Have you ever dated a cheater?

United States
March 1, 2009 12:44pm CST
I had bad luck when I dated guys when I was younger. I always dated the bad boy. The one your mom would not want you to be with and prayed you would leave. There was only about a couple of guys I dated that were not the bad boy type. So I dated a few guys that cheated on me and broke my heart. Because of them I stopped trusting guys. One of the guys that cheated on me, cheated on me for months until I found out. And then he cheated on her with her friend. And she flipped out on him! I learned from this, not to fully trust someone until they earn your trust. If you don't want to be hurt, don't trust anyone until they earn your trust. It's a valuable lesson and I had to learn it the hard way. I had to have my heart crushed many times. I wish I learned my lesson with the first guy I dated. But I didn't. I just dated another bad guy after him, that hurt me and let me down again. Before you give someone your heart, if it's a girl or guy, first get to know them very well and see if you can trust them. If you can't trust them, don't stay with them. If they are trust worthy then you found a treasure!
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@ninaluv (338)
• Nigeria
1 Mar 09
i never date cheaters, but my best friend was always caught up in such net most times. she regrets it all the time, and suffers heart break. i dont ever want to date a cheat.
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• United States
1 Mar 09
I hope you never date a cheater too. I'm sorry for your friend. It really is sad having your heart broken from someone cause they could not be faithful to you!
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@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
1 Mar 09
I found out that the guy I was with for three years had been cheating through the internet. That is why he was so distant in the last year. We did not go out anymore because we were always broke all of a sudden. Seems he needed his money to go out with other women. Oh well, I got my check up, I am not sick. That is what worries me the most about cheating partners. Getting sicknesses!!! Anyway about trust. What is trust. I mean we all mean what we say at that moment. But I have learned even I myself have been mistrusting, in other ways. I have said things and did not live up to expectations either. I have promised things and things happened that I can't keep my promise. What I am trying to say, is no one is perfect. To trust is good, just don't close your eyes. Know what I mean? Take care, be happy in Love.
• United States
1 Mar 09
Yeah I'm sorry that guy you were with for a few years cheated on you. That was wrong of him to do. I'm glad you didn't get sick by him.
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@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
2 Mar 09
Me too. But I did not give up on love. 5 years later I found a nice guy and we have been living together for over two years now. We talk a lot, and that helps keep the trust in the relationship. Take care, good luck in Love.