A co-worker who keeps complaining...

Philippines
March 13, 2009 10:23pm CST
I have this co-worker who keeps complaining. Sometimes, he would complain about trivial things. It can be irritating at times. Well, I do not listen to him anymore. Well, yeah, most of the time, at least. There are times when I really need to work so I just can't get up from my area and leave him there whining. Why? Because his work area is just beside my work area. I often tell him to stop telling me about his issues because I can't help him anyway. It doesn't seem to work though... If you were in my situation, what will you do?
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35 responses
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
16 Mar 09
I have a similar situtation here with a co worker who complains about anything and everything. After having fiven him a patient listening on the fist few times, i then told him upfront that he if he is not satisfied he should just quit. It did help as after that he tends to shut himself up whenever he sees me.
@AmbiePam (51135)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Good for you!
@bellaofchaos (11549)
• United States
14 Mar 09
I would very politely tell him that if he continues this that I would need to go to the supervisor.
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• Philippines
20 Mar 09
If i were you, i'll just ignore him whenever he tells me something about his issues. Or better yet,just tell him frankly that you are irritated to what he is saying. Or maybe you can just report to yuor superior what he is doing!
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
16 Mar 09
Complaining about oneself and one's personal problems at all times may be irritating .However it should be considered as his/her belief that such actions would appease the problem in question.
@rhocky99 (30)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
maybe that person seeks only to be "mapansin" but maybe it is his/her enjoynment in life.If I were in that situation maybe , I"ll askes to our boss to transfer me in some works, just only to skip that person,and if nothing happens I"ll just ignore him if possible,,
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• United States
14 Mar 09
I've been in your situation before. I don't know where you work, but are you allowed to use headphones? You could listen to music and maybe they would think you can't hear them. Or maybe have a manager/superior who can tell this person to stop talking to you so much so you can get your work done?
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@elly_biz (65)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 09
if i am on that situation, i will start overact to him, let him realize that i just make fun of him
• Indonesia
14 Mar 09
Really..???
@roysville (496)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
This reminds of a previous officemate. I used to refer to her as ma-PR which mean "Puro Reklamo" (always complaining). The thing is she was my subordinate, and I am a very accomodating superior. Whenever I give her a task to perform, she would always have objections. But the nice thing is she still do the job. It's just her habit to complain, that's why I coined the term ma-PR for her.
@chelord (13)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
Such employees are really considered as a problem in the organization. If I were in your own shoes probably I would do what you've done which is you do not listen to him. Besides it would also irritate me, I'll just tell him to talk with the imidiate superior to tell his concerns. Because his concerns wouldn't be solve if he just keep on telling it to his coworkers.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
Hi dolce_vita! I think that there will be times that I will listen to him and I am sure if he will be doing it everyday, I might stop listening to him. I think that any person will get tired listening to a person who complains too much. Take care and blessings to you! lovelots..faith
@rlhynne (11)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
As a co-worker I would tell him honestly that i don't want to listen to his concerns. I will confront him rather than pretending that i am listening on him and if he will ignore, I will tell to the supervisor that he is a whiner who keeps on conplaining about his work and that my performance in my work is also affected by his attitude. I will explain that I find difficulties in concentrating in my work because of his behavior.
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
If I were in the situation, well I can give her time to talk and then try to tell her that complaining isn't going to help, that she would just amount to nothing. If there's a need of comforting well I would do so but if she had gone too far I would directly tell her in a gentle way that she is already irritating me. If I have told her already about what I really feel regarding what shes doing and its not quite effective then I would remind her of the things she has to do in the workplace for she is not hired to complain about her issues.Or just give her something to do so she could focus on doing it and forgetting about complaining. I would just tell her that I would give her my time later after finishing the jobs to be done.
@saimajo (10)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
If I were in your situation I would kindly ask him to shut up and stop complaining. What he's doing is irritating and it could affect the mood and ambiance of your workplace. Since he's too complaining, the mood of the workplace will be in negative way. This would result to unejoyable and unhappy workplace which will then result to poor output. You may just suggest him to resign since he doesnt love his work anymore. You may also tell him just to stop complaining because he cant do anything anyway. Its useless. He is just wasting his time complaining and he just stresses his self. And you could be affected also.
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
if i were in your situation, i will also do what you done. tell him that all people have a responsibility or work to do. tell him also that you can talk about the trivia if you have free time. if he still doing it, you tell to your superior his attitude. lastly, its better that you will transfer to different area wherein he will not disturb you.
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
if i were in your situation, i will also do what you done. tell him that all people have a responsibility or work to do. tell him also that you can talk about the trivia if you have free time. if he still doing it, you tell to your superior his attitude. lastly, its better that you will transfer to different area wherein he will not disturb you.
@lhanie04 (11)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
if i were be in the situation,I'll just go on with my works and pretend he is not there. He disturb me with my works so i will not listen to his complaints. I cannot help him with his problem so i dont need to give attention to him. I would rather tell him to talk with our boss. With our boss maybe he can help him,in the another way i help him.
@bagumbayan (2706)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
Ignore, ignore and ignore him. Better still have a sheet of paper with wordings, dont disturb, at least he can read.
@rsa101 (20028)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
Yeah that happens a lot in our lives where we meet this kind of people that loves to complain about so many trivial things around him. Well yes, you should avoid this people because in the end you'll realize that there you'll be infected by this habit in the long run. If you want you can try breaking his habit by being the opposite of him and soon it may be that you would infect him with positiveness in life too.
@Hubfee (665)
• Thailand
17 Mar 09
I suggest you to excuse yourself and go to comfort room or wherever. If you stay with someone who keeps complaining, you will just get stressful and it might make you become a person who keeps complaining like him. If he doesn't look for a help but just want to complain only then you'd rather stay away from him.I experience that before, someone keeps complaining that he's sleepy then I feel sleepy and some keeps complaining he's hungry then I feel hungry too though I didn't feel it at first! It is like a decease for mentality really! trust me!
@AmbiePam (51135)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Is there any possible way to leave an anonymous note? I mean it could be a nice, kind note telling him that it is very distracting for him to behave in the way he does. That way you could avoid any direct confrontation. On the other hand it might make him angry, but then again he wouldn't know who to be angry with.
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
I know it can be very annoying and a major distraction form doing your job. Maybe you can talk to him again and tell him your predicament, if he don't wnat to listen then maybe you can go to your immediate superior and tell him what's happening.