is it common?

United States
March 10, 2009 8:05am CST
Is it common to fall in and out of love with the person your with I know there have been times when I have doubted my love for my b/f but it always seems very short lived I love him very much it just that some of the things he does makes me not love him it so confusing some times but like I said its so short lived. I often find myself falling in love with him all over again!
3 responses
10 Mar 09
Hi sxrxnrr, I have been married for nearly 29 years, I think I've told that before but the love I have for him is defferent from the love I first felt for him when we first courted, does this sound strang to you? but its true, I do worry about him when he is rideing his bike at night, maybe its just normal. Hugs. Tamara
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• United States
10 Mar 09
I think I do understand kinda lol lol is it that you just got used to him something like that lol!
@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
10 Mar 09
It is not uncommon to have ups and downs in a relationship. The key to a successful relationship is the ability to withstand all the ups and downs.
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• United States
10 Mar 09
We have always been able to make it through so far we love each other very much I just think that we do not like each other sometimes ! lol
10 Mar 09
Yes, I do think this is common. Relationships are like a mirror, often the thing we do not like in the other person, is an aspect of ourself that they are reflecting back to us. In other words, its something in yourself that you disown. For example, you might not like your b/f being lazy, reading the papers, watching tv and you might think "gosh he's lazy", you might be running around busy doing stuff, and it irritates you about him, because you dont let yourself be lazy. You disown that part of you. Next time you doubt your love for your b/f, see if you can find out what exactly it is that you are disliking and ask yourself if you see that in yourself. Good luck.
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• United States
10 Mar 09
really it is just the fact that well he has alot more freedom then I do everytime I leave one of the kids are with me and when he leaves I am here with the kids! but we have been working on that and he has been helping alot!