Hostel life: I am already sure of one thing

India
February 18, 2009 9:23pm CST
This is just the second day of my hostel life and I can already guarantee one thing, that is, the place where women are disrespected the most is a boys hostel. There are so many other things to hate about this place, one being that I have to live away from my family because this hostel exists, but all the talks that you can unwillingly hear while passing someone's door will be most hated one by me, I guess. Their night time stories are all s**ual encounters and how they cheated a girl. I just wish the atmosphere there don't have its color on me.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
19 Feb 09
That's too bad, it sounds like many of the other residents are pretty immature. What they don't realise it that in disrespecting women like that, they're really disrespecting their sisters, mothers and future wives. Are all of the other residents going to the same classes that you are? Hopefully you have others to make friendships with. Just remember: To thine own self be true.
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• India
20 Feb 09
None of them are from my class....let see whether I can have a friend or two there.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I sure hope so, you'd probably feel more comfortable with some one you have more in common with. Some of the guys in the hostel sound like they have a lot of growing up to do.
19 Feb 09
Hi coolmailraj, Well that is the way of the world today, I'm sorry to say but you just have to ignore all this and get on with what ever you are doing, don't let them put you off, you are not the same as them and its their problems not yours and I don't think girls respect them too. Tamara
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• India
20 Feb 09
That is what I am trying to do, just focus on my job. So do you mean that girls too talk in the same language in their dormitories?
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20 Feb 09
Hi coolmailraj, No, I don't mean that girls are the same, I mean girls don't respect boys who talk like that about them, girls are more respectable, well some of them. Tamara
@dvrtmcc (176)
• Eritrea
19 Feb 09
Well infact some people enjoy living that hostel life. But I think it is just a bad day and not really bad hostel life.
• India
20 Feb 09
It will be very much okay if it is was just a matter of a few bad days.
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@savypat (20245)
• United States
19 Feb 09
In life we have to go through many unpleasant experiences, just look for the lessons to be learned. If you get your mind set on that you will find some interesting things and overlook most of the unpleasant parts.
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• India
20 Feb 09
Hi. I'll try that one too. Thanks for the suggestion.
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@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
19 Feb 09
I feel so bad for you that you hate where you are staying. When you mentioned that you were staying in a hostel in a previous discussion I related to the fun times I had when I lived in one while I was travelling. I am now aware that you are not having a great time at all; I'm sorry, I hope your stay there won't be too long. I am impressed that you are appalled by all the "boy talk" in there. It shows that you must be a very decent young man. It must be tough, ignore the guys talking and be glad you are not like them, hang in there and I hope you can live elsewhere soon.
• India
20 Feb 09
Fingers crossed on whatever you wish. Thanks for first of all calling me a decent person and secondly for the concern.
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@AmbiePam (51159)
• United States
19 Feb 09
It doesn't sound like a good place at all. I don't envy you, but I hope things get better.
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• India
20 Feb 09
I too hope the same and there is absolutely nothing to be envy about in it.
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@andiel (117)
• Malaysia
19 Feb 09
Well, i've been through this experience and, yeah boys will always talks about girls and things associated with girls. My advice is to you is that, 1st of all it's ok being part with your family - it's a way to experience having to started to live on your own. It's also a way to self-discipline yourself, learn to make self-judgement and seek your own path and destination. 2nd of all, you cannot avoid this stuff. Its everyway - even in workplace you can hear men talks about ladys and how they make love with them (Believe me - sometimes it's worse than hostel life!). All you got to do is be an open-minded, if you can ignore them, then ignore them. If not, try to understand these boys (Although sometimes i find that boys always talking. I think you'll find a good, suitable friends in hostel, and after a while i believe you will see hostel life in a different way. Good luck to you.
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• India
20 Feb 09
Hi. I agree with you on all most everything you said. I'll try to follow the two points, thanks for the suggestions.
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• United States
19 Feb 09
hi coolmairaj...that would be very miserable for most females. wish there were a nicer place for you to stay. hope you don't have to stay too long. try to think of better things. try to keep your mind occupied with good thoughts. find things of interest and fascination to occupy your mind with. i'll pray for you. best wishes.
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• India
20 Feb 09
Hi. I am very much trying what you have said. Focusing on good things. Thanks for your concern.
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@suzzy3 (8352)
20 Feb 09
Sounds like a hell of a place to live.you don't say why you ended up there,did you fall out with parents,in which case make up quick and say sorry even if you are not the one in the wrong,or maybe you are at school and cannot get home everynight.Young men have a vivid imagination and make a lot up, to make them look more of a man,big mistake,buy ear plugs and a good book,choose your friends wisely and don't take to much notice of all the bragging, and stay away,you don't want to catch something nasty,and more fool the girls for going back with them to the hostel rooms they don't have to,even if you listened in at the girls hostel it won't be much different I suppose.
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• India
21 Feb 09
I am here for a course on IBM mainframes..and I'll try to do what you have said...thanks for the suggestions.
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@suzzy3 (8352)
22 Feb 09
Take care will be thinking about you.xx
@izhuce13 (160)
• China
20 Feb 09
now, so many young people like to have their night outside----in the hostle, maybe it is not the boy cheat the girl, the girl herself is willing to have such a night.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
19 Feb 09
I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time about all this.
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
20 Feb 09
If a person has self-control and is determined that he will not spoil his/her character, no one can make him/her like that. You can have other activities like computing, reading books etc which will keep u busy and at the same time you can attract other boys to such activities, encourage them for online earning etc, that will help u change the atmosphere there. Good Luck !!
• India
21 Feb 09
I guess there is no way I can attract people there to online earning but what I can do it try not to be one of them ... thanks for your response
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