when family comes first...
By maissj
@maissj (111)
Philippines
March 8, 2009 11:38pm CST
being a mom and a wife, we, mothers, usually put our family first. even it means letting go of something that will make us happy, i got to thinking about this when i watched an interview of Pia Magalona, the late FRANCIS MAGALONA's wife, she was so composed and calm and she seem happy, she said it's because she can't breakdown and let her young ones see that she is weak, because they all look up to her and francis, if she showed that she is grieving, their children might not cope with his death.
now, if she's always thinking of others before her, who thinking about her wellness? ask yourselves, if we'll always put ourselves behind, who will take care of us? Pia can't even grieve for her loss, even if she lost the man in her life....
so, do you think we should leave a little for ourselves? or by being there for them is really our purpose in life? i can't really give you my insight to this question because i myself don't now my real purpose as a mom and wife, i don't even know if i am leaving a little something for myself, i feel happy as i am tending to all their needs but after a little while, when i've done my duties, i feel neglected, even if i can feel and see that my boys (My husband and our little boy) loves me. it makes me sad that until now, after almost five years of being married, i still don't know my real purpose.
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@michiko15carlo (161)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
that makes me think..... hay.... mothers and wives usually takes one step backward... why so that we can watch our honey and babies well.. im not sure what my purpose also but if i see them happy i feel good and contented just by watching them...
@maissj (111)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
i guess were the same, i am happy just knowing that they're taken care of, and it makes ma happier that i am the one taking care of them, you're from the philippines too, and i hope you've seen interview of pia, francis m's wife, she so composed and calm and she even seemed happy, i guess, i'll do what she's doing, take good care of my family and draw happiness from it, besides, i think if i take good care of them and loved them enough, i can show myself that taking care of them is really taking care of my happiness and self fulfillment....smile... MAI
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
I hope you find your purpose in life. I am just trying to survive and I don't really have any success to speak of. I am happy though and I know that it is all up to me. I don't know my purpose in life too. Maybe it is to understand the encantos, who knows? Cheers!!
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Well I guess she can grieve from inside and I think this is not the proper time for her to feel weak by the loss of his husband. I think Pia is just doing fine but I think she has to somehow let this things pass and let it out someday. But for now I am impressed by how she has stand on this issue.
With regards to your situation, I feel that you need to tell your husband what you like to do beyond your family duties. I do believe that if he really understand and love you he will hear you.
