not being able to respond to a lot since i have been off here a couple of days or when i am on only on a little while so i still feel like im being a crappy friend lol.. cant win!
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@cream97 (29164)
• United States
15 Feb 09
Usually, I just read the discussion before I respond. I like to know what is being said before I post to responses that are already posted.
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
15 Feb 09
If I see a response that is like what I would have posted I just try to reword it. As the original poster I find like responses harder to answer but then I just try to figure out a way to allow each person to know I appreciate them taking the time to answer. Thanks!
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@cream97 (29164)
• United States
15 Feb 09
That is very nice of you! Cheers![em]happy[/em
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• United States
8 Mar 09
It really depends. Sometimes I just look at the original post so I can formulate my own response and not be influenced by what others have written before me. It's something I'm still working out on Mylot because even though the FAQ's say one shouldn't repeat, I can't help as a writer feel that it is almost unfair and impossible to meet that requirement. There are going to be people who agree on a subject, and that is "repeating" information. There are times though if there are lots of answers already that I will give a quick skim and scan to see what the general tone of the thread is, especially where politics are concerned. If I see that my idea is really on the otherside of the fence, I may tone down what I have to say, and sometimes I just don't respond to that particular thread. Sometimes when I'm reading I find that someone has already stated something I would have said, so I will state that in my response, and then try to find something else that is helpful or unique to that topic. Namaste- Anora
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
8 Mar 09
I think that the only way you can truely repeat what someone else says is to do one of those way too short responces that some folks do just to get the credit. I think you have your own way of writing that sets you apart, and that will keep you from falling into that trap. Thank you for your responce.
• China
16 Feb 09
yes,i always usually do.i read the responses on the discussion before i respond,i see what others say and what they are thinking.but sometime,when i have no enough time for read full responses,i always respond my idea........even i know read full responses is better......happy mylotting and have good day.
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Thank you for responding. Yes, I agree that full responces are better. I hope your day is great.
@madhu_yl (116)
• India
16 Feb 09
Hi TLchimes, Yes I'm read the responses before i respond.because some discussions i don't understand on that time i read others responses,then i understood the discussions.I'm only read two or three responses and i understood how to they respond and i follow their sentence formation also.but I'm write in my way.i don't copy any others responses.because I'm try to improve my sentence formation.
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
You seem to be doing great. I know it's a lot of work. I hope doing this helps you in other areas of your life too. Great work! Thank you for responding.
• Nigeria
16 Feb 09
I seldom do that.
@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Thanks!
@brew2x (3095)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
Sometimes I do but usually I just browse over the responses before posting my own response.
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
With me it all depends on how interested I am in what's being discussed. Thanks!
• United States
16 Feb 09
I usually don't unless it's a topic that I'm really itnerested in. If it's something I know a lot about or something that someone is saying that I agree with, then sometimes I read what other people say to see how everyone else is taking what was said. Sometimes I'll even add things but otherwise I usually don't.
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I really think it is an interest thing. Many of us feel that. Thanks.
@chookie1971 (2275)
• Australia
16 Feb 09
wow. 3 pages of responses to this discussion. I have only read the first page of responses just to see what people are saying. I don't like to repeat a response or I might say "like other people are saying" which means the starter knows I have read responses
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I was a bit surprised at three pages myself. Not bad. I try to get a feel for a really busy thread before answering but don't always make it through all the pages... like when they go over 3 pages.
• United States
16 Feb 09
If it's an opinion based discussion, like this one, I read a few and see what other people think then I post my own response. If it's an informational discussion, like the half a dozen people asking when the Oscars will air or the 100 people asking when the next Harry Potter is to be released, I see if the question has been answered and if it has I move on. If not, I answer it. This is something that really bugs me.... I was crusing through the movies discussions and saw that someone was worried they had missed the Oscars. So I brought it up to see if the question had been answered and it had.... four times. And they weren't even like five or ten minutes apart to where it could be understandable that two people were responding at the same time. There was at least an hour between each response. And the last one!!! The last response on there when I pulled it up was someone saying, six hours after the first response with the answer to the question, that they didn't know and were also hoping that they hadn't missed them...?! How hard was it to read the three responses before yours that all said February 22??? *sigh*
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
If it's been answered and we'll all be saying the same thing, I save my typing for another discussion so we are alike on that one. I also don't do a lot of the this or that discussions unless I add to my answer. If there is only two choices then it's been answered if there is more then a couple answers. I do like a fun discussion. I've seen a few where the responses are more fun then anything I would have added.
• United States
16 Feb 09
I read most all of the responses. Those with just a sentence or two, I find I just skim over. But those that took time to answer, I like to see what they had to say. I can see how different people from different countries see things differently. I get different view points. I learn. I take what I want from the responses and leave the rest behind. I read them before I respond.
@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I state that to all my new friends when I give my thoughts or advice: "This is my opinion, take what you can use and leave the rest. I don't mind if you don't follow what I say as long as you remember to do what's best for you." I'm glad to see a like mind. And yes, that's why I like to read the other responses. That and some just make me laugh. I do get a little less likely to respond if I see that the original poster doesn't make an effort to answer back after a time.
@KrauseHome (36750)
• United States
16 Feb 09
There are a lot of times I will read some of the other responses first just to get an idea how to respond back in there, and sometimes just to make sure I am not repeating other things that have been already said in there as well. But there are times I do not read others responses until after I post back in here as well. Just depends on what I feel is Best as to the new discussion started in here.
@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Sounds like how a lot of us do things. It seems that more of us read through the responses if it really interests us. Thanks!
@dexterous21 (1180)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
I read responses to discussions but not all. I would like to know someone's thoughts.And it's fun to read others opinion, I can learn many things. I also comment on responses if I happen to have interest in.
@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Very true, it is fun and educational to read what others have to say. I've laughed at least once and learned something new, each day I've been here. Thank You!
• India
16 Feb 09
Some times I read all responses. This is to know how other users are giving information. I will try to give additional information if required. I try to give my response with quality. If the topic is interesting i don't read any responses of of others. My personal thought of giving responses is to help or advice user. If all members give their opinion then we can gather lot of information from different users.
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Very, very true... information is wonderful and then we can take what we want from that. I try to add something new to what ever I post. It's a good rule of thumb.
@Nancy312 (283)
• China
16 Feb 09
Generally i read the first page responses,and then give my own response to the discussions.But sometimes if the discussion attracts me very much,i will read it all no matter how many pages of others responses there are.One more situation is that,if the starter response my response,i will find it and read from beginning to the end
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Yes, I can see that. I haven't got a set style down yet but I think I'm settling in on one. I like to see what others say and what was said to them after I posted and got a responce.