Hubby finally confronted his father!

United States
March 9, 2009 12:57pm CST
Unfortunatly I was not there to witness it, I only heard the account of what happened when my husband told me about it. It happened Saturday. Apparently my husband was pulling into a gas station when he saw his father pulling out. My husband pulled his car in front of his father's car to cut him off. Hubby gets out of his car, walks around it, and goes up to his father's driver side door. He hands his father the keys to the house and the old car. My husband then tells his father that he'll need a tow truck to get the car, the gas leak has gotten so bad it won't even start now, and will not hold the gas long enough to get the car anyways. FIL is confused, and asks who's car is it that hubby is driving. Hubby tells him that's his new car, he bought it a week ago. Hubby is quite satisfied by the look on his father's face! See, my FIL was quite upset with us when we purchased my van. Up until that point hubby and I had been sharing a very small Cavalier which belonged to my MIL. We of course could not fit 5 kids in this Cavalier. FIL did have a car sitting in his drive way he could give to us, but refused to. So we ended up buying my van. We didn't pay much for it, and owned it outright. FIL was a little jealous, because my van is only a year older than his, but he's still making payments on his, and my van was paid for outright. We aren't exactly sure why, but FIL was not happy about the fact that we had 2 vehicles once we bought my van. He demanded that hubby give MIL her car back. We fought him, saying we needed both vehicles. I can't be left home with all the kids and no vehicle! But for some reason FIL did not want me to have my own car, especially not when he only had 1 working vehicle. It was either he wanted ME to suffer, or, he just felt he always had to have better than us. Well, now hubby's new car is the same year as FIL's van, also completely paid for where as FIL is still making payments on his van, and hubby's car is so much nicer than FIL's van. So needless to say, FIL is extremely jealous!! So, apparently, seeing that his father was jealous of his new car was enough to satisfy my husband. He failed to mention anything about the fact that we'd moved out, or that we own our own home, or that we no longer need them for anything. So after hubby tells his father that he bought the car a couple weeks ago, FIL has the nerve to ask if we have any money for him!! My husband says no, tells him never to call us again, and walked away! It's not exactly how I would have handled it, but hubby is satisfied enough!
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10 responses
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Whooo!!!! Good for you guys! I wish you could have been there to see it too. I remember when my husband had finally had enough of his brother being a jerk. He was in those rude teenage years and he had finally pushed my husband too far. He grabbed him by the neck and slammed him into wall and yelled at him. I was so giddy lol. My husband tends to let everyone walk all over him so it felt good to see him stand up to his brother and stop taking his crap. I'm just glad you guys are free now.
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• United States
9 Mar 09
Yeah, mine is the same way. He'd confronted his parents a few times in the past, mostly it was me pushing him to confront them. This time I was actually telling him not to. I was content just leaving things as they were, them not knowing anything about what we'd done. It was completely his choice to confront his father, and I think he feels better now that he has.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
9 Mar 09
He asked if you had any money for him? Why the he|| would you give him money?!
• United States
9 Mar 09
He was looking for rent money, of course. My guess is it hadn't sunk in yet that we'd moved out, even though we'd been gone a week. He doesn't think too well on his feet, lol.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
9 Mar 09
Ahh, I see. I bet you're glad your days of giving him money are over!
• United States
9 Mar 09
I am sort of chuckling to myself about the predicament he got himself into. All he does is complain he can't afford to pay his bills, yet he drives us off losing his rent money. So now he has the same bills, but no income other than his SSI. Unfortunatly he'll never kick himself for what he's done to us, because he's not the type of person to take responsiblity for his actions. Instead he'll find a way to turn it around on us like it's all our fault we chose to leave.
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@Barb42 (4214)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Your husband should feel really satisfied by now! I wonder what the FIL thought when your husband didn't tell him you moved out, but just for him not to call you anymore. I can see a fight brewing in the wings. Sounds like your husband has finally decided to stand up for his family and not let his family run over you. Good for him!
• United States
9 Mar 09
I am sure there is a fight brewing, especially when he sees the state of the house. He will be quite angry about it. We had to tear down most of the walls and ceilings to fix an electrical problem awhile ago, and never replaced them since it's not our house. Also, since his last phone call a few days before we moved, I was too angry to go out of my way to ensure the house was clean and straightened away before we left. Basically, anything we couldn't take with us or give away stayed there because I wasn't going to trouble myself with trips to Goodwill when I already had so much going on and he was being such a jerk.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hey kats! WTF? So does FIL know that you have moved out of their house of not? Has he figured that out yet? I think that your hubby handled that just great! I would be very proud of him if I were you! I think he did a great job leaving his father like that! It couldn't have been planned more perfectly! He kind of left hims with his mouth open and wondering WTF that was all about! Then he would find out that you were no longer living in the house and he would really freak! I think a big Congratulations is definitely in order! That had to be hard on your hubby even though he knew he had to do it sometime! You guys deserve the best and to be free of them! Nice going!
• United States
10 Mar 09
I'm sure he's figured it out by now, but as of then I don't think he'd caught on yet. I too am quite happy about how hubby handled it. Like I said, I probably would have rubbed it in a bit more that we'd moved out, but hubby handled it the way he wanted, and now he is satisfied, and I'm satisfied just knowing that my in laws no longer have anything to hold over my head, and have no way to control me or my family.
• China
10 Mar 09
yes, everyone will do it.
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
9 Mar 09
What a story! The had a stick over your heads for so long and now you are free. Yiour husband must feel so good now that he is his own man and does not have to ask favours of his Father. I am happy for you both. He was so mean to you both but especially to you. They wanted you to suffer and stay dwon not be on the way up. You must feel proud of your husband because he put his family first and now is not beholden tohis father for anything. Give hiom a special hug!
• United States
9 Mar 09
We are both definitly very happy and proud of ourselves. It's a huge weight that has been lifted off our shoulders now.
@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Good for him. Sounds like your FIL (I like that, makes that word nice and easy to handle!) needed a good 'slap.' Kudos to your hubs.
• United States
10 Mar 09
Sadly this will still not change my FIL. We've been down that road so many times, we've confronted them a few times, we've talked to MIL about the issues FIL is causing. They even lost their daughter, she no longer wants anything to do with them, and hasn't for years, and none of this has changed them. Now they've lost their son, DIL, and grandchildren too. Of course they'll never take responsiblity for their actions.
• Canada
10 Mar 09
WOW sounds like your hubby put his foot down lol We have to do that sometimes with our parents even if it doesn't always work. I can't wait to be outta here so I can do the same. I am living with my mother and feel like pulling my hair out every day.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Wow, good for your hubby finally getting to tell him off like that. I am sure he felt much better. I am sorry you did not get to witness it. I am sure you would have enjoyed seeing it.
• United States
9 Mar 09
He has told them off before, but it was usually me pushing him to tell them off. This time it was completely his choice. I think he does feel better now.
@GreenMoo (11833)
13 Mar 09
Whoa, way to go Mr Katsmeow!
• United States
11 Mar 09
By reading the title I thought that he was going to see his dad for the first time.