Do you beleive a relationship should be based on love?

United Arab Emirates
February 21, 2009 1:49pm CST
Ok so I was wondering what do you people think of relationships, or lets say what relationships should be based on. Is it that a relationship should be based on love only disregarding all other facts? Or do you believe a relationship should be based on "suitability"? In my opinion finding the "right" partner is better than finding "the one". We may be in love but our circumstances won't let us keep it and if we decide to still keep it we'll have to sacrifice other things like reationships with family. But if you are looking to settle down, what would you choose? Love or Suitability? I personally would go for suitability, cuz this way you'll have less arguments, you'll face less challenges, you won't need to break your relationships with close ones, and you'll be suitable for each other in many other ways. When we are in love we a blind and dont see many things. But it's just my opinion, and actually I'm married to person different from me very much. I'm not being racist, I'm not stereotyping, I'm not prejudcing. I'm myslef married to a man of race other than mine, from different culture, with traditions different from mine, and we are facing many challenges, like many others of similar marriages, and the problems like others from similar marriages. I don't mean to disgrade anyone though. I also aknowledge that even in the so called perfect relationships there are problems. I just want opinions.
1 response
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
21 Feb 09
hi according to me all relationship starts with some basic beliefs and mutual trusts apart from the blood related ones...so if you have faith in him and you really trust him then you shouldn't bother about anything else...i can understand that you are no racist...but am thinking that you are just worrried about the racist comments that you might be getting from the communities...so don't worry about that. soon things will be okay...just be strong. love binds them closer... faith makes them stronger...trust makes it all happen... am wishing you all the luck...
• United Arab Emirates
21 Feb 09
I like it the way ou put it: "Love starts with basic beleifs and mutual trusts.." But you when people blindly fall in love? Or think they are? Ther love you are talking about is true love, but many experience "lust". Do you agree?
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
21 Feb 09
i won't say its lost...because lost to me is something more serious where people do not really hesitate to make some crime for their partner...well in young age people do have something called infatuation which mistakenly called as love by them...mate i do believe love is something pure which comes from the heart...