If someone is bashing someone in a discussion do you bash them too?
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
February 27, 2009 6:48pm CST
Say that you have just read a discussion that someone has written ranting about a member of their family, friends circle, church, or book club. The mylot member keeps ranting about the person, and complaining. Do you read the discussion, and agree, bashing the person even though you don't know them? Or do you try to give the mylot member advice without bashing the member?
I think that some people word things in a certain way, or say things about someone and then when another says something bad they get offended. There's nothing wrong with that. I generally try to stay out of it, I'll give the member advice, and I'll try to see both sides of what they've said, but I definitely never try to bash. If I do it's because it's either before I decided to stop bashing people I don't know, or it's because I didn't realize I had bashed a member.
So tell me, what do you do, and why?
Have you ever got offended at someone bashing someone they didn't know that you've talked about here or somewhere else?
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5 responses
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
28 Feb 09
I usually stay out of this sort of discussion since I don't know the situation. The person who posts presents his/her side of the story. As you know there are always two sides and the truth lies some where in the middle. Besides I am not a trained counsellor so I am very careful as to what kind of advice I give.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
28 Feb 09
Well there are always two sides to a discussion or argument and I think that it is wiser to try to be very careful as to what you do say so as to not offend. You just don't know what's out there in the cyber world, nor really anywhere!
I appreciate the response, and hope that you are have a grand day!
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@freethinkingagent (2501)
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28 Feb 09
Useally if I see someone bashing another in a post, I usually get on the bash-er.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
28 Feb 09
So you defend the bashed and the starter of the discussion? That's very noble of you! lol, I am glad that you would do that for others! I think it's very nice and a good thing to do no matter who you are! I appreciate the response, and hope that you have / are having a good day.
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
5 May 09
This is a really good discussion baby and I am sure that different people have different opinions when it comes to bashing people that others are ranting about or bashing,I am sure there are some who if they see someone bashing someone whether they know them or not,they will start bashing them too,and then I am sure that there are some people who if they see someone bashing someone they will ignore them or tell them they should not bash the person,and I can understand why people would feel either way,if I were to come on to a discussion where someone was ranting about a family member,friend,or another mylot member,and they started bashing the person,I would probably read the discussion,before giving the member some advice and telling them that bashing the person is not always the answer and is just as wrong as whatever the person did to them,and I do not think I have ever gotten offended at someone bashing someone they did not know that I talked about here or somewhere else ,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.
@syankee525 (6249)
• United States
28 Feb 09
i won't. but i have been jumped on from my views and all. lol. but it all good i figure i don't know no one here personaly but one person so it don't matter to me what they think of me, ok even if i did know it don't matter lol
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
28 Feb 09
I know a few people on here, lol so if I speak my mind and all they know that I'm just being honest, and they also know that I won't try to offend!
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@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
28 Feb 09
Good evening....I would say I do not bash people or topics I know nothing about. I usually make it clear from the start if I am offering my opinion, that I dont know the details of the situation. I will not bash or demeanor someone I do not know, only offer suggestions based on what the person has said.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
28 Feb 09
I am glad that you will only do that and I think that it is the best way to not offend and to stay clear of any ridicule that might come up! Most people are very friendly when it comes to advice offered, and will understand everyone's views! I appreciate the response, and have a wonderful day!
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