why the twilight ?

@krajibg (11934)
Guwahati, India
March 6, 2009 9:31am CST
Old age is hardly a welcomed event, but it comes sooner or later and takes away everything to the dead end. Usually those who are in service or are job holders easily get down and get frustrated after they are retired from their respective jobs.At this they feel lonesome as most of their friends are no more or some are busy otherwise. And this becomes too painful and if the mindset is not strong enough to cope up with the cyclic phenomenon they age down too quickly. The realization that strikes the person after retirement is that he/she its just for few years on this Earth as it is the twilight now causes them panicked and nervous. But those who are able to take up things as usual they do not have such problems. Any good tips to the retired people?
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
6 Mar 09
Retired people can lead a meaningful life. Retiring from active employment does not mean retiring from life. They do still have many more fruitful years ahead of them if they have prepared well in advance their retirement plan. Many men stay at home and become a nuisance to their wives. These are the complaints we hear from the women. These men are healthy and with a wealth of experience. Many organisations need the services of such men. We also read of some grandparents graduating at the same time as their grandchildren. It just shows that where there is a will, there is no limit to learning. There are many men who remain active in various organisations and look happy and young. This is also a good time to become computer literate. In reality, there is no end to the things that we can do. Why should one sit in front of the TV all day watching anything and everything? Perhaps it is time to take stock of the self and lead a happy meaningful life.
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
6 Mar 09
Hi Zandi, You seem to have a storehouse of tips. Yes, many people do not plan beforehand and therefore become a victim of painful time. If had been prepared and take the course of life as it is life would be still enjoyable. But they need either self motivation or motivation from outside. Great tips. Thanks a lot.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
6 Mar 09
As a woman reaching the twilight years if not already there, I have long retired myself from active working life and knows well what are the pitfalls that could befall a retired person if no concrete plan is taken to fill the void once retired. Am quite experience on this subject.
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
6 Mar 09
Oh! Is it so? I never though about that. Take as life spins.
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
Hello my friend, yes you have a good topic. Well, for me, if that would already happened to me, I will keep myself busy. The retirement fee that I would got, I would spend it wisely. Put up a self business, going on vacation, I would buy maybe a parcel of land where I could raise some farm animals that would keep me busy always. Relax, visit some of my children, relatives and friends. If I could do that I think I would feel more younger than what I would be at my retirement years...
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
7 Mar 09
Yes, that is a right attitude my friend. Get prepared for the twilight or else we would have to cut a sorry figure of ourselves. Thank you very much.
@suzzy3 (8352)
6 Mar 09
You make it sound like retired people are just about finished,one step in the grave,all theretired people I know are enjoying doing things they never had time for when they worked,be it doing up the house,going on holiday,gardening,painting, going to bingo.It is difficult when you first retire as you have to fill your days but once you get used to it finding something to do is easy.People can have thirty or forty years left on this earth.My dad is retired and he does charity work,has two foreign holidays a year and is never at home.I am retired and love it,no more getting up at six walking to work ,coming home at two exhausted.Having to cook a family meal,my husband has got ten years left and is slowing down and has more leisure time.My tips are keep busy ,get out and about,and keep smiling.
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
6 Mar 09
Nope. I did not have any intent to make them feel lower. Rather was pondering as to why some retired people so quickly age out. I tee have concern for them and I too would see that day granted I am alive till then. Surely they can have a lot of things on their stride and make life goes again. Besides the retired life varies from place to place.
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@reckon21 (3484)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
Every time I passed an old person, i wonder what she or he is thinking at that particular moment of time. Are old people reminiscing about their younger days. Are they satisfied with the way their life goes. Retired people, are those people who are already wise beyond their age. I think they are strong and can go with the flow of human existence.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
6 Mar 09
Yes, the same thing hits me too. Hope they have the strength to outsmart the ravage of time. Thanks for responding.
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@dragon54u (31638)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I would advise retired people to take up a hobby. Maybe they loved building models as a child, so do it again. Or find a new one. Then join a club that involves that hobby. Also, don't shut yourself off from young people! You'll age quicker if you only hang out with old people.
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
6 Mar 09
Yes, you put it in the right way. But most people I have seen couch within and grumble. Life after retirement is not complete though. One needs to have a positive look and self motivation.
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@gxyywhyzy (450)
• China
7 Mar 09
may be you are old enought to be retired,but i think it is good.because you are free to do whatever you want,whatever you could not do in your worktime.but now,only now,you finally have enought time to do all you want. you can plant fruit trees,vegetables and flowers in your gardon.you can also feed fishes,sheeps and chichen or whatever you like.everyday you spend most of your time on looking after them,so,you become very busy.maybe you can feed cat,dog,pig and so on,you will find you life is good for others. maybe you have some hoppyis like pingpang,golf,vollerball,jogging , danceing and singing. please take good care of yourself and have a good habit. wish you happy and healthy.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
7 Mar 09
Well said. Some people of this age told me personally on my being curious that even if they are busy otherwise that they are in the twilight zone now keeps on nagging them. May be it become a sort of problem at times.
@dismalgrin (2606)
• United States
7 Mar 09
Well, I have these 2 grandma's are 'of retirment age' I say that because only one is actually retired. The other was mostly a stay at home mom during her life and never really had a job of the type that you can retire from. But, anyway. The way is so sour that no one can stand to be around her and she is mean to everyone on top of that. The other, well, a lot of people are a little confused that I hang out with her and go shopping with her a lot. My 13 year old sister and all my cousins do it too. She is way more fun to hang around and never 'acts her age' at all. Whenever she does make some comment about being old I always say 'age is just a number, ganny. Old is an attitude!' Haha. And there are lots of benifits to hanging out with your granny too. I get senior discounts if she is paying. Haha! Even if I'm paying, I sneak her the money before we go in so we can get that discount! Haha.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
7 Mar 09
Very nice. Old people are like that, I mean most of them. They would grumble and get irritated sort of but there is fun in the end. Thank you very much .
@sandymay48 (2031)
• Canada
7 Mar 09
Oh yes I certainly do!!...Always remember that seniors are much more valuable than the younger generation.. After all , they have..... silver in their hair gold in their teeth stones in their kidneys lead in their feet and are loaded with natural gas!!!! Im sorry, I couldnt resist!!! OK...it is important for all of us especially after retirement to keep our minds and bodies active. We could involve ourselves in hobbies, group activities, and being with friends. Keep life simple, try to avoid stress,.,Make a comfortable home, perhaps one floor living, time to cater to ourselves as by then we have lived our life for others.
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
7 Mar 09
If any one else it is Sandy from whom one can learn to laugh out the difficulty. Oh my God "Stones in the kidney " and "the natural gas" the icing on the cake. It was hilarious. Thanks for helping let a NATURAL laughter come out.
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• India
7 Mar 09
Hello my friend krajibg Ji, First let me welcome you in new Avatar. I wish that it takes lot of extra time for everyone to retire. To give you example of my hubby, he became pensioner little more than 15 yrs now. But , I find he is more busy than in service. We have our engagement scedule for coming one year. We never feel that we do not have any job in hand. My hubby gets up early morning even now, before 4 ' Oclock . So on eshould keep oneself enaged, ready to help others, without anything in return. Also, be part of joint family system. May God bless you and have a great time.