Falling in love

United States
March 10, 2009 3:29am CST
I think when we fall in love with some one, we fall in love with oir own reflection in that person. We ourself in that person. There is something that resemblance and resonate. what do you think?
3 responses
@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
i am a graduate of psychology and yes, it's more of birds of the same feather flock together and not opposites attract. that is why they say you are only as good as your partner is. if you know your strengths then you cannot help but admire and go for people with the same strengths. tricky part is when you see only your weaknesses then you go for people with the same weaknesses. so, know what you're worth and not settle for anything less just because he wears pants ;)
@Theresaaiza (10539)
• Australia
10 Mar 09
I learned so much from you. For five years I kept wondering why my relationship is working despite the many similarities that we have. I've always believed in "opposites attract". I didn't realize that human beings are not magnets!
• United States
11 Mar 09
I see what you are saying, so when we stop loving that person is when we don't see our reflection in that person? it could be that we change. We are human being and we change all the time.
• India
10 Mar 09
Most often than not its true, but not always.I've been in love once and in my case i thought we were kind of similar entities.I even told her sometimes that she was just like me.But after five years of pretty romance we departed from each others life.My question to u is that if we were so similar n so close to each other than why we decided to depart from each other??????????
• United States
11 Mar 09
We do chnage from times to times. What I think at first you two walk a same path, and for some reason on of you change or both of you change , so the path you two are walking lead you further and further apert. that happens
@dismalgrin (2606)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Hmmm, I can see your point. I'm thinking from personal experiance that I fell hard for an image of what I desired. I think our life experiances mold and shape what we think is the ideal for a life partner. And we are always going around framing our best assets for the world to see. Maybe putting a twist on our flaws to they seem like a cute and quirky trait. So, perhaps some man may have a problem with getting offended and wanting to beat people up. And he brings his date somewhere and somebody calls her a name and he pounds the person to the ground. He just got satisfaction for his problem and she thinks she has found her life long protector in life. Some women don't seek these types of men, some aren't fooled by that because of experiances in their own lives, perhaps they grew up with an abusive father and see that type of action as a precursor to what their own future would be. But, I think we tend to be attracted to the image that person presents. Then after a time of being around that person we may see who they really are and bale, or see who they really are and fall in love. Then to keep that love fresh I think we should be learning about our partner's idea of 'the image' and find ways to remind them that this is who we are. That's just my take on it, but I don't think it's very different at all from what you said. It does come back to us, why we fall in love.
• United States
11 Mar 09
I don't have an expectations of a life partner. When I fall in love , I just love. I don't have an idea that my lover should like this or that. Should have this quality and that quality. Maybe that's why I think I fall in love because i see my reflection inside that person and still do