Should I apologize?
By Cillysophie
@Cillysophie (327)
United States
March 16, 2009 7:51pm CST
I just had a petty argument right now. The story starts from yesterday... I was at the mall with my sisters. One is seven years old (let's call her S) and the other is fourteen years old (let's call her E). We had gone to the mall yesterday with our parents and E and I decided to go to Bath & Body Works. We took S along with us.
When we got there, they were having a buy three get three free sale but we only bought 2 b/c we had coupons for buy 1 get 1 free and I had seen that their lip gloss, which usually cost $7.50, was only $5 because it was on sale too. So I bought one. We had used our parents' card so we had to be careful with how much we had to spend. Let's fast forward. We came out of Hot Topic and our dad was standing right there. He asked us how much we spent ($36). Let's fast forward again.
So now he is in the car yelling about how we aren't careful with anything and we never care about anything. Okay, so I do get we should do more work around the house more often. Fast forward to today.
Fifteen minutes ago, my sisters were in my room and I had just taken out my bows to put them on. E tells me that S had taken the lipgloss to school and given it to one of her friends.
[i]Let's go back here, I got yelled at for spending 36 bucks, I finally got the lipgloss that I had been looking forward to buying during a sale, and I'm still getting lectured for it.
Some people think S has a disorder, like ADD or ADHD or Autism. Some of her old teachers had actually tried to get her suspended because she couldn't concentrate and was disrupting class. She got tested for the disorders. Results came and it said she shows little signs of Autism. Personally I think she showed signs of OCD.[/i]
I was so mad I started yelling at her and she started crying. My mom came in and was surprised to find it was me causing the raucous. Turns out my mom had let S borrow it because she thought I had bought it for her (my mom).
I was so mad I couldn't control myself and I said, "Is something wrong with you?" and I made it worse and said, "I forgot, you're not normal." and I tried to cover it up by saying, "Well, none of us are normal." I noticed it got quiet and my mom whispered, heart-broken, "She is normal." She sounded like she was close to tears. And I was still not cooled off so I said, "I did say none of us are normal!" She left the room and I came online to write this.
I feel like I had just ripped out my mom's heart right now, knowing me, her, E, and my dad had struggled with S. i don't even if I'm crying right now or not but my eyes are watering. But they do that sometimes when I'm in front of the computer for too long.
Idk I guess it was just stupid lipgloss. Maybe I'm just too materialistic.
What should I do? Should I apologize or was what I said not a big deal?
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6 responses
@michaeldadona (5684)
• Malaysia
18 Mar 09
Film Title: Pretty SEC Argument Right Now.
Date of Publish: March 17, 2009 / Film's Genre: Family, Comedy and Thriller
Hot Actresses: S(7 years old female), E(14 years old female), & C(Cillysophie- 17 years old); Co-starring Mom and Dad.
Location: Acworth / Country: United States of America
SYNOPSIS
Started with FREE SALE "buy3- get3" and "buy1 - get1" for a total spending $36 issues and the youngest,S, gaves out the lipgloss to somebody else and make more worse there was a proof of heath disorder on S. In fact, C intended to give their mom for the lipgloss bought through "buy1 - get1". Some clashed/frictions incident had happened as C really unsatisfied with the siuation.
MY SINCERE SUGGESTION AS WELL AS MY OPINION
OK C, I appreciate your very well narration and seemed like you are a great raconteur with your lucid explanations, it's proven because I can write the sequence plots of the whole story about the despair moment that has occurred. Thanks for providing this good family life story. In this case, you're the eldest and you should lead your younger sisters with a quality communication skills and high level of moral behavior. Just imagine that your parents are your school's principal. I mean, your respect value must take first and above your interests.
On your part, you've done nothing wrong with the elements of argument, be calm and cool, but your weakness(not your mistake) was your interests take first and devalued the moral of respect in one family happy living by relating third party's personal life(S's health condition) into the the source of problem which was only from a lipgloss.
So, the effective way to promote back your high level of moral being an eldest, you have to seek an apology from all of your family members.Be good, C; don't choose a way to be a winner but better be a gainer. Gain back your nice moral especially to your parents. Your parents love you all very deep in the bottom of their heart. Your parents don't have anybody else to connect their noble love, except to all their kids.
Eldest should leading and not beating.
@michaeldadona (5684)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 09
Wish you good luck, look, happiness and your life continued success, S!
@Cillysophie (327)
• United States
20 Mar 09
Great overview! (+'d) Thanks for the comment, yes, I did apologize to both sisters and my mom. My dad was at work so he knew nothing of it.
*Haha Hot Actresses. You should be a short film producer, your synopsis and labeling was very accurate. Thanx (even though I did look up what raconteur meant).
After I apologized to her (S), she said, "Don't pull my hair or I won't have hair," because I had taken the bows from her hair and pulled it in the process.
It was so funny! :)
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@ktosea (2025)
• China
17 Mar 09
Hi Cillysophie,I know you are under a dilemma right now,on one hand you are not too willing to apologize and on the other hand you feel sorry for what you said to your mom,it's better to apologize to you mum.I mean it's not all your fault but you yelled to your mum and said something mean of your little sister although you said"none of us are normal too" to try making it up,If I was your mum I will also take your first word seriously and get upsetting,it's a human instinct I guess,so you just calm yourself down and then apologize to your mum for what you did not right.things will be great if you apologize first.
Good luck to you
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@Cillysophie (327)
• United States
19 Mar 09
Thanx, yes I did apologize to all three of them. She told me she knew I didn't mean it. She was really calm about it and I felt relieved and happy. :)
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
You should apologize and not just apologize but mean it.
Remember that in order to get respect, you too should show respect. Calling her that is actually hitting below the belt and wasn't necessary. I'm sure she could recover the lip gloss but the hurtful words can never be recovered.
Watch your mouth and think ten times before speaking.
You just affirmed to your kid sister than she indeed is not normal and it would stay with her and make her insecure all her life.
What you can do for now is to affirm over and over that she's normal or that you're a like in more than one way. To boost her confidence about herself.
Good luck!
Hope next time you'd be more responsible.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Mar 09
i think you should probably apologise to your mom but also just tell her how you wanted and needed the lipgloss so long. since you realise how the economy has been, you grabbed it on sale when you could save the money. most young kids like your little sister are hyper these days, not sure why just yet but it seems to be the norm for little ones. i think most parents today think its something wrong so they let them get away with to much. A lipgloss at your age does not sound materialistic. its something teen girls really need.
@tooincome (345)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I think you should apologize for yelling at your mom and sister for calling her 'not normal.' I think you did a good job on trying to cover up what you meant, but it doesn't change the fact that it was said. We all say some pretty mean things when we get mad and a lot of those things may not even be true. Although the argument may be about some lip-gloss, you should still apologize to your mom and sister because although she may have some disorder, they still have feelings. Hope your situation gets better.
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@Cillysophie (327)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Thanks for commenting on the long post. I'm trying to gather the courage to say I'm sorry right now.
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I understand how you feel. If you want things to go back to mormal, I guess you have to apologize though it is not entirely your fault. Try to explain your side later when everybody has cooled off. Just be more understanding and stretch your patience.
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@Cillysophie (327)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Thanks for responding, I know my post was long. I think I will try to apoplogize. I really did not mean anything I said.
