do you take your kids to see the grandparnets and do you call them

United States
February 22, 2009 8:48am CST
ok here it is, when my kids were young we always took them to see thier grandparnets on the weekend or through the week. and we always reply to them as grandma and grandpa as they grew up but i've been seeing where like my son dont bring our grandsons over for us to see what have to go over there to see them, or if we're having a family get together at my in law's. and i also never heard him or my daughter in law once tell the boys want to go to grandma or grandpa to me or my wife. the only who does are other family memmbers or my daughter in law grandma or her mom so do you take the kids to your parnets house or have them come to your place ? and do you tell the kids no matter how young they are want to see grandma or grandpa?
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22 responses
• United States
22 Feb 09
tough question. we take our 2 kids over to my parents, but it seems to be only when it can inconvenience to us. grandparents are getting younger and younger these days. they still have so much they want to do, so they just want them during the weekdays, or just a couple of hours on the weekend. so alot of times we just take the kids with us instead of having to come back and get them in a few hours. or they just want one of them, so we still can't do anything when they do "help out" with the children. maybe they'll come around. and when they do, just remember that they are looking for a break from the children.
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@lampar (7591)
• United States
28 Feb 09
If my children and my parent are sharing close relationship, and very much looking forward to visit my parent home, then i will do that often to make them happy. If they are somehow tell me they don't like to go there, then i will not take them over and wait for my parent make the move to come over my place. I let my children decide on that.
@tjsally (287)
• China
27 Feb 09
My parents in law are very kind persons. They love my son, love my husbund and me. When my son in little age, they help me to care of him when I go to work. They always help us not strive for any repayments. We often take my son to go to his grandma's home, and often invite them to my home. We stay together very harmoniously. I think old person need to respect,and child need to cherish. Such atmosphere is harmoniously.
@tea512 (687)
• United States
24 Feb 09
our situation is we only have grandmothers for our little guys on of them is in thier 70's the other late 60's. We do not see them as much as we should just ask them tell you. I only have to call for me to hear it, but we do visit as I do not like them driving. We do pick them up once and a while and have them over but most of the time we visit.
@bombshell (11265)
• Germany
23 Feb 09
yes we do that every weekend.if not calling we visited them and we ordered our favorite cake when we visit them i think there is nothing wrong with it to visit the grandparents
• United States
23 Feb 09
I sure know this! When I was a kid it was fun to go to Grand-mas house and Grand-Pas house. But now that I am a Grand-ma, I rarely get to see my grand kids. But of course it would be easier if they lived in the same town. But when my son did live in the same town as me, he would rarely bring his new little baby to see me. I swear I had to beg him to see my grandson. lol I think it is easier to see your Daughters kids than it is to see your Sons kids. My daughter lives in Ala. so it makes it tough for me to see my grand daughter. But I get lots of phone calls and pictures to tide me over till they come for a visit. I tell them how I loved seeing my grand parents when they were alive and to always try to keep the family together. Where else will they learn there family history from then the grandparents. lol
@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
23 Feb 09
My kids grew up seeing their grandparents all the time. Now that they are older, they still see my mom alot, but not my inlaws, but it is my inlaws choice as they now go to Florida for 6 months out of the year and when they are here, they never are around for us to see them. My son is going to be a daddy and he had better bring my grandbaby over to see me. If not, I'll stop by and visit them.
@getnbuy (1314)
• United States
23 Feb 09
It is the same with us. If we want to see our grandchildren we have to go there. Our children live in another state and travelling is getting more difficult. I have not seen my grandchildren for 1 year and 3 months. I cry about it, I miss them so much. I think adult children have been spoiled and expect to have everything handed to them- including us!
@iriscot (1290)
• United States
23 Feb 09
Speaking as a grandparent, we appreciate the fact that our grandkids get to visit us. Grandma makes cookies (chocolate chip) and the kids love them. She even lets them help make cookies (the girls are 5 and 6), we play cards (go fish and old maid) with them and our grandsons make all kinds of things (they are 10 and 11) out of leggos and they play games on the computer. We've always had a large toy box. So they love to come to our house and stay overnight while their parents have a "night on the town". We are lucky to have great grandkids.
@im_anna (718)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
yes, we go to my parents & my husband's parents alternately. Although not every week since we can only go on sundays. We have to work all week and spend time helping my daughter to study on the weekends. I just wish we have more time with them.
@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
23 Feb 09
When we were little, my grandparents lived out of state - about a 4 hour drive. We only saw them every couple months or so and it was only for a few days. I did write to my mother's mother all the time though, but not to my fathers mother - not sure why??? When my kids were little, we lived about 10 minutes from my mom and saw her all the time. She rarely came over, but we'd go over there a couple times a month or so, depending on our schedules. When I got divorced, we lived with her. Our father lived in another state - about a 2-3 hour drive so we only saw him every few months. I don't have grandchildren yet, but my sister does and they live about an hour away. I don't know how often they come up here to visit or she goes down to visit. But I do think it's a 2-way street, you should be going there and they should be coming to you. It's important to know your family members.
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
I always do!
• India
23 Feb 09
Its quite sad to hear that your son no longer encourages his children to visit you…he doesn’t know but he is doing a tremendous disservice to them. he is depriving them of one of the best joys of childhood…i.e. the love and indulgence of a grandparent. What he is doing is entirely wrong and he has no right to prevent his children from wanting to know their grandparents better. When my son was small, I would always allow my dad to come and take him away for the weekends. He would spend the entire weekend with them.
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
23 Feb 09
My kids call my husbands mom and dad, Nana and Papa. My mother they call Grandma. We have instilled this in them and that's how they speak to them. With my children seeing my mom, it's hard because she's 1100 miles from us so its one a year type thing. My husband parents live about 10 miles from us, and this is a pretty hot topic in my household because I have alot of hurt feelings over it. I have stressed many times that my kids want to spend time with Nana and Papa, but they only seem to want them when we have something going on, and want to stir up trouble so they can say " You never let me see my grandchildren". My son has cried and pleaded with his Nana to come spend time with him, but she always has something else going on, or will tell him she's too busy. He's hurt by it. She used to get him all the time, come around and want that time with him, and did clear up until our daughter was born. She wanted a little girl for many years, and when the time come that she got it, she has very little to do with our daughter. It's a sad thing because when my kids get older and can see how they were treated they won't want to around their grandparents, and I will stand behind their choices. I honestly am hurt and my heart goes out to my children when they want to spend time and their grandparents can't find the time, or when they do find the time, it's only for just a few minutes, only to hurt the children by saying ok well it was nice seeing you see you later and don't come back around for a few weeks. Ok, I'm rambled enough... I do feel for you, your's is opposite of what is happening with my kids, you want the time and your children won't make time for you to see your grandkids... It's sad either way we look at it.
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
23 Feb 09
I don't have my family yet. But when I was young, I spent a large amount of time with my grandparents. My father took us to them at weekends and my sister and I spent almost the whole summer and winter holiday at their house. It's kind of fun and I enjoy being there. I suppose while I have my own kids, I will bring them to my parents regularly as long as I can make it, because I know base on my experience that my parents would be really happy to meet their grandsons or granddaughters just as my grandparents did.
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
i was brought up the same way, we regularly went to our grandparents' house on the weekends or after church. so now that i have my own kid, my hubby and i see to it that my boy would get to see his grandparents regularly. my parents are abroad so we go to my hubby's parents' house every weekends. even if at times i don't feel like going there, i would just tell my hubby to take the kid to his grannies.
• United States
22 Feb 09
Well I know that when my kids were small, they were closer to my parents vs his parents. In part that is because my parents made the effort, with my son being the first grandchild on my side. We alternated holidays, but his parents didnt make the effort to be involved in their lives, till this day my kids are 27 and 24, his family doesnt have much to do with my kids. My son has a baby 5 mos old, I make sure to see him once a week. It seems that most of the time, the son's leave the family and the wifes family is the ones they are closer to. I am making a difference and keeping myself involved with my family. I have a close relationship with my daughterinlaw, and being close to the baby is my choice. Grandkids are so special, you need make an effort to be in their lives, we are all busy with life, and the kids get overwhelmed at times
@SHAMRACK (8521)
• India
22 Feb 09
Dear friend, When I was kid I was usually taken to my grandparents home and it was nice enjoyable time for me at that time. But for my kid I have to get a court order to take my 2 year daughter as I am departed. But I do have few times taken my baby to my grandparents with the permission from court. I hope spending time with grandparents are really gives a big part of keeping good value to relationships, love and affection.
• United States
22 Feb 09
Well my parents work, and they get to see my kids usually once a week, whether we go over there or they come by and pick up my son...they dont take my daughter yet as they want to give my son some one on one time with them... and my MIL will come over every weekend.. we would probably go over there but since I had the baby and everything here, she just prefers to get out of the house and come to visit us. thats pretty much how it is for us... happy mylotting.
@JenInTN (27547)
• United States
22 Feb 09
My situation is a little different than yours as I have not been around my family in years. I do still however refer to my parents as grandma and grandpa in the pictures I have of them when we are going through old albums. I don't have many but the ones I do my children love to go through. If I had had my children and still been in contact with my family..I certainly would have taken them for visits. I'm kind of on the oppisite side of the fence because my parents really didn't care to see me much less my children. I hope you express this concern to your son and let him know it's important to you to spend time and be a grandpa to the children.