Why some people are really bad losers.?
By ronaldinu
@ronaldinu (12422)
Malta
March 1, 2009 9:33am CST
Yesterday I have entered my dog for the first time at a dog show. She did really well beating another dog and won the best puppy in breed. AS soon as I was out of the ring, the other exhibitor turned to me and said that your dog did not reserve to win since it was her first outing in the ring. I replied that judging is subjective and that you have to accept the judges decision. He misunderstood me as he thought that I said that the judge is really knowledgeable about dogs. The exhibitor said are you saying that he is knowledgeable because your dog won. i tried to explain what I intended to say and i left him as I noticed that I was wasting my saliva. He is a hard headed person and a real bad loser.
To add insult to injury my dog was placed as a best reserve puppy in the pastoral group. So that means that the judge really liked my dog. I think the other exhibitor got the answer to his questions why my dog won.
If it happened to me I would keep my mouth shut and I would not have expressed my disappointment with the other exhibitor.
Why some people are really bad losers.?
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59 responses
@cyberken16 (90)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
i've encountered many bad losers in my entire life.. someone who doesnt accept or doing cheats in order to win. some of them we're quick losers(keep talkin not actin)
and some were abusers of great power("his father is our teacher better be friendly to him or else") some stuffs like that.. maybe they just cant accept thaT they lose, and through their desperation they become "bad" losers..
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
2 Mar 09
yeah they get on my nerves, thinking we are suppose to let themn win, and they cry when they loose. but i like when they yell you chaeted.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
2 Mar 09
none of my pets ever enter a pet show so I am not sure what are the rules
but like in any contest there is always first time and whoever wins wins
now when he said 'are you saying judge is knowledgeable because your dog won?'
you should say 'are you saying judge is NOT knowledgeable because your dog lost?'
but I really hope that he won't end up hurting his dog because it lost the contest
if he ends up that way then I hope something worst happen to him
@derek_a (10874)
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2 Mar 09
Oh dear, I have come across people like this also. Competition needs to be fun. If one loses, it is good to sit there and work it out and aim to do better next time. We need to give anyone in competition with us our respect if they beat us to the post. In a way they are our friend, that can empower us even more by getting us to put in more effort. Congratulations to you and your dog. 
. Derek
. Derek2 people like this
@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
now thats a story. some people are like that. they dont have sportmanship values. its just that they want to bully there opponent just to win the game. and thats a dirty one.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
3 Mar 09
I also have come acros such peopel who misinterpret what you say and then sulk. They just can not take beatings. May eb its the way they were raised, one of my friends always say, life teaches your kids what you failed to, I put such people in this category. If only their parents had taught them to fail too like they taught them to succeed at any cost,then they would not have had such selled up egos. You jsut take heart and party with your dog He deserves a long juicy bone for sure for winning. Congratulations!!
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
1 Mar 09
Losing makes them feel inferior, winning makes them feel they are superior to others and very, very special! It is a problem with the ego, they are very insecure. That man took it as a personal failure and I hope he didn't take it out on his poor dog.
Congrats to Saffi!! And to you, for handling her in such a way that you can show her. Enjoy her victories and make it fun for her and she'll continue to win awards-as long as she has a good time doing it.
@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
3 Mar 09
People like that are just so petty. They make me sick. I pity them. There are much more important issues to be angry about. That is pure out and out jealousy, that's all. That is what we call the Ugly Green Monster.
@regal_aeros (2605)
• Singapore
1 Mar 09
he is just jealous.
i like to think of such people as low self-esteem. So they have to thumb others down just to make themselves look good.
Since your dog has won, he wants to tamper with your "pride" and "joy" just so that he can lick his wounds and at least have someone who is as sore as he is.
You did the right thing in not wasting time and saliva on such people. Not worth it.
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@marmis (70)
• United States
1 Mar 09
Well said regal_aeros. You will always have someone in every aspect of life that is going to do this. Pet shows, little miss contests, betty homemaker awards, talent shows, etc. Keep your head up and continue to do a good job with the pup - next year show this person that your dog really does deserve it!
@Humbug25 (12540)
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1 Mar 09
Hi ronaldinu long time no see how are you?
Anyway, wow what a sore loser he was. He should have congratualated you especially as it was your puppy's first time. Maybe it is time he gave it all up if he can't win anymore and gets the hump so badly when he doesn't win!
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
1 Mar 09
hi humbug i am busy marking half yearly exams plus taking care of the dog leaves me very little time for mylot. Thanks foryour feedback.
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@pmcepe (194)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
We have a saying that there are only 2 kinds of people in every contest: winner and cheated. Yes, the loser don't like to admit the loss, but would always feel cheated. Whenever your winning is questioned you may tell the person " Too bad you were not THE judge". Avoid such sore lossers, they are better left alone licking their wounds!
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@benny128 (3615)
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1 Mar 09
well i have to be honest I am a bad looser lol,
but I wouldnt go that far
if you are entering any kind of competition then you enter to win it not to finish second or third
as no one ever remembers the runners up and that is the attitude i transfer to my mlm online buisness and to life in general I want to finish first as if you dont want to win why enter in the first place if you know what i mean,
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@Darkwing (21583)
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2 Mar 09
Pay no heed to them, my friend. If your puppy won, she won it fair and square and if others don't like the fact that it's her first show and are poor losers then, that's their fault. They're only making themselves miserable.
If it had been my dog losing to yours, I would have been really happy for both you and your dog. There are no losers in my world but there are some real winners. Well done, my friend!!!
Brightest Blessings.
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
2 Mar 09
That's the thing about competitions..they say "It's not the Winning that's important,it's the taking part"...righht
...If somebody wins,somebody else has to lose...Your competitor was just having a case of the "sour grapes" as their pooch didn't get the prize,so they tried to knock the Judge's decision so as to lessen the hurt to their pride..It's a pity they didn't keep their mouth shut,be more sporting, and not broadcast what a sore loser they were..It was the "Best PUPPY" award..and I take it this dog show is an annual event? so Your Dog Would hardly be a puppy by the next event,would She??
...If somebody wins,somebody else has to lose...Your competitor was just having a case of the "sour grapes" as their pooch didn't get the prize,so they tried to knock the Judge's decision so as to lessen the hurt to their pride..It's a pity they didn't keep their mouth shut,be more sporting, and not broadcast what a sore loser they were..It was the "Best PUPPY" award..and I take it this dog show is an annual event? so Your Dog Would hardly be a puppy by the next event,would She??1 person likes this
@Annmac (949)
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3 Mar 09
If you're in the show world then be prepared for more of it! You have to be 'thick skinned' in this game!
Some people can't hide their disappointment well and will often give you 'good reasons' why their animal should have won. They'll look for 'faults' in your pup or make snide comments. You'll soon learn who the 'moaners' are. The trick is to avoid them.
I'd say it was jealousy, you've obviously got a good pup and it's a potential rival. The judge has to know 'something' about the animals he's judging and being human he's going to have his own mental picture of the 'perfect' dog. If you've never shown in front of that particular judge before, it doesn't matter how many times you've been in the ring, it's the 'first'.
I congratulate you and hope she is a winner for you. Good Luck to you both!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
2 Mar 09
u find them everywhere u go to have any kind of dealing w/the public. people are a trip. i think they are getting worse all the time.
@csrobins (1120)
• United States
2 Mar 09
He was venting..he didn't think about how ridiculous and sorry he sounded. He probably regrets it now but in the moment he was just angry. Good job taking the high road and not making a big mess out of it all. He just wants you to cause ruckus so he can make you look dumb. Kudos on your puppy though!
@amylady2009 (42)
• United States
2 Mar 09
I want to state that I am speaking only from personal experience myself. Some adults never grow up. They can be just taller children. I have seen some supposed grown-ups pitch a pretty good temper tantrum, usually over some insignificant stuff. Some adults, no matter how old, are simply just immature. I think I read somebody else's reponse that "winning" makes some people feel superior. That is true, as well. We've all experienced that as kids, too. Think back to gym class, playing, I don't know, let's say, volleyball. The winner will sometimes use that win to make the loser feel like something scraped off the bottom of a sewer. This person you are speaking of is so concerned with the win that he is failing to realize the enjoyment he could be having participating in something just for the sake of fun, and socializing with people who share a similar interest. Unfortunately, there seem to be many adults like that. To end, I will say "just say 'whatever', and move on.
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