I'm no cougar...
By Lybra2266
@Lybra2266 (96)
United States
March 16, 2009 9:47pm CST
just because I had an intimate friendship with a younger man (which lasted the span of 10 yrs...and still counting)does not mean I am a cougar...does it? I hate to be tagged with any title, but for some reason this one really gets to me. Now I have friends of his who think that because I've been with him that I can be with them...as if the age (ten yrs younger than me) is what turned me on about him in the first place, and that I must be the type that seeks younger men.
I look much younger than I am, and find that even very young men find me attractive... my son is 23, and just last week I had to explain to a very fine looking young boy that there just has to be some sort of an age limit... right?
Anyway, now, I hear the term "cougar", like it's a new fad or something...and I wonder...is that what I am? But, what if it is the younger men that seek me...what does that mean...do they have a title for that yet?
3 responses
@freak369 (5113)
• United States
18 Mar 09
Around here they are called "Urban cougars". I had no idea what that meant so I asked someone to explain it to me. That's when he looked at me and said, "Um, you qualify to be one". I didn't know whether to smack him or kiss him. I don't think the term is all that bad but it does make it sound like all we do is sink our teeth into "them", chew them up and spit them out.
@Lybra2266 (96)
• United States
27 Mar 09
exactly, and it makes all the boys who know about it think your fresh meat that will be readily available to hunt them... its like a sport, or a game I didn't realize I was playing. :)
@tea512 (687)
• United States
17 Mar 09
i heard Drew Berrymore talking with Jimmy Fallon a couple of weeks ago about this very subject. I stand in your corner as if you are chasing younger men, different one on the arm all the time, then you are a cougar. If you have short term relationships and find yourself always dating younger men then cougar. A couple of relationships especially if you did not chase do not qualify
@Lybra2266 (96)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Now I wonder, what would make a good title for experienced women who are "hunted" by young wolves???
@prashanth1489 (748)
• India
17 Mar 09
I think Cougar is just a term we lads call a woman who is just desperate for a one night affair who wouldn't mind a young lad .
When you are in a relationship with a person ( friendship is a relationship too ) for about 10 years , there is nothing wrong at all .
Congrats on your 10 years . Its really hard to go ten years with a same person , who is a friend i mean , so many things change , people change .
And don't bother really , they're some funny folks , those young blokes .
@Lybra2266 (96)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Thank you for that encouraging compliment on the 10 yrs. It is not easy, but if the commitment is based on true friendship, then the changes and funny things hold no threat...as long as we keep our promise to accept each other as we are and simply believe in that connection between us...nothing can take that away, unless we choose to let it go or make it change...and even then, sometimes the friendship lives on in spite of our attempts to forget or to sabbotage it. :)
