If you could go back in time and talk to yourself as a teenager,

@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
United States
February 25, 2009 5:26am CST
What advice would you give to yourself? And if a teen agers what would you wanna go back to change about your early teen life? If I could go back and talk to myself as a teen I would tell my self to focus more on school then boys, get good grades and not to grow up to fast to be a kid still for as long as I could be. I would tell my self to hold off on marriage until I gotten a good education and lived a little. What advice would you give to yourself? Or do you have what you wanted and wouldn't change a thing? What age would you choose to go back to? I would have ot say 13 years old.
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Be smart with who you hang out with, who you believe. get serious about school. don't smoke. Don't put up with anyones crap.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Great advice. Thanks for the response.
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@MsTickle (25051)
• Australia
28 Feb 09
Short and to the point and very good advice. I'm going to write this somewhere and keep it to show my granddaughters. Well done Polly m'dear.
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
28 Feb 09
Thanks MsTickle
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
Hi mtdewgurl74! Oh, I would be advising myself the exact opposite. haha..I have always been focused in school and although I have a well balanced social and school life, I never dared to have any relationship with boys when I was a teenager. The first relationship I had was when I was 2 months short of being 20. LOL! I was scared then to have any commitment with boys even if there have been handsome and intelligent suitors who were courting me that time. So, if I can go back in time, I will tell myself that it is right to fall in love as long as I know my limitations. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Thanks for the response I appreciate it, Well, you put schooling first that is good in some instances. I wish that I had that type of focus.Have a good day.
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• United States
15 May 09
I would ground me!
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
15 May 09
Surely not! You couldn't have been that bad..lol
• United States
15 May 09
heheh *snickers* wanna bet????
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
27 May 09
My mind is reeling trying to think of stuff..lol I bet you were fun to hang out with though..
• United States
19 Apr 09
It's ironic that I ran into this discussion. I was asking myself this same question awhile back, If I could go back in time and give myself advice. what would I tell myself as a teen? Well first would be not to fear life,take more chances and don't listen to most of my family because they are mostly idiots..LOL.. I use to value my family when I was younger and I wished I didn't as much because they were very self absorbed and negative towards me about everything I had hopes and dreams about, not very supporting about anything. I didn't learn until my 20's that I didn't need anyone's approval not even my family's .
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
19 Apr 09
Sometimes parents think they do and say things at the best interest of the child because they don't want them to get hurt but then it really doesn't help them as much as they think. Maybe some of those dreams can still become a reality and thanks for the response I appreciate it alot.
• United States
19 Apr 09
It wasn't my parents as such, mostly my older brother's and sisters. They were much older then me and never were the brotherly or sisterly type, more like I was their slave and if I didn't do what they wanted I would get my butt kicked, that's probably why I was very mean for years..LOL. Parents were never around , always working. I'm 39 years old now and have done more things with my life then both of my Parents have combined. And even my dad has mentioned to me that I did better then he ever expected. Such a nice thing he said!
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
19 Apr 09
Those words sometimes makes it worth the troubles we had..I know about the sibling thing having 6 older sibling and two younger ones who also bosses me around still to this day and I am 34 years old. I am the one who has a softy spot for them and they know I love them and so they boss me around and I usually most times end up doing it..ahhh the things we do for those we love.
@wildcat48 (779)
• United States
1 Mar 09
Hello mtdewgurl74,do you really want to know my answer? lolo Here go ,will if i could go back and talk to myself . i would say wildcat straighten your self up,i know you having it kind of rough rigth now,but hold on a little bit longer ok girl.and i would tell myself no to get married to any body tell i know that i love them.and i would tell myself to wait a while before you have kids.i love my 9 kids dont get me wrong but i could have give them abetter life.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
1 Mar 09
Well, If you did so then you probably wouldn't have had so many kids. I wish you had gotten to finish school and had more direction in your life. But it is never to late to follow a dream..never..
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• United States
1 Mar 09
I think i would still have all my kids but not too close together , because i always wanted lots of kids a one time i had 13kids at once.iwas a foster parent,for awhile.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Thanks for the response I appreciate it. That is good, gotta love children..
@funkykid (441)
• India
14 Nov 10
For me, I would have to change to the time when I was back in year 7 in school back to when I was a new kid and I felt like I was welcome and also having alot of fun before a few things went wrong in my life and also to go back to the times to fix my mistakes that I have made in the past (which I would rather not mention).
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
14 Nov 10
I guess we learned from the mistakes we made and what we do today is because of those mistakes and lessons that were taught from them. But yeah I would like to go back to and rearrange a few things so I could focus more on things I needed to do and get done...maybe things would be totally different if I had..
@winterose (39898)
• Canada
20 Apr 09
thanks for best response hon.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Your most welcome and thanks for your response.
@bunnybon7 (41852)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Mar 09
very good question. im sure lots of people would do lots different. but then after watching the butterfly effect movie, not sure i keep thinking tho. id look my last hubby up and not marry those other losers
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I love that movie called the Butterfly effect. You have a point..If I had to go about the past that way no way would I it that way..lol I would change a few things for sure in my past.Thanks for the response.
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
If I could go back to my teenage life I would change only one thing: that is I should have let my great grandmother who raised me from 2 to 16 years old to have accompanied me during the graduation march. I did a good job during my teenage years and I have no regrets with what I did. I'm not pulling a leg but I graduated with the highest honor and I was consistent for four years. I was always with my great grandmother every recognition day that is why I ask for my grand mother (her son's wife) to be the one to accompany me instead of my great grandmother. I just want someone new and besides I thought that would be okay for my great grandmother. After one and a half months since I graduated, my great grandmother passed away. So when given the chance to go back in my teenage years, I would choose to be accompanied by my great grandmother because that was her last march with me and my last time to be with her in a very special occasion. I was 15 when I graduated in high school and the day after my graduation is my 16th birthday which was celebrated with lots of foods and guests. That was the last birthday I was with my great grandmother. Lesson learned anyway is that we should always value the people around us especially the person we are very close to. We should not take for granted every single day or occasion we can be with them. Life is short so we must always cherish every moment they are with us.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
28 Mar 09
That is very touching and true. Thanks for the response.
@ersmommy1 (12597)
• United States
27 Mar 09
All good advice. But really, as teens do you think we would listen to our older, wiser selves? lol Probably not. I did alright in school. I'd have convinced myself to finish college and not my dad screw it up for me. I'd also said to stay away from the bad boys, and wait for my hubby to come along.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
28 Mar 09
Thanks for the response, I appreciate it. That is some good advice.
@MsTickle (25051)
• Australia
28 Feb 09
I would love to say I would gor back to that age and concentrate on my studies but I am just not that bright. My siblings were able to apply themselves and accomplish great things. I was simply not scholastically inclined. Learning was quite difficult for me beyond the basics. My comprehension of subjects is way, way below par. I cannot take things in either..the process does not work for me unless I am 110% curious and interested. I would certainly wish to avoid my marriages but I don't know what an alternative life for me would ber ike; I'd probably still manage to screw things up.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
28 Feb 09
Thanks for the response MsTickle,Well there is always going back to give lottery numbers or to warn yourself about this or that like a mistake you wouldn't want to do. But thanks for responding to my discussion appreciate it.
@CRSunrise (2964)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I think I would go back to when I was 17 or 18, and do two things. 1) Tell myself to not go to the big college. That I should have gone to the local community college since that's where I ended up graduating from anyway. It would have saved me a whole lot of money in the end. 2) Stick with only one credit card. Not to get so many. You'd be a lot better off later in life.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
27 Feb 09
That is why I don't do credit cards they are just to tempting to use even when you don't need to,easier then handling money. But that is good advice. Thanks for the response.
@Krisneil (577)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
If I have the chance to go back in my teenager life, I will probably say "dont waste your time boy, get along with the flow of life and prove something to yourself. make something new." I say that because I always paly online game and prove nothing, my life in teenager is so boring so I suggest "make soething new". To make my life more enjoyable. God bless..
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Hi and thanks for your response. My nephew who is almost 17 plays alot of games but he hopes to one day be a game programmer. So playing games isn't all bad. Well, maybe it isn't to late to try to make life more enjoyable.
@lynnemg (4538)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I would be more likely to sit back an observe myself. That way, I could remember more of how I was as a teenager and how my parents handled things. I could bring that knowledge into my current life and put it to use. I would not want my life as it is now to change, but I wouldn't mind having a bit more information when it comes to raising my own kids and who better to get that advice from than your own parents. Chances are that they don't remember every little detail of how things were, but if I could see it for myself, then I would know.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Good answer, You wouldn't want to even suggest one thing to change or not do? thanks for the response.
@pratik87 (1927)
• India
26 Feb 09
i still consider myself teenager..hehehe
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Thanks for the response I appreciate it alot.
@winterose (39898)
• Canada
26 Feb 09
I would tell myself not to be so afraid of change, welcome it, change is good and it is healthy. It is okay to walk into the unknown so you could grow as a person and experience new things.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Perfectly said winterose, thanks for responding to my discussion I appreciate it.
@mjhicks (319)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I've often thought about the idea of going back and talking to my teenage self. But then I wonder what things I have in my life now that wouldn't be if I could change the young me. While life is not perfect, we live paycheck to paycheck, and are now suffering the effects of the down turn economy, I love my family, have a house free of any mortgage and I enjoy spending time with the friends I have. The one thing I regret as a teenager is turning down the chance for free piano lessons. I was learning to play the guitar, mostly self taught, and the person offering the piano lessons was a dowdy old lady. The guitar eventually went by the wayside and was sold in a yard sale. About 15 years ago I bought myself another one and started up on lessons again but somehow it wound up boxed up in the back of my closet. I would go back to lets say 14 and tell the young me to take the opportunity for free piano lessons and to keep up with playing the guitar. I would truly enjoy playing even for just my own enjoyment.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
26 Feb 09
That is good to have music in ones life. There is something about music that soothes us makes things better. thanks for the response. Have a great night.
@AmbiePam (51191)
• United States
25 Feb 09
When I was a teenager I had yet to be diagnosed with bipolar disorder. My childhood and teenage years were filled with long periods of genuine despair. At the time, I thought everyone else always felt like I did, they just knew how to handle it better. So if I were to back, I'd tell myself that "this too shall pass." That one day someone was going to help figure out why there was such despair in my life. The only thing that kept me from harming myself was that I was a Christian, and I didn't want to hurt my mother. Because at times, I honestly had convinced myself I would be doing them a favor. I truly believed that at the time.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
25 Feb 09
That would be good advice. We have several in my family who suffer from bipolar disorder and I know some of what you probably went through. You probably struggled everyday to make life make sense for you. I guess I am lucky just to have had bad bouts of depression and the only thing that kept me hanging on to reality and life was my mom and now my little sister and what it would do to them..Thanks for the response I truly appreciate it alot AmbiePam..We need to have a spoil yourself day..and have fun..So what do we do first?
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@Nahsik (205)
• India
25 Feb 09
well, if you really want to know what advice would I give myself, then I can tell you that, I would prefer to more study and less computer work. I would choose the age of 14 years to go back to. thank you for your discussion.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Your welcome, and thanks for your response to my discussion.Have a great day.
@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
25 Feb 09
There's three things I would do differently. Go for help to get away from my mother as a child, get my education and don't get married ever.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Never to get married? Thanks for the response I am glad you stopped by my discussion, I would have to agree on the education since I wasn't able to finish mine.. Sorry to hear about the mom though. I didn't have the best childhood but my mom is who helped me survive through it and was there for me and still is most times today.