When you're old.. who do you want to take care of you?

That's a tough question. I don't want to be a burden to my family but I don't want to live in a nursing home either. I'm not sure what I will do. I hope I don't have to make that choice. My Mom stayed with my sister for quite awhile until she couldn't take care of her anymore and then she had to go to a nursing home. It was hard on everyone. I think I would rather my family take care of me but like I said, I don't want to be a burden on them. Hard decission.

I think that we would all like to remain independent for as long as we can. But, if I have to make a choice between a family member and a hired helper, I'm leaning more toward the hired helper - as long as they are capable of taking care of my needs. I would like to not burden my family. I don't really want my children to have to do things for me that I used to do for them. I don't want our roles to be reversed. I wouldn't mind them opening the door for me and little things like that. But, I don't really want them to have to cook for me every day, clean up after me all the time, give me my meds, etc.. I would rather have my family remember me as the person that I was during my entire life, not the person that they HAD to take care of.

WHEN i'M OLD, i WANT MY FAMILY MEMBERS TO TAKE CARE OF ME. I'VE ALWAYS BEEN GOOD TO MY FAMILY MEMBERS EVERSINCE, I ALWAYS SHOW CONCERN TO THEM IN MANY WAYS SO THAT WHEN I GROW OLDER, THEY WILL DO THE SAME TO ME.