Should my friend be a single mother or...???

China
February 27, 2009 7:26pm CST
I have a good female friend, who has been pregnancy for more than two months without getting married. My friend had a baby with her previous boy friend, but they part with other soon and her boy friend doesn't know that she has been pregnancy. Now my friend wants to give birth to the baby, of course i don't agree. What's your idea? Should she be a single mother or give uo the baby?
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6 responses
• United States
28 Feb 09
I had my first child when I was 19, and I was single. I never regretted it. This is not your decision or choice to make. It is your friend's, and hers alone. Sometimes having a child brings forth a better change in a person, and sometimes it doesn't. But in most cases, when a woman becomes a mother, she suddenly becomes more responsible (or at the very least, learns to be), more cautious and usually matures beyond her years. Having a child is a blessing, a gift. You should just be happy for her, regardless of her marital status. If she wants this child, and feels she can raise him/her on her own, then by all means, be supportive, even if you disagree. Your friend needs you. Be one.
• China
28 Feb 09
You descibe your experience and your feeling in detail and I will tell my friend. Thank you for your honest idea and have a nice day!
• United States
28 Feb 09
You are welcome. :)
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
Why not? if she could afford it and be a good parent why not have the baby?? That is a very similar situation with my friend and officemate, she is not pregnant at 7 months and she has no plans of marrying, she believe she can raise that baby on her own even without the father because she loves her baby and she knows that baby has the right to live with her and give the baby a life.. and her bf knows she is pregnant and they just dont want to marry and it is out of the question.
• China
28 Feb 09
But my friend is still a student now and she is nt able to raise the baby at all though the baby is innocent. It is too hard to make a decision...
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
oh i was also a student when i had my first baby and we did not marry right away. I was only 19 years old at that time. But i still had my baby, i could not bear the thought of having an abortion. I had it, it was tough yet i still went to school even though my tummy was big.
@max1950 (2306)
• United States
28 Feb 09
how old is she ? is she able to support the baby, its a tuff question to answer. will her parents help and put a roof over her head and the baby's if problems arise ? i personally believe and thats only my opinion is a woman has the right to choose what she wants to do in this situation, but she better think hard, i know a few women who chose to abort and even though they got married later on in life and had children they regretted it and thought about that day ,every day after.
• China
28 Feb 09
She is just 20 years old and her parents are against her to have the baby. Me too.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
I think with that problem let her decide. It's her decision having to go on, or not. Well I don't think so if she wants the baby anyway it's her baby. All mother love their child so much, even what happens. Anyway she knows the consequences of her actions. I don't also think so there is something wrong being a single mother as long as she could handle it, anyway it's her flesh and blood, even though it wont be easy to be a single parent. Have a nice day to you!
• China
28 Feb 09
You are right, but the problem is she can't manage it as she is still a little girl.Anyway,thank you for your advice.
@cindyhxf (1446)
• China
28 Feb 09
one of my female friends was pregnant after broke with boyfriend.but she did silly wrong to call her boyfriend again.then they went together just for baby.and then they got married.now they are divorced. maybe your friend doesn't want to call her previous boyfriend again.but she can let him know that.no matter what decision,let him know how will she do with they baby.
• China
28 Feb 09
You are right.The boy should be reasonable for the baby.They should agree to the same opinion.
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
28 Mar 09
I think she should tell her bf and tell about her pregnancy.She cannot give her baby because child is the best thing God make for a mother.She should married.