need to help a friend

Usaully if someone is not showering either they had their water shut off because of fiananical reasons. Or because they have some sort of under lying mental condition preventing them from realize ho0w important a bath is. Sad to say, unless your friend seeks help. There is nothing you can do.

Well, if you get her to start loosing wieght, it might get her motivated to take showers and try to build her self confidents. One way you could do it without her realizing it. Start with walking.... Tell her you just feel like taking a walk and ask her to go with you. As you are walking talk about the day or things of intrest. It will keep her mind off the fact that she is exercising. Pick 3-4 days a week and after dinner, go over a say Ha, I was just wanting to take a walk and thought you migh join me. Most of the time the person will go with you... After the walk, express how much you enjoyed that, that you and her should do it again soon. And, without her even realizing it she would have started loosing wieght and all her cloths would be getting bigger. DON'T TALK ABOUT LOOSING WIEGHT ON YOUR WALKS, talk about boys, friends, parent, school, just everyday things. Never speak of wieght. Some time people just need others to motivate them. and walking is a safe slow way to do it...This may take a bit of time. Evening walks are sometime the best right after dinner. It gets you body working and using the calories that you have takin in that day. Just take it one thing at a time. Start with the walks.....once she sees the pounds coming off and others asking "did you loose some wieght" will make her want to do it more often. Then after she has lost quiet a bit. Get her to go shopping with you...Help her to find cool and instill clothes that will make her feel good. When a person feels good about themselves the tind to clean up more...Good luck... This will take alittle work on your part. Just remember. Don't talk about showers, wieght, or looks. Not until she see the change for herself.

I think that you must talk to her and make her understand about self hygien. She must keep her clean and also advice her to lose some weight. She might get a disease if she is not clean. You should encourage her to bath. Make her feel comfortable. Does she has some kind of stress of some incident that she has in her mind?

First of all.... say what???!! ok try this: try to convince her it's bad for her health and hygiene is a must!!! and tell her that you love her and you don't want her dying early.... as a friend maybe you can help her trying to do what's good for her like regular exercise, proper diet and shower once a day.... i hope that helped ^_^

hhmm tricky one, but basically you have got to be cruel to be kind, if she is over weight and doesnt shower then shes not taking pride in herself. So you need to take charge and be honest with her sit her down tell her how you feel, tell her she has a hygiene problem and needs to loose weight as if she is over weight by that much she is shortenning her life. At the end of the day you cant help her you can only guide her it has to be the person who wants to change if she doesnt want too nothing you can say or do will change her. good luck