When things get tough what do you do?

United States
March 11, 2009 4:22pm CST
Lately my husband and I have not been communicating very well. He omits things that happen to him through out the day that affect no only me but our son as well. Recently we had a child he is currantly two months old and the apple of both of our eyes. But since the baby has been born we don't see much of one another one on one if you know what i mean. Our relationship seems to be going south and not for the winter. I'm not sure what it is but instead of trying to spend time with one another when the baby is asleep we try to get chores done or rather i do and he plays video games or we try to get "alone" time. I just don't know what to do. I have talked to him several times letting him know my feelings but nothing has changed and there is only so much that i can do alone by myself. Like today i found money in his coat pocket (because i was doing laundry) and i didn't even know he had any money it would have been nice to know these things so that way we can get things for the baby that we need. Not to mention the fact that i will go around the house cleaning all day and he does nothing. He thinks that all he needs to do is cook and run to the store not sure what to do anymore
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3 responses
• United States
11 Mar 09
dont expect too much out of him, it is sweet that he will help cook and go to store but granted I am assuming he works so atleast he doesnt come home throw his shoes off and say where is my dinner. The best thing you can do to get alone time is see if one of your parents will watch him for a day and have a blast together.
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• United States
11 Mar 09
the greatest bond of marriage is the fruit of the womb and now that you have one, never look at what you desire as a common factor to keep the relationship going. just have a quiet time with him and try to tell him what you feel. he is a man and will listen to you. Nevertheless, he is your husband and must have a reason for acting like that. just talk to him like a wife and i think all will be fine.
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• United States
12 Mar 09
thats the thing he isn't working at the moment and hasn't been for a year
@snowy22315 (170164)
• United States
11 Mar 09
It is important to be able to communicate about things for a healthy relationship. I think there are many things you can say to open up the channels of communications like asking him how he is feeling about things or asking him what he thinks needs to change in your relatinship. communicating about important things will strenghten your relationship and make things more comfortable both you and your spouse.
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@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
12 Mar 09
you guys better get talking and fast too , because the next thing you know your filling out divorce papers or another woman is in your husband life or soemthing to that extent , , Communication is key please get with it ..and throw away with that dumb video game , start with doing away with that for starters and tell him to get involed