40 years old and single!

United States
March 3, 2009 10:53am CST
My marriage of 12 yrs ended a year and a half ago. I turned 40 shortly after that and now I feel I'm in some mad dash to find my next partner! I'm also dating men who are 10 yrs younger than me for some reason! Is this a midlife crisis?? Can anyone relate? How do I allow myself to heal without worrying I'm gonna be too old and no one will want me? That's my fear! Help!!
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6 responses
@jillbeth (2710)
• United States
3 Mar 09
There are worse things than being alone and one is being with someone who isn't right for you,just because you're afraid of being lonely. Take time to do things YOU enjoy and never got to do while you were married. Take some classes, spend some time making yourself an interesting person who will attract the right man! Let him come to you....
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• United States
3 Mar 09
I love that idea...thanks!
• United States
3 Mar 09
Hello mam2009, Don't lost your hope you will find someone can loved you again even you think you old already. I was 24 before and thought i can't find a partner to loved a real me then one day I know a guy from online he is 49 that time and he likes me so do i to so he decided to visit in our country and we have a same feelings we felt love and decided to get married at our country in his first visit. Now after the ups and down of our long waiting each other we finally get together again and waiting our bundle of joy. He was 51 soon and i'll be 27 soon too, don't lost you hope every one of us has a partner that prepared on us even how far we are you and your partner will be cross a path someday. Find and work your destiny find her guess she was finding you too.
@vasavi20 (293)
• India
3 Mar 09
i strongly feel that u need to get marry as soon as possible...then everything wil fine and cool..and nothing gonna too old...nothing to fear....
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@Amberina (1541)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Why is there a mad dash to find someone? I think your just used to being with someone you just came out of a very long relationship, what I think you should do is spend some time getting to know yourself and doing things alone being single can be lots of fun.
@spalladino (17921)
• United States
5 Mar 09
STOP...get a grip on yourself and your fears!! I ended a very long term relationship when I was 46 and I thought that I was waaaay too old to ever meet anyone else. I was also fed up with men...didn't need them and didn't want one. I met my current husband when I was 48. He was 55. We've been together for over six years now and I'm the happiest I've ever been. I thank God every day for bringing us together. So, stop thinking negative thoughts. You are NOT old and you certainly don't have to *settle* or to fear being alone for the rest of your life. Be an interesting person. Participate in life...get out there and meet people. Take a class...learn to dance...join a club...volunteer at a hospital or a community center. The more things that interest you, the more interesting you will be and the more people you will meet.
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
5 Mar 09
No, you are not. Just think positive, and keep your beauty if you stay healthy. A friend of mine, his sister is 47. And she looks like she is 30 years old. After her first divorce, she still dating this guy who is 10 years younger than her. Think about it, you still got a chance for someone who wants you.