February 22, 2009 10:38am CST
do u think dat love depends upon the amount of time spent together wid each other??? or it merely depends uopn da value and respect for each other??
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23 Feb 09
A little bit of both. A relationship needs three things: communication, honesty, and effort. It takes time to communicate. There are certain things you really should talk to your lover about. Obviously, if you never even talk to them, I wouldn't even consider that a serious relationship. But effort and honesty comes out of a value and respect for each other. You NEED to be with someone you value. You wouldn't just pick ANYBODY to date, would you? They need to be important to you. And respect is CRUCIAL. Don't go saying things behind your steady's back, or being rude to them. That is NOT the point of dating. Yes, it is possible to spend too much time with your significant other. Spending time with them is not exactly what dating is about, either. Love is an internal feeling. Yes, it will grow by spending time with them, but these needs to be quality time. If you waste time with this person, or do things that don't really matter or help you grow with them, that's when you might start getting bored with them - hence the "spending too much time". It's all about what you do WITH that time, and that does depend on valuing, respecting, needing & wanting, and caring for that person. Hope that helped :)
22 Feb 09
I think it's everything. Obviously if you get married to a person that you've known for a week seems silly, but if you truly know that person and you truly love that person with all of your heart then it doesn't seem so silly. So it's everything I think. What do you think? :)