How does the fight go away?
By mermaidivy
@mermaidivy (15394)
United States
March 13, 2009 2:16pm CST
When you have fight with your spouse, how the fight end up? I'm curious to know who is usually the first one to break the silence and talk first?
How long does the fight last usually? What do you and your spouse argue for most of the time? Or I should ask what most likely leads the argument?
I remember when my mom and dad had some arguement, they usually got very quiet to each other for couple days then they ended up talking because they needed each other's suggestions and information on their business. My mom is a very quiet person, if my dad doesn't talk to her first, my mom can zip the mouth forever.
How do you guys deal with those qurrels? Would you like to share? ^_^
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6 responses
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
17 Mar 09
That's a good topic! When we argue the fight usually just 'goes away' and nothing really gets resolved. Luckily it's almost always about trivial things so it doesn't have that big an impact on our relationship. When we fight I usually try to do the silent treatment but it never lasts long. If the argument happens late enough in the evening then I may make it until morning without talking to him. Aside from that he usually starts talking to me first and then little by little conversation just goes back to normal. I suck at the silent treatment (must be the big mouth)!
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
18 Mar 09
most of the time, our problems just go away too but there is still "something" there.
Thanks for sharing!
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
15 Mar 09
Well, i ll try to resolve the issue, but if it really goes too bad, then if i am not wrong, i definitely do not do not try and make the first move, i m so bad at it, and if i am wrong, i just feel so embarrassed to go ahead and make the first move, either way, i just want him to come to talk....yeah i know thats not the right approach, but i just cant help it.....
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
16 Mar 09
If I did something wrong, I would say stuff first otherwise, I don't know what to say so just be very quiet...
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
Fights happen and they end too. I don't really want a fight to continue longer than it needs to be. If something is learned from a fight then it would have been worth it. Cheers!!
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
if im at fault then i'm the one who breaks the silence. but if not then my husband do all his best for us to talk.because if i'm hurt because of his negative actions then he can't talk to me no matter what.lol.
i still remember one time we had a fight and then he hurts me so bad (not physically) that's why i don't want to talk to him.what he did to catch my attention is that he tried to put all my precious pocketbooks in the trashcan and ready to burn it.hahah.and he succeeded..i talked to him that night and settled things.. (",)
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Yeah I agree, when let go, it's good for both, I think. THanks for sharing! ^_^
