share everything with your partner... or leave something to yourself?

yeah i totally agree with you. we must learn how to trust every thing to our partner if the partner will not be able to accept whatever truth that we can share then i think that our partner is not good enough for us. cause i think that having love relationship requires acceptance. we must take risk and we must learn how to share our fears as you have said. and every thing to our partner. though it will be not easy. but i believe that for single people that they should choose someone who can really talk to and reveal their innermost secrets without being judged and still loves you no matter what. cause only those kind of relationship is worth enough taking.

hi there, darkwing! it's true that it is important to be with someone who can understand and accept everything you have to offer. i wonder though... do you also share your friends' secrets with your partner? like if a friend asked you to keep something secret and not tell your partner, do you still tell? it's kinda hard to know what's the right thing to do in those circumstances... but what do you think, friend? ^_^

You're right there, Hotsummer! Thank you for your support.

Yeah,I can not agree more but may be 2% haha

hi there! i'm sorry you've had problems before but i'm glad you've worked things out. i also believe in sharing as much as you can with your partner. i wonder though if there should be limits... like if a friend of yours asks you to keep something secret especially from your hfiance, would you still tell? it's hard to decide, hehe. ^_^

Hahaha! I know how that goes. I don't ask permission, I just tell my BF not to tell anyone. And he does not. There are however, when my friends would tell me not to tell him, then of course I won't. But, I like to keep things for me too. It is so hard. But I am trying to learn it. Take care.

i also want to keep a few things to myself. certain secrets that are my friends' and not my own, for example. but later i end up telling my partner anyway. lol. ^_^ well, i do ask my friends' permission before i share the secret with my partner. hehe. still, there are some things i leave for myself.

i like your enthusiasm! it does feel great to just trust a person a hundred percent and lose yourself to someone. ^_^

hi there! that's great that you are still on the side of love after having been hurt before. ^_^ trust is a tricky issue, isn't it? too much or too little and you get hurt. sigh. hope it works out for you now. i also like sharing everything with my beloved. i try not to share everything - like friends' secrets. but those aren't mine to begin with. those that are mine, i share. sometimes i want to be mysterious, so i keep a few things to myself. like when i want to surprise him, hehe. but those are trivial things. all the things he SHOULD know, i tell him. ^_^

hi there! different strokes for different folks. some people love to know everything. others would rather not. hehe. and even in the same relationship, sometimes the wind blows differently, and someone who used to want to know everything will suddenly prefer not to know! ^_^ since relationships are complicated, it makes sense that there is no definite rule when it comes to sharing...

hi there! oh, it's great that he allows you your own liberties about some things. you have a very understanding partner. there are also things that i would thinkg twice about before i share with my partner, like friends' secrets and the like. i want to keep my word and honor my relationships - all of them, not just with my partner, so that means i have to keep things secret from my partner. after all, they're not my secrets but someone else's so i don't have the right to share them. like you, my partner is bound to find out that i do keep my friends' secrets but he honors them and he never asks what they are. i'm lucky, just like you. ^_^

they do say that a little mystery keeps a relationship alive... ^_^ i like sharing almost everything with my partner. that's ALMOST everything, but not everything. so yes, i also think it is rather extreme to share every single thing with someone else. sharing friends' secrets, for example, is a little off. those secrets are not mine to share, so i don't break my word and tell on them. if my friend asks me to keep something secret, then i try not to tell my partner. i ask my friend if i may, but if she says no, then i don't. hehe. ^_^

hi, suzzy! i'm glad you are very open with your partner. i believe in sharing when in a relationship, too. i just wonder... are there limitations to sharing? do you keep some to yourself? like if a friend asks you to keep a secret and guard it with your life, and if that friend asks you to please not share the secret with your partner, do you still tell anyway? it's kinda hard to say if sharing should be absolute. it can be confusing. lol. ^_^ but what do you think about the above scenario?

No secrets at all once you start keeping secrets it is a down hill slope,it then becomes the norm they find something out and then the trust has gone as they wonder what else you are not telling them!!!!!!!!

hi, jlamela! i like what you say about allowing individual growth even in a relationship. openness is great in a relationship. but not everything is absolute. even openness should at least have some limitations. but that's just me. i tell my partner everything. but, similar to what you said, if a friend asks me to keep something secret, then i try not to tell my partner. i have to honor the other relationships i have in my life, after all. ^_^

Yeah yeah something like that.

oh, like phrasing things in a more desirable way rather than risk saying something insulting, right? ^_^ i think it's alright to share everything, but there are limitations. you don't say certain things, like insults directed against his loved ones, or perhaps your friends' secrets which they asked you not to divulge. hehe. so i know what you mean when you say you have to choose your words carefully even when you do share everything. ^_^

hi there! hm, that's quite a pickle indeed! i wouldn't want to be in a situation where i have to choose between sharing everything but ruining the relationship, and keeping the secret but getting bothered by it. whew, difficult choice! but there are things you have to keep to yourself, like perhaps friends' secrets. sharing is a great thing, but we don't have the right to share things which aren't ours (like friends' secrets). so i also like leaving something for myself. ^_^