Shadow People...
By TLChimes
@TLChimes (4822)
United States
February 17, 2009 1:12pm CST
Do you have or know someone who has to argue with whatever you say or do? They shadow you to try to do something better. They argue with every point you make even if you aren't discussing it with them. If you both talk to the same person they have to go right against what you've said.
Why do they do that? Why do they have to be better than you? Why do they care enough to follow you around?
What do you do about them. Do you try to ignore them or correct your point either to them or the person you both talked to?
How do you keep from becoming them?
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4 responses
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
17 Feb 09
ugh i hate those people! they are insecure and have to feel like they are better than everyone by being smarter or making the other person look stupid.
i avoid them and make sure that if i am going to have a conversation they will bother than i just wait till they are gone.. if it gets really bad i will tell them off but usually if you just stop having interesting conversations in front of them they try to find some one else to challenge
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
17 Feb 09
yep.. i have in the past gone off on them but i try to just avoid them or figure out how to make them lose interest because there will always be those people around that dont understand why your going off on the shadow people and think your a monster for it! its annoying to try to explain it to them and then they are usually people that never get annoyed so they dont see why you are
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@syankee525 (6249)
• United States
18 Feb 09
oh lord yes.. my sister in law tries to be like my sister, and i know others if you been shot they been shot twice. these people drives me nuts. i would never be like this i hate people like this. they make me want to slap them silly
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Glad I'm not alone!!!!
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I find the best way to deal with these type of people is to totally ignore them. That means to act like they are completely invisible. I have done that and believe me it drives them crazy!! Eventually they give up as they only are trying to bait you and you are taking the pleasure out of the game for them.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
18 Feb 09
Glad to have helped. I have done it and it feels great they get so frustrated LOL!
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@lilnono (228)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I know somebody like that. I think people who act like that just don't know what to do with themselves. They may feel like you don't know how to do certain things right and they are helping you. I think that sort of behavior may be the result of overzealous parenting or just boredom. They may think that being better than you is the only way they can have usefulness in your life. Some people may have grown up in household where arguing was the main form of communication and that's just their way of having a conversation. It really bothers people like that to be ignored. I think it's best to either argue back or just have them do everything so they can make sure it's done right.
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