Bad parenting and disabled people
By cripfemme
@cripfemme (7698)
United States
February 17, 2009 4:43pm CST
First off, let me say that bad parenting of anyone makes me angry. As parents, we have the power to either give our children wings or clip them. However, I feel that bad parenting and disabled people is much more destructive because the universe is not designed to support and accept them. If we train them badly, disabled children will grow up into non-functional disabled adults.
Such is the case with my new friend. His parents never let him try anything because he's visually impaired which in the list of disabilities is not the most severe one in my opinion. He was never allowed to register for the paratransit service which would have given him a way to leave his house without his parents knowing. He's not even allowed to use the phone without someone standing over him (according to him). His mother offered a few years ago to bring him to classes at college after he graduated high school, but then she never brought him so he failed.
I am currently helping him to figure out a way to escape his parent's house and move up here to MA. What do you think? Is it worse to poorly parent someone who has difficulty already than to poorly parent someone who has no pre-designed difficulties?
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
18 Feb 09
That is a HUGE undertaking! Wow. I commend you for wanting to do this for him but it will be a huge undertaking!! and huge responsibility to take on BUT.... it would be a wonderful and fullfilling opportunity to do something on that magnitude because, it's obvious that his parents don't know what to do or how to help him or they'd given him the tools to go further in his life. Another thing, when doing something like this for someone, he could fall in love with you or become really dependant on you so it's something that you may want to really think about before taking on such a responsibility. I don't want to tell you which way to go but to give you some insight of what could happen.
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@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
18 Feb 09
He has an internet girlfriend and our relationship is very clearly defined. If he gets out of line, this chick can handle him. I won't let him become dependent on me. As an advocate and friend, that's so far from my job I can't tell you.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 09
hi cripfemme do you and your new friend know about the braille
institute, as they can help him in a thousand different waysthey have classes and activities they aim to make people with sight problems'
more self sufficent and able to participate and have fun. look in
to it as it will really be good for your friend.
