Why is it that some people do not take responsiblity for their children???

United States
March 4, 2009 10:14am CST
I know someone who just had their third child. She is not in a relationship, all three children have different fathers, two of those fathers are in prison and the other is not to be found, and she NEVER has her children. Her mother has her oldest 6 out of the 7 days a week. A friend of hers has her middle child just as much. She hasn't yet found anyone to keep the baby and has been complaining that she needs a break. She has never abused any of the children, they are very well dressed and always clean, and you can tell they love her. She just still wants to be young and be able to run around. I have children myself and I just don't understand how she can possibly be away from her children this much. I have a hard time leaving my children for an overnight stay. I understand that everyone is different, but surely I am not the only one that thinks this is strange and unacceptable. Any thoughts?
1 response
• United States
4 Mar 09
Sometimes, I think it is better that the mother not be the one to take care of the children. I know of a lot of grandparents around here that are raising their grandchildren. The mothers love their kids, but they aren't in the right place in their lives to take care of them. Maybe they shouldn't have had children. Who knows? All I know is that it doesn't matter who raises the kids as long as they have the love and support, etc that they need and deserve. I am a mother myself. I love my children more than anything in this world. I want to take care of them. I want the best for them. When I was going through my divorce, I did the hardest thing I have ever done. For safety's sake, I left my kids with my parents in our home state and moved half a country away. My kids were safe with my parents, and I was safe away from my ex. It just about killed me, but the restraining order didn't work. The only way we would be ok was if we were separated. He wouldn't come around the kids unless I was around. And he couldn't come after me because I was staying with family, and he didn't know where to find me. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do.