Have you been in a relationship but felt attracted to someone else?
March 13, 2009 2:08am CST
Just an attraction? or some kind of connection or that you find them attractive, but you know your heart still belongs to who you're with?My sister in a 2 year relationship, but she still feels attracted to other lads, she won't cheat or anything, but she look at some lads and thinks they're really attractive. Does anyone else feel/felt like this?
16 Mar 09
if it just looking and appreciating the good looks of other guys.. then, i am very much guilty !!.. i mean.. i do believe that my husband is good-looking - part of the reason i was attracted to him twenty years ago.. but, there will be others who are more good-looking, more handsome than him.. proof-- loads of greatlooking actors out there.. in Hollywood and Bollywood.. so.. i dont think it is wrong if i say i appreciate 'looking at' great looking guys..
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14 Mar 09
yes, and i thought of it as being unfaithful to the one in am with. the person that i am attracted is with my best friend, i had been to two relationships before but still i always find myself wandering about my bestfriend, the possibility of us getting together and all of that. so i can say that my past relationship doesn't worked out well because of it, now that my bestfriend had already gotten married...there's no point for me to embrace that possiblity..no more! cause i don't want to ruin her happy married life!cheers!
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13 Mar 09
I think all women look at other men they see that they find attracted to and wonder what it would be like with them, it is just what we do, like when men say they look at other women they find attractive, me I would die for Brad Pitt, don't mean I leaving my hubby to go find him. Wouldn't be fun in life if we couldn't dream of what could be.
13 Mar 09
hi deepti, I can relate with you post here. Well, I feel same way too even though I have my boyfriend. But for me, it doesn't mean that that I am cheating.It doesn't mean that will already exchange him for other guys. I am not doing anything wrong except than admiring. But in my heart, it will not goes beyond for I have already my boyfriend.He is the one I really love and he is on the top of all other guys. It is just a simple admiration and not love. I just think that it is natural for a lad or a lass to admire other person sometimes although they are already committed. I think, that is not that bad after all. But I will admit that whenever I tell things like this to my boyfriend, he got jealous . But he doesn't got angry.Then I will tell him that some guys got my admiration, he is still the best for me. I will tell him how much I love him. And he doesn't have the reason to got jealous because my heart still belongs with him.I think that once it goes deeper than admiration, then I think its not good for the relationship between lovers. On the other hand, I have some admiration to other women but it doesn't mean that I am a lesbian.I think that, it is just something natural and shouldn't be worried of, as long as in their hearts, they have the love and trust.
13 Mar 09
Yes, I've felt it every now and then. Like the heartthrob in our department, yes I did find him hot and felt attracted to him but there's a part of my mind saying he cannot replace my boyfriend. Sometimes you get this feeling of being attracted to that person but then in your heart you know that he can never replace the person holding it right now. And whenever I find someone I'm attracted to, I tell it to my boyfriend. No secrets between us and he does the same.