A change relation after marriage.

When seeing the boyfriend or girlfriend once a week with daily text messages there might be complete harmony. It is likely that the couple will get on well and there will be lots of romance. Once the couple get married they will be able to spend every day, week and year together. They will be able to find out how compatible they are. Things might not be equal once the wife has a baby. The lady might look after the baby and the man might do work full time in a job. The romantic feeling begins to fade and arguments might occur. My sister and her husband I thought of as Sweetie and Sloppy when they were dating and first married. Fourteen years later they are still together and doing fine. However it is not like the romantic beginning. Most couples are the same if they get through the seven year itch.

I think part of the excitement in getting to know each other is the "newness" of what each individual likes. You are excited about the little everyday things that you learn about your mate. As you get more comfortable with them, you begin to relax and you don't worry about silly things, like is my mascara running, do I food on my face, etc...You know that he loves you for being "you" and not how you look. When the newness wears off, you might not feel as romantic, so therefore you must really work at it. Some men just are not the romantic types, so you may never experience that "romantic" feeling. I love romance and love having someone take care of me, though I wouldn't ever want to be a "kept" woman. I think that you really have to work at keeping the romance alive in your marriage, and not to worry about the little things like leaving the toilet seat up, or heaven forbid fighting over if the peanut butter got wiped off the knife or not. Life deals hard enough blows that you don't have to fight about those trivial things. Is every marriage perfect? No. But that doesn't mean you have to fight over the littlest things either.

I actually do not think that is for a lot of couples these days. I figure that for the fact that a lot of couples nowadays are living together before they get married. That does make a difference for then they already know the other person's defects and that kind of thing.