no child no womanhood: strange, illusive women!!!

Hi krajibg! I don't know about that sweet pain thing..lol..I have given birth three times and the only thing sweet about it was being over with..lol. I don't think that our womanhood depends solely on our birthing a child but it is something that we as women have an instinct to fulfill. Having children gives some women a "purpose". Understanding women doesn't have to be so hard. We want the same things that men do but go about getting it differently. We are not as open about it because we have not been able to be.

Men expect such enormous and contradictory things from women that any mere woman is bound to disappoint men. she is supposed to be paradise regained, the place men can finally lay their burdens down and receive their rewards for a lifetime of struggle and toil. Women are the savior who are supposed to make men whole and reconnect them to their severed feelings. But if she is the promise of paradise, she is also the place of judgment and the entrance to hell. Since men entrance to the earthly paradise depends on her good grace, they have given her the power to judge and reward or punish men. Men nevertheless set out to fulfill the conditions she requires to win her favors. The men try to please her. And you men try to judge yourselves by the reflection you see of yourselves in her eyes. Men and women end up misunderstanding and making each other crazy.

I don't want any children. I don't feel this makes me any less of a Woman. I feel completely womanly and fulfilled without children.

Motherhood is like bittersweet chocolate.... I had to have an emergency c-section, because of complications, and I can tell you.... IT is MUCH MUCH more painful then natural child birth, and the recovery time is much greater as well. Being cut open is not easy, and infection is easily spread. My c-section left me so weak and ill I could barely lift my new born child.

Hello my friend krajibg Ji, All females have been called as, 'Girl, Lady, woman'. Now there has to be difference among all. A married Lady, when attains 'mother-hood' may be called perfect woman. I feel attaining 'mother-hood' is taken as 're-birth' for any woman. Let labour pain be of any height, but a lady is relieved after becoming mother. I do not think, such situation could be simulated into men. But there are women, who do not like to become mother for various reasons best known to them. There has been a study. Please follow: http://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Motherhood-Choosing-WIthout-Children/dp/0671793446[b] "Editorial Reviews : Product Description After years of soul-searching, Jeanne Safer made the conscious decision not to have children. In this book, Safer and women across the country share insights that dispel the myth of childless women as emotionally barren or imcomplete, and encourage all women to honestly confront their needs--whether they choose motherhood or not. "[/b] So nice for your positive comments. May god bless you and have a great time.

Here is the story...Told by me!... When god created women, he saved the best for last.There was poor adam running around the garden of eden, lonely and helpless. Nobody to tell him how great he was, or cook his meals, or give him the praise that the male ego needs..(am I in trouble yet?)....hehehehe! So you can better see my point, he was like a noun without a verb...So God created women to make adam complete. To feed, love and nourish him. To provide a clean home, meet his manly needs, bare children to make him feel like a man!!.. Obviously, god thought than women were tougher,,,(and hes right again!)...so he made us the ones able to bare the pain of children. You know the old saying, if woman had the first, and men had the second, there would never be a third!! Sweet pain you say...hmmmm....the outcome is sweet!...The pain is not!!! Although after the immense pain of having my 4 children all natural, along comes science again with, what!!!..Painkillers! (Probably originally invented for men!) I watched as my daughter went through labour with a snicker on my face..Now she will see how tough it really is!!.. What!...NO PAIN!!...God finally had mercy on us and invented a button you can just push and inject your own painkillers..She hardly felt a thing!!Ok, so then times change. Some men are just not the providing and loving type so we need to get rid of them somehow...hence divorce was created!!..Much more prevailant in the americas Im sure! Woman are becoming more powerful now and the men just dont understand? What did I do wrong you say??? Nothing!! The truth is that woman always held the most power..Now we just have the ability to show you that power, so we take your money and run!!!...em]w00t[/em]Oh dear, I am killing myself laughing!!!...Such as an illusive creature would!!!

Man and woman are different. They are made by nature to make them like each other and do something to reproduction. This is the ultimate objective of any living creature in this world. Even a man would be called useless if he don't do anything to reproduce a baby child. On the other hand since women gives birth to a baby, she is more important than a man. That is probably why a man can't understand a woman but if a man can also not produce a child, his life is also vain!

Rajib- I think that human nature in general is illusive and will probably always be illusive except the all knowing Divine. It is difficult as a human to say just why one woman would be a wonderful mother and another would take their own child's life. I suppose all we can do as fellow humans is to give compassion on a daily basis, educate on a daily basis, and be the example for these women. Namaste-Anora

I was often thinking if mother didn't have child not to have me. It's so terrible! I think birth a child is so hard... But I think I would have a child for my parents my husband and my family .