Importance of a father in your daughter's life

United States
February 19, 2009 5:07pm CST
Do you moms out there realize the importance of having a father in your daughter's life? Think about your own relationship with your dad and how it influenced your choices in the men you dated and married.
6 responses
@misskyla (40)
• United States
20 Feb 09
My daughters are 18 & 16 and I wish their father had disappeared. I think he did more damage hanging around or half hanging around than if he had just taken off. That's just my take on it.
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• United States
20 Feb 09
unfortunately you might be right. maybe some counseling or a positive male influence in their lives might counteract the damage.
@1gidget (152)
• United States
22 Feb 09
That's unfortunate. It makes me appreciate my dad more, even though he wasn't perfect. I agreed it would be best to not have a dad if he was terrible. Hopefully, you have a good dad yourself or a brother or something.
@1gidget (152)
• United States
22 Feb 09
The importance of having a father is obviously huge, but I don't know if the influece regarding picking a husband/boyfriend is that big. I know my dad has never liked any guy I've been with and a don't remember caring to much or trying to please him by finding someone like him or someone he would like--if that makes sense? It's funny though, almost all of the boyfriends I've had have been about 20 years old than me, so I guess you could say something about that--how it relates to an influence my dad had on me. Though I'm not so sure there is much of a link.
• United States
25 Feb 09
I think your relationship with your dad when you were growing up helps to define who you are as a person and how you feel about yourself.
• China
20 Feb 09
me too,grew up without having my father around,he passed away when i was 9,I think for girl,father has a bigger impact than mom,i don't know it if he gonna have some influence on me of choosing my future husband,but i know He's gonna have its influence on me in every way.
• United States
25 Feb 09
just don't look at a future husband as a father substitute, hopefully his memory is strong and you are confident in yourself.
@ellen_mom (174)
• United States
20 Feb 09
My relationship with my dad was rocky at best. He divorced my mom when I was 7 and remarried the day after the divorce was final. His new wife was insane, she made me wash my hair every time I came over before I could sit on her furniture. Needless to say, my visits became fewer and farther apart. My step-father was a violent man, he never hit any people, but he broke the TV remote three times by throwing it at the wall. My first serious relationship after college was with a man who had a terrible temper, luckily I wisened up. My current husband yells, but never gets violent. He is pretty awesome, and our girls adore him. I am lucky to have him in my life, and I am glad he is in their life.
• United States
25 Feb 09
sounds like you had some rough influences but you got it right. good for you.
@Galena (9120)
19 Feb 09
for most of my childhood my father wasn't there. I was raised by a Single Mother. I am due to be married to a man I love with every fibre of my being. in all honesty, I don't believe that it is important to have the influence of two parents. just one parent who is devoted to you. that's all you need.
• United States
25 Feb 09
your mom did an excellent job because obviously you are very secure in who you are. I'm sure you know how lucky you are!
@Mickie30 (2631)
19 Feb 09
I think having a father is very important I had a father, but he was working more often than not. My own husband is a brilliant father and loves our little gir; to bits. I have a serious illness, but my husband helps me every day. My little girl has both of us at home and she is a happy and secure little girl. Others situations are different though.