Your Ex Is Looking For You!

United States
February 19, 2009 10:53am CST
I just got a notice from some people finder site, saying my ex was looking for me. Of course I immediately deleted it. Those sites send you messages like that, then when/if you go to see who it was, you sign up, only to find out it was a ploy to get you to sign up with them. Pfffffttttttt! But, after I trashed the e-mail, I was just sitting here thinking, Which of my ex's would I even want to get back in touch with? I very quickly came to the conclusion that it would be NONE of them. I could not think of one single ex that I have any interest in. My life is good, not perfect, but it is very good, and I have no desire to even wonder what might have been. So, if you knew that an ex was looking for you, would you want him/her to find you? Would you meet up with them, just to see what they may have made of their lives? Or, would you just go on about your life, not caring one way or the other?
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25 responses
• Regina, Saskatchewan
19 Feb 09
The only ex I ever think about is my first hubs, and I WANT him to find me. I need to tear a strip off him for the way he's treating our sons. So if you find him, direct him my way. I'm in a pissy mood today and he's my target of choice! ROFL
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• United States
19 Feb 09
If I run across him somewhere, I will be sure to send him your way, Sparks!
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
19 Feb 09
I hope you find him soon. My pissy mood won't last forever and he REALLY needs to be on the receiving end of it! ROFL
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
19 Feb 09
I have no desire, not even an INKLING of want, to get in touch with my past in this way. Any email like the one you received would be binned immediately and my life would go on in blissful ignorance! They have the word "EX" in front of their title for a reason! If there was any chance or desire on my part to remain friends with anyone from my past, then I would have stayed in touch with them in the first place and they wouldn't NEED to be trying to locate me!
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• United States
19 Feb 09
Good point, Monkey Man*S*
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@dawnald (84226)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Feb 09
Great point!
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@dawnald (84226)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Feb 09
I have one ex who found me on e-mail and we conversed a little about how our lives were and stuff like that. But I have no real interest in meeting up and certainly not anything further than that...
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• United States
19 Feb 09
I think the only way I would even talk to any of mine would be if I accidentally ran into one somewhere.......and that is assuming I would even recognize them in the first place.
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@dawnald (84226)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Feb 09
This one found out I had twins and ever so kindly wished me the kind of sleepless nights that he had had when his daughter was a baby. Nice fellow. :-)
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• Lubbock, Texas
19 Feb 09
I'd run and hide, sign up for witness protection program, change my name, anything to keep an ex from finding me. They're ex's for a reason.
• United States
19 Feb 09
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
19 Feb 09
I'm always getting emails that someone is looking for me! That's just spam of course. No, if one of my ex's was looking for me I wouldn't care. I've made my peace with them and I'm very happy with my husband.
• United States
19 Feb 09
Yeah, that is how I feel about it too.*S*
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1 Mar 09
I just got one of these emails myself , from a site called mylife.com. I also deleted it. Was that the site you got it from?
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• United States
1 Mar 09
I think so. I have gotten several, from different people finder sites.
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@savak03 (6692)
• United States
21 Feb 09
Absolutely not. If he wasn't worth staying with why would I want to see him again. For that matter why would he want to look me up. Like you said these types of emails are just ploys to get our money.
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• United States
1 Mar 09
Yeah, when I see them in my in box, I automatically send them to the trash.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
21 Feb 09
Hi Bo, Those people finders are a farce as far as I'm concerned. They try and get your attention by saying things like ex or a man orsomething they think we can't resist. As far as ex's I know what my first ex is doing and where he is. He is being a good Father to our 28 year old Son who is Bipolar and needs his Dad. My second husband passed away in 2002. I hope he's watching over me. That's it when it comes to ex's. So, Bo, how many do you have? xoxoxo leenie
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• United States
21 Feb 09
No ex husbands, only ex boyfriends. I have been married for 31 years. But, if you want to know about those, 5. And, I have no idea where any of them are, or what they have done with their lives. I don't even know if I would know any of them if I ran into them on the street.*L* Better, yet, it wouldn't matter because I don't think any of them would recognize me!
@Opal26 (17684)
• United States
20 Feb 09
Hey bo! I feel the same way as you do! I would have had to delete! I have no X's that I would even want to know about! They are X's for a good reason! I am not even the slightest bit curious about any of them! So not matter even if it was true I would still delete and never care about looking back or wondering for a minute!
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• United States
20 Feb 09
I will admit, there were times in the past, that I wondered what I had given up with one or two. But, I quickly realized that I would never have had what I have now with any of them. That was a long time ago, and as I said before, my life is good, and that is the way I want to keep it.
@Ratris (79)
• Indonesia
19 Feb 09
For me when I enggaged or married with someone.. I 'll never see the past. I'll never see all ex again. Cause their exist will make some uncomfortable between me and husband. At now, husband ex wanna met my husband. But my husband never care and never wanna meet with her again. Let husband ex on her way.. without come to us again. Seem extremely but I think this is the best we can do.
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• United States
20 Feb 09
You are right. Most of the time, the past needs to stay in the past.
• United States
19 Feb 09
Its a spam, I immediately delete it as soon as i see it, how can your ex be looking for you, if they know where you live, your number, etc...
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• United States
19 Feb 09
I KNOW it's spam! I think I even said that in the discussion starter. It just made me think about the subject, that's all.
• United States
19 Feb 09
Well I for one feel X's are X's for a reason, I would consider why we broke up and then go from there. because 9 times out of 10 people who break up on good terms usually continue to be good friends on the other had some end in bad terms and don't want anything to do with the other person. I had an incident with an X not to long ago I just recently got married and he decided after I got married that I was the only one for him LOL.. Go figure. and he tried his best to contact me through myspace and what not to just meet and talk... and I thought to myself WHY, talk about what... even ifs its just to see how lif is going. there was no way I was going to disrespect my husband and his trust for a man that I now call X... so he got mad and never contacted me again.. and then I remembered why we broke up before LOL... I wouldn't do it..
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• United States
19 Feb 09
There's a reason they're called ex's seems to be the consensus here, and I have to agree.
• United States
22 Jun 09
pft..my ex does that,and some boys in blue will want to be talking to him.no contacts are a good thing LOL i would go about my life.i really don't have an ex i'd want to talk to again. i already saw what happened to one,and it wasn't a pretty thing.. 10 kids..glad it wasn't me
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@littleowl (7157)
15 Mar 09
Hi bo, I did have an ex who did find me come hell or high water he did it twice and in the end I got an injunction against him that didn't work in the end we worked things out and he went..even now though because I know the family he stll telephones me still I can put up with that as most of the time I put the phone down on him!!...hugs littleowl
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• United Arab Emirates
9 Mar 09
Well sometimes I feel I really want my ex to see me. Just for him to know how happy I am with my husband now. But sometimes I feel that I'll puke if I ever seen him again. I don't want to see someone made me feel miserable all my time staying with him. And there are other times that I just don't feel anything, see him, not seeing him, all are the same. I don't know what you call this but the more important thing to me is that I know that I'm happy now and I just wish nothing bad happens and interrupt this happiness.
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@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
20 Feb 09
[i]I will not be interested anymore! LOL! I will feel better if there will be no communication! I haven't tried receiving any email like that but if ever I will, now I know that it's a scam! LOL![/i]
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@Shar19 (8235)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I get those emails all of the time. They're hoping to get some gullible person to join their site. If an ex was looking for me I wouldn't want them to find me. There is a reason why they are an ex and they should stay in the past.
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@ElicBxn (61191)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I am in touch with the only ex I would want to be, and he's happily married, we're just email friends
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@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
If I still have feelings for that certain ex then I would make an effort to meet with him again, but only if i still am interested and our break-up was not caused by any third party or something too extreme. But, I am also happy with my life and with a new partner so i will not make an effort to meet any ex anyway! Hehe! -cherry
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@xParanoiax (6997)
• United States
20 Feb 09
If I knew for sure, I'd see if I could contact them and ask...politely, why they needed to find me. If it was because they just wanted to, depending on who it was, I'd probably feel skeptical. I loved these people, some of them I'll always love...so I'd feel just a slight obligation to see if they were in some sort of trouble. Anything else I can't really say...I'd just have to take it all one step at a time, make decisions based on whatever information I'd find out.
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