she is my sweet heart.

Pakistan
March 12, 2009 8:31am CST
Whenever I phone her and want to talk her, she demands something to purchase and gift her, such as mobile set, jewelry or something like that. I love her, but she, she demand the cost of her love. Is she fare in love? or I don't know. What is your opinion? how should I deal with her. I can not spare her. she is my sweet heart.
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13 responses
@NIECIE21 (365)
• United States
13 Mar 09
This not love. If you love someone, you do not demand gifts from your partner. It sounds like she is only with you to get stuff. I would talk to her and let her know how you feel about it.
• Pakistan
15 Mar 09
you right. But I can't.Okay thanks.
@NIECIE21 (365)
• United States
18 Mar 09
Sorry if I upset you, but if you dont want to hear the opions of people here, then you should not post. It seems like you wanted help and advice at first and now, you are out to tell all of to pretty much butt out, that its hard, blah blah blah. People are trying to help you see what you may not see due to being so close to the situation, I doubt any one is out to make you mad or upset...just trying to help you be happy
• India
13 Mar 09
tell her how you feel and then decide what you want to do next after talking to her.But once this feeling has come to you its better to put an end to this relationship.
• Pakistan
15 Mar 09
oh, I would try. thanks.
@delkar (1715)
• Romania
12 Mar 09
well, you will be single even if you`ll give her all that she wants. Sometime she will find someone witch will offer her much more than you, and she will chose that guy. If you`ll not going to buy her anything, she will leave you and that it will be so good for you, or i think that you should make this step. You should break up with her. This will help you a little not to suffer after your "sweet heart". I definently think that you shouldn`t be with her anymore.
• Pakistan
15 Mar 09
It is tough to loss her. okay, thank you for sharing delkar.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
12 Mar 09
Demanding something everytime is not atall fair.It is not true love.Make her understand or you have to change her attitude.But it is difficult to forget someone whom you love much for such reasons ,but you can try to change her mentality.thanks for sharing .happy mylotting.
• Pakistan
15 Mar 09
Thank you sumiirajj. But is difficult to forget some one ... I agree.
• China
12 Mar 09
sorry to hear that,dude,there are always some people especially young girl think that some one should buy for her young life,so love for they is just a thing which could be bought and sold.leave her,man.there must be a good girl for you!what you need is just waiting patiently
• Pakistan
15 Mar 09
ah ya. thanks a lot for responding.
@gracie04 (4554)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
material girl? yay! i don't think it's right for her to ask things from you.. if she truly loves you then she wouldn't demand you to buy her this, that. blah blah.. love don't cost a thing! you know, she should just feel happy/grateful for having a person like you in her life.. try to talk to her.. tell her what you really feel.. good luck
• Pakistan
15 Mar 09
nice response, thank you very much.
@MichGurl (144)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Hi sheenshaukat! I'm sorry to say that IMHO your sweetheart sounds like she is taking advantage of your goodhearted nature because she should love you for who and what you are not for what you can give her and what she can get. If it were me I would be extremely offended by this, being treated like someone's personal piggy bank, but that is just me. I would not hesitate to let that person know that I did not appreciate being taking advantage of or being taken for granted, which it sounds like she is doing both and perhaps you're just too close to the situation to see it as it is usually easier for those looking in to see what's going on. But in all honesty, you need to confront her about this otherwise you're just sending her the message that this is okay and it shouldn't be. If there are things she wants, maybe she can find work and buy them for herself rather than relying on you, since that's not in loves job description. ;-) It is one thing to want to do nice things for someone out of the kindness of your heart, but when that person simply expects it, it makes me question their real motives, maybe that's the only reason they are around?!? Hopefully you will give it some thought and talk to her about it before it turns into something you end up resenting her for later, and trust me when I say that it will eventually happen as people can only take so much of anything! In the meantime, hang in there and GOOD LUCK! ~Dee~
• Pakistan
15 Mar 09
thanks for sharing the pain and trying to heal it well. but I ... okay thank you very much.
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
12 Mar 09
hi, Be prepared for Disaster in Life(sweet heart is going to BREAK Ur Heart,soon). As soon as she will find someone fulfilling her demands better than U,she will be in His arms.Take care.No decision taking against the Common-Sense, is also crime! =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
• Pakistan
15 Mar 09
o no, no forslahiri, I do not believe it. thank you for such forecast of honorableness.
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 09
I think you should blackmail her with break up your relationships.What mean love if she only think money??
• Pakistan
15 Mar 09
No, hanah87, it is not possible. thanks a lot for sharing.
@zhuhuifen46 (3484)
• China
15 Mar 09
There has been so much change in the values between generations. At my time, girls would not accept anything unless she feels set with the boy, not to say anything like requesting. At this time, accepting is ok in my understanding, but requesting is still annoying, and constant requesting is never good manners, yesterday, today or tomorrow. Better speak loud of your feeling, and see the response. Sweet heart needs be a girl of integrity in the first place.
@renjoy (3)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
hi! for me, love should always be a two-way street, give and take, both giving their best to make the relationship work. now, looking upon the situation you're in right now, it seems that the only person who cares about the relationship is you. and she is just simply taking advantage of the fact that you love her so much, actually too much to give her anything that she desires. some people say that love is blind, this maybe true in your situation, but this shouldn't always be the case... now if you really love her that much, then maybe you should talk to her and make some sense to her. remind her that you are not her sugar daddy, if she listens and change, then good for you. if not then its up to you!:-)
@vheilugto (149)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
to tell you straight, love is blind, you can never find her fault becuase your being blinded for youe feelings to her, but it's obviously using you form some material reasons, break here up or instead, dont talk to her anymore, i know girls very much, they just good when your giving you something, but i'm pretty sure he's just folling you. sorry for the word, but i hate those kind of girls. materilaistic! i hope you could accpet what i'm saying.n . good luck!
14 Mar 09
It looks like your sweetheart turns so sweet only because of your money, and sweet not to you as a person? C'mon man, wake up. She's a gold-digger. She will drop you like a hot potato when she finds another guy who can give her the baubles that she wants. You deserve a better girl than that.