when someone takes you for granted.

I don't let anyone get away with abusing me in any manner. If they are not shy to abuse me ..why should I be shy to tell them off! I tell people who call me just when they need me..I say..*Look, I have told you what to do and you just call back with the same story, when you have done what I told you then call me back otherwise when u do call talk about something else..I don't have time with you dumping on me and then you feel good and me bad.." Trust me they don't call back..when they see they can't dump on me anymore. Let them know..what stirring can it cause more? None! Running away won't solve anything..stand your ground and tell them..what I said..VAMPIRES OF EMOTIONS you don't need. CHOP CHOP ..LOL

The world has never stopped turning because someone expressed their feelings. Keep this in mind when you confront someone and let them know how this treatment of you makes you feel. Don't run away from your problems, you will only encounter more. The way to make these problems stop is to deal with them. Talk to these people and let them know how you feel and how they have been treating you. If they don't "see it", then they are not worth wasting the time of day on and maybe you should find new friends who will treat you better. Don't be a doormat, be a door.

Hi kquiming....I have been taken for granted many times..Very unfortunate that one should ever do that..Life is short and it could end in regrets that way. It used to really bug me too but now I dont let it. I do what I think is necessary and what people need or deserve in return. I learned to put myself before those taking me for granted and when they discovered they were no longer always included in my plans, they soon smartened up. Instead of now feeling like I am being taken for granted, I feel like I hold the trump card. A little pulling away and learning to say no is very helpful. Just think of it as you are the one doing the helping and therefore you are the better person. Turn a negative situation, into something positive about yourself...

I agree with you but just movr on with your life and try to make new friend.You just need realy careful how choice you friend.Good friend will never for granted tou like that,real friend will always support you for better for worse.

when someone takes you for granted just alarm him/her or let him know that you are still there. now, i he/she still takes you for granted maybe then it is time for you to move on. if his/her attention is really important for you maybe you should try to be persevered to have that precious attention.

I have the same feelings before.But I think it's better to point the problem out with the people who take you for granted.If you don't let them know,they won't understand your feelings forever.

Unfortunately until the Tables turn on the person doing the using and they realize what they have been doing, and in return start offering help there is no hope for them, and many times they only think about themselves. I have been where you are many times and I know it is not a Great feeling at all. But I guess at the same time you learn it is a lot of times to be by yourself and not want to ask for anything for Fear of people feeling like you will be like others out there as well.

If you have friends who treat you that way, find some new ones. That is, unless you want to continue to be taken for granted. Maybe if you weren't there for them all the time, they'd start realizing all that you did for them. It's hard to remember to appreciate something that's always there. Like the old saying says: Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

It doesn't bother me unless it's someone I care about. My Mom, specifically. If I'm in a relationship, or with friends. But my Mom the most, since I've mostly strived to be acknowledged by her since I started growing up. I feel hurt, obviously. Insulted. Then, when they ask me why I'm being a pain or if they insult me with words after...then I feel near physical pain. It's been awhile since I've been taken for granted in this way, I don't purposefully continue relationships where this happens. Sometimes my withdrawal from these relationships ends up helping repair them, even if it's never specifically spoken of again, I am taken under consideration afterward. I almost ran away once, too. But in a more literal sense, rather than a hiding sense (though I've done that). My question to the person in my past experiences is this: "How come you expected me to do so much for you when you rarely do anything for me? Why do you accuse me of not loving you when I withdraw, when I do what's best for me? How come I feel compelled to look after everything, everyone... why can't I feel comfortable with ever relaxing for a minute, with not working, with not being busy? ..is it because of you?"

You know this made me think, I don't know which is worse, being taken for granted or being used. Just thinking here. lol I think everyone feels taken for granted at some point or another, with some feeling it more then others. I don't think ignoring it is the answer either. The feeling builds and sometimes comes out way worse then if you had gone to the person/persons and just let them know. I have been there and done that. Granted both ways will get a reaction and outcome but one is way better then the other. If you wait until it builds sometimes it comes out totally harsher then we would like. Anyways, I have felt this way in my own home. I'm a SAHM and have taken care of kids, husband and home for years. Sometimes I don't think they realize all that goes into it. They take for granted a clean house, clean clothes, rooms, just everything. I have handled it different ways at different times. I have gone as far as to go on strike and not touch a thing for a week. THEY WOKE UP FAST! Did it last, not all the time but I learnt that they do appreciate what I do, they just don't always say it. Now when it came to friends, you can tell them and if it doesn't change then it is up to you to distance yourself from them and branch out and find new ones that care for you as you do them.

I have experience it too... what I've done? I cried... It's simply me!!! I just don't like other taking me for granted...

you should speak your mind and not let people walk on you.yes it will stir things up a bit but only because they will not be happy you did not allow them to walk on you. and then turn and walk away.

You are not alone. I felt that way several times before and maybe I can say I got used to it already. Some say I am overly sensitive and take things too seriously. It's not that I let people abuse me and take me for granted. Just look at this way, isn't it much better to see people beg for help from you rather than you asking help from them? Try seeing yourself as an important person. They need you because they know you are capable. That is one reason to feel good about yourself. And I tried seeing it in a different way...I will rather try my best to help myself before I ask any assistance from anybody else. I hope you feel better...try seeing yourself in a better light. We can not please everybody so it is not wrong to say no sometimes. I don't know if this helped, but for sure you are not alone. I know how it feels. It really sucks.

A very close relative of mine always takes me for granted. I don't want to break our relationship, but I am really tired of being an insignificant person, because she will take me for granted. Whenever she needs a person to agree with her point, I will stand up by her. But it would never happen on her, she would never answer me in front of other people until I got angry and told others that she can't hear me, then she will immediately answer my question without asking me what I was talking about, this means she did hear what I said. I don't think I can change her behaviour, it is her bad habit, I don't think I can change it. So I am now using the same way of hers, I will not answer her pointless question, I am not her servant. But I still support her if I should support her. At least, it is the way that I won't break our relationship too much but still I can face her without bad feeling.

Dont run away from them, just ignore, consider them as if they dont exist at all, that will teach them a lesson, more than you shouting loud to them that you dont want to be treated like that...personally, i too have experienced, first i tell them that i dont like the way they act, from the next time on i start to ignore them, and if the problem still persist, i can go to any extent to let them know that i cannot be taken for granted

Yeah that also happens to me...before I've felt depressed and degraded but now, I find it challenging, I've just continue to be nice and I will not dwell on it, even if it realy hurts, just be the same don't take revenge in the end it's not your loss, Gos said love one another as you love yourself...God is pleased with you!

Hey ! Yaa you are right if some one take me for grant, I feel the same way that i want to away from every thing. Hope that someone could understand your feelings Unfortunately it won't happen!!!!!!!!!

love takes effort and time.it wont always be a happy ride. you'll cry when you're hurt, you'll be sad when ignored, but hold-on and always remember love hurts when it is real.

It is sad that some people are sooo insensitive to other people's feeling. I've been taken for granted many times by those persons dear to me, but I guess the best thing I did was to remain calm and strong and I don't let those situations overcome me. I just believe in myself and say that everything happens for a reason. But surely, i will not do it to those who taken me for granted because I know how sad the feeling is.