Get married or Live in Partner

Philippines
February 19, 2009 3:25am CST
I would just like to ask you guys ang gals. Which do you prefer to get married with the one you love or get yourselves involved in a Live-in situation. I'm a catholic so i would prefer to the sacrament of marriage
6 responses
• United States
17 Apr 09
My husband and I are not married by law and it will never be that way. We dont believe in the legal marriage because we want to marry each other not the government. We are married in the eyes of GOD and that is all that matters to us. I dont need a piece of paper I can make on the computer and pay 200 dollars for, and still have the same life we do now. I am very happy with the life I have and I dont need a piece of paper to say otherwise.
@SexyEve (29)
• Philippines
21 Feb 09
I think its better if you'll know each other better first before you get married.Some couples even if they've been together for quite sometime maybe 10-20yrs something still gets separated. They say that you will only see the real kind of person your partner is when you live together.Some couples they try to "Live-in" just to test if they are really compatible. Some they chose living in rather than getting married because its easier to get out of the relationship-"No strings attached".Once they get married, they have to go through the painful separation through annulment or divorce.that's why some couples are scared of commitments.It doesn't matter what religion you have because its not the religion or your priest or pastor who will experience whatever will happen in your relationship its you.so you need to decide what is best for you and your relationship.Goodluck and God bless!!!
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
Every relation has its own advantages and disadvantages. Even if you are married or just living together, the final verdict depends on the strength of the relation and understanding between the partners. Marriage is a legal approval to live together by the law and the society, but if you are not happy with your partner or you are not able to understand each other, then marriage or cohabitation does not matter. Every relations has its own advantages and disadvantages, but the success or the strength of the relation depends on mutual understanding, sacrifice by both the partners. I stress on both because, I have seen many relation where sacrifice or understanding is seen in only one partner who takes the responsibility to keep the relation live. Such relations in my opinion will have the chance of breaking up any moment when the sacrificing partner feels, Enough is enough. Live In relation could be result of situations where marriage is not an option.
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
For me I prefer living together first before getting married. I am also a catholic but my preference when it comes to questions regarding love and marriage is not affected by my beliefs and what the church says. Although many people will consider living together as against catholic commandments or stands, I still consider the deeper reason why I chose and prefer my answer. First of all if you live together with your partner to be there is greater chances of knowing him or her deeper. It is by living together where you can discover real attitudes of your partner because you stay at the same roof. Second it is by living together that in case you have major arguments, separation is easier. I am not encouraging that of course. I am pro-settlement or compromise but since we are all aware that divorce is a long and complicated process, then not having the "tie" between parties entitles them to easier way for separation. Third it is by living together where you can prepare for married life if in case you are really compatible with your partner and you are only waiting for the right time to settle down. And lastly it is by living together where you can always build a better foundation for your relationship since you no longer need to adjust in living on the same roof. Unlike when you have never had the chance to be together then you need to adjust more and the tendency is that your mood and attitude will be affected by the big change in your life. I'm saying this all because this is what happened to be and my husband. We lived together first before we get married and he became even more responsible now that we have a baby boy. I'm not closing though the fact that some relationships who have not undergone live-in survive after getting married but I think those are very rare. Maybe one in a thousand couple. Have a happy and patient mylotting day to all!
• United States
19 Feb 09
I know you are probably very amped to get married first and then move in together, but I will say to you that many marriages fail because of this. You do not fully know someone until you live with them. Each little aspect of their life that you know now, could be totally different once you move in together.
@okoyskabo (186)
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
ones religion greatly affects your choice of living arrangement. i am also a catholic so i prefer to get married first before living with your partner. but sometimes, i can say that it would also be better to try live-in situation first before tying the knot considering the many cases of divorce anywhere.