Would you look after your baby by yourself?

China
March 12, 2009 1:16am CST
I am a new mother. My baby is 2 monthes old. And now my mother-in-law and father-in-law arelooking after him. I have a lot of different ideas about baby caring with them. I hope i can look after and teach my son by myself. But i have to work. I am at variance with this problem. How about you? Would you give up your job to look after your baby?
3 responses
@eiram25 (1077)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
like you,i am also a new mother.my baby is about 6 months old now and i have been personally taking care of him.i prefer to be a hands-on mom.right now that he's getting bigger,i'll probably look for a job again so i can help financially.if you were to ask me that question about giving up a job,i can certainly do that for my child but i think once he's a bit grown up,i think it's okay to go back to work. goodluck in taking care of your new baby! and congratulations by the way! happy mylotting!
• China
13 Mar 09
Thank you. And i think i will quit my job too, if my family don't have the financial problem.
@pickwick (858)
• India
12 Mar 09
I couldn't quit my job to look after my son when he was small.I had to leave him with my parents or my mother-in-law.You cannot have the choice sometimes of bringing up the child and keeping the job .When you feel that the child is not being looked after as you desire you have two options.One is to openly tell the person looking after it which might cause hurt and second is to ignore.I chose the second option.After all my parents brought me up and my mother-in-law has also brought up her seven childern.Now when I am more matured and my son has grown up I realise I was not wrong!
• China
13 Mar 09
I think i can't quit my job to look after my son either. But i am a teacher, i hope my son has good habits. And my parents-in-law spoil the child so much. Such as, they would adopt the baby all the day, as you know this is not good for a baby. I think i can't stand it. So i choose to tell them my points to persuade them. After two months, the things are better.
@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
being a stay at home mom or a working mom was a dilemma before for me. but i chose to be a working mom thinking that since being a stay at home mom (being there for the baby 24/7) and being a working mom (early teaching for the baby that there is more to life than mommy) both have their positive and negative side effects i thought "why drastically change things?" if someone would look after the baby, i thought, i just have to go with the flow and see how things would turn up. luckily, after an unfortunate turn of events in my workplace i decided to quit. that was when i became a stay at home mom. i love every minute of it. so, the moral of the story is: just go with the flow. fate would put you where you're supposed to be.