extended family
By pinks17
@pinks17 (2192)
Philippines
March 10, 2009 6:45pm CST
[i]Here's the scenario...
You are the only breadwinner at home.Your mom lives with you and you have a sibling who now have a family of her own but the husband only earns minimum wage..
Your mom obliges you to help your sibling and yet your mom knows that your salary is just enough for you to pay your rent and some other bills..
How will you react to your mom and not hurt her for your answer?
My idea here is that once you decided to get married that means you are already ready for the responsibilities of being a parent and regardless how much your husbands salary is..you have to spend it wisely.It's the husbands duty to work hard and look for other means to have his family live everyday..sigh..[/i]
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3 responses
@NuttyMomma (901)
• United States
11 Mar 09
if your sister's husband doesn't make enough money for their family why doesn't she get a job? why are you responsible for helping your sister? i am not being mean here but your sister's family (husband, children) are her responsibility not yours.
@okkidokitokki (1736)
• United States
11 Mar 09
If it was my mom I would tell her that she could go for an extended visit to my sibling and help them get on their feet.
I do not think that there is a way to tell her no with out there being some feelings hurt but it still needs to be done.
I agree about the couple needing to be able to take care of themselves and that it is the husband's job. But as a wife I am also willing to go out and work so that the bills are paid and there is food on the table.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
11 Mar 09
Your mom is in a difficult situation. Your sibling is not your child and as you pointed out has a husband. It is not your responsibility to take care of your sister's family and your mother should not try to make you feel obligated to do so. In my family I would very firmly say no and tell my mother that was the end of it but things are a little different with families in the United States.
Even though it will be difficult I believe you have every right to say no and you should not feel bad for it.
