What you'll do if your partner is not your match?

Philippines
March 17, 2009 1:36am CST
do you believe in zodiac signs? how about the meaning of it? there are times we depend our decision,faith,etc to the meaning of our zodiac sign, also known as horoscope; and sometimes, we carried away most especially when it tells something related or true to you, right?. have you tried to depend your love life to the zodiac/horoscope?.I tried. but when i found out that we're not perfect match, i stop believing the zodiac/horoscope but sometimes it bothers me. no one can tell if we're really match or the meaning of zodiac is true but it complicates when the zodiac tell a situation that exactly happening. wel, til now i don't know what to do, we're both happy and contented but when will it last since,zodiac is not in our faith. i don't want it to last that's why i'm worrying this way.
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@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
Hmmm...no, I don't really depend my love life in zodiac signs. Cause first of, there's no such thing as a perfect relationship...your probably basing your lovelife through zodiacs so that you'll find the perfect partner. But there's no such thing. And besides, not everything that's in the horoscope happens to both you and me. Know what I'm saying? Like if the horoscope says that an Aries would pick up a thousand bucks on his/her way home. Its so unlikely that all Aries' would be picking up a thousand bucks all at the same day.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
18 Mar 09
I agree with you, according to the zodiac husband and I are a harmonious pair. but the fact is otherwise.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
Hmmm...sounds like you and your husband are not getting along well indahfth...what seems to be the problem?
• United States
14 Apr 09
If my parents had listened to their zodiac, my sister and I would not be here. My mon was a scropio and my dad was a leo, These two signs were never meant to go together. But they were happily married for 35 years.There is a truth in the zodiac but love is love and if there is enough love and desire to work on the relationship, any sign can be with any other sign.So if yu are happy , that's all that matters.
@nuemann (332)
• United States
18 Mar 09
Happy and contented is the only line that is prompting this response. If you are truly happy like you said and you a great chemistry going and yet you don't want it to last I guess you will get whjat you give so honey give it up...I mean trying to understand what you do not believe in, whats the use anyways? But if you truly love him I think you can work something out of the physical thing that can keep you both going! Horoscope might be through sometimes but not always exact and we can change the course of our lives what the zodiac says!
• Netherlands
19 Mar 09
While I will usually read the horoscope if it happens to be in the magazine or newspaper I am reading I do not put a lot of faith in it, in fact I put no faith in it to be honest but I am curious as to what they have to say. I have been happily married to my Hubby for over 26 years and have been happy with him for a few years longer than that but if I had listened to the horoscopes that I read for all of these years we would not be together as we are not a good match according to the stars. So if I had listened to them I would have missed out on 26 + very happy years and I would rather have what I have and know happiness as opposed to what some stars tell me what would make me happy and in the long run I might end up to be miserable!
@preppy (28)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Mar 09
Sometimes its nice to read he meaning of you zodiac signs it adds up the spice in a relationship...but its not good that we depend our life and relationship on horoscope. It turns to addiction if its too much...you have to believe on what both of you have, prayers also help... we are capable of controlling our life not based on horoscope... we are human with a heart and mind to know what is best for us...
@fasyahime (629)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 09
well,which woman never read zodiac sign..it's our pleasure hobby..but that doesn't mean you should believe 100% what it said..it never accurate,if it really accurate,they won't have any war right..plus, i never believe our match or destiny based on horoscope..if my partner is jerk,i will leave him,and find other man..what else..woman also should have chance to find happiness,not guys only..
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
Zodiac signs are not really true and its more of entertainment only. I have not depend on it when it comes to my love life. Even my bf doesn't believe on it. You should try your best to work out your relationship, if not its up to you guys if you really want to end it.
@mymytri (2030)
• India
18 Mar 09
I don't depend on zodiac signs now.They are waste of time i think.If you really love your partner ,you will easily understand him and try to co-operate with him.Sometimes i too feel we are not perfect match when we have disputes and i get angry (but very few times).It is only for few minutes.After sometime i forget everything and spend happily with him.He made me happy many times.We should take it also into consideration. Happy mylotting.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
18 Mar 09
Astrology is a complex science and not at all what you read in magazines. I have a friend who makes astrological charts for people and to do so she requires accurate time and date of birth and she says that usually no two charts are identical so although I am not an expert I know there is a lot more to zodiac signs than meets the eye and I don't concern myself too much with them. My husband and I are both the same star sign and I don't know if that is meant to be good or bad (LOL) I wouldn't concern myself because compatibility is a lot more complex than just two star signs; if you are happy with your partner then let it be, only you can determine if you are suited to each other not anything or anyone outside of your relationship.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
Instead of worrying then just make the most of it to have a matched relationship. See, you're both happy and contented why think of a negative to happen, just pray to have a continuous happy relationship and that no unfavorable things to happen now and in the future. There might be similar situations, happening with that with what the zodiac is telling but you can block any negative thing to happen by your true love and concern for the relationship and with each other. Provided God is at the center of it.
• China
18 Mar 09
Although i believe in zodiac signs,there're some people thought that just a superstition,but some of it says is true,and i don't put it into found my love.In my opinion,one couple made up a family,not olny they're depent this superstition,but also they can live and let live.Nothing is absolutely/
@KRUS777 (70)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
I will not believe in zodiac signs whether sometimes that it coincide to our lives of what was happening but does not mean that we believe because only God knows about our life.
17 Mar 09
i don't want it to last that's why i'm worrying this way. hi Cellyne. did you say that you dont want it to last? If you think that he is not your type anymore, it happens all the time once the charm of the person is lost on us. Perhaps he feels the same way too. Some day, when you are comfortable talking about it with him, do so.. start it gently. maybe he'll have some thoughts around it. also, i dont believe in this theory of a perfect match. it lasts as long as there is thrill for both people. after that, even if one person loses interest, it is better to end it sooner than later. take care
@bbtort (47)
• Singapore
18 Mar 09
I used to be a great believer of zodiac and horoscopes. I even tattoo my sign on my back. But I came to realise that while it is good to read. Do not get lost in it. Yes, some of the things or events predicted sometimes come true. Yet, there are also times when it doesn't. So take it as a reference. At 20 years old, I was engaged to be married. We were a good match in terms of zodiac. Yet it had to end. 13 years later I found my match and married my hubby. We are a good match not because of horoscope. But due to our same frequency in terms of our views on relationship. We had a tough start which calls for us to have heart to heart talk. That built the foundation. Right from the onset, our policy is to be honest, no secrets. Our trust in each other made everything easier to deal with even in times of conflict. Finally, our policy to talk things out and compromise prevented many ugly fights. It's not gonna be easy finding your true love. But if you believe, you'll find that love one day. I found mine after searching 13 years.
@rsa101 (37929)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
When I was young I used to believe in it. But later in life I just realized that not everything is based on Zodiac signs because it totally depends on yourself. It is all up to how you deal with him as a person and not basing your actions on your zodiac signs. I really believe that if you are both happy in a relationship you should not depend on Zodiac sign compatibility. It's just a matter of adjusting to one another whatever is it that you have in conflict and its not because you're not compatible with your zodiac signs.
@kedves (728)
17 Mar 09
i think people tend to use the zodiac as proof soemthing works or proof it doesn't .. after all you can justify leaving someone and blame it on the stars .. when in fact you just do not feel connected as you should :) i used to read them out of curiosity but have not done that for many years so I guess for me if soemthing doesn't work i only have myself or my partner to blame not predetermined star signs :) still each to their own and I would not stop anyone believing I would just advise them follow their heart not follow someone else's interpretation of it :)
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
17 Mar 09
In Indian culture marriages are solemnized if and only if the horoscopes match with each other.My horoscope was matched with my husband and out of 32 characteristics 23 characteristics matched with each other.If 18 or more characteristics match only then horoscopes match with other ,though there are other factors also. But i don't think it should be the only criteria to judge if two people can be together.To make a relationship successful a lot of adjustments and compromises need to take place.
@kirei24 (251)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
hi cellyne! i dont believe or rely my actions in horoscope. We shouldn't base our decisions in this kind of stuff. Remember that our life is what we are talking. We are the one who will suffer if we try to rely everything in horoscopes or based our love life in the zodiac signs. Im not really agaisnt this stuff. its a form of entertaining anyway. Horoscopes could be a guide to us if it is in positive way. :)
@oxtihama (91)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
I read about zodiac signs but I dont depend my life on it, especially my relationship. Whatever the progress of any relationship is a result of the joined efforts of the lovers. Any gain in a relationship is a product of the positive attitudes of both. But any complications in a relationship is influenced by both or each failure to do what ought to be done. Success and failures are not caused by the zodiac signs but a result to the decisions made by the lovers in any given situation. Life is controlled by the person, not by the stars.
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
Wow..ouch..Well, "In every rule there is always an exemption."Not every partners match with each others actually.But they find ways just to be at least compatible,yeah compatible he he, am I right with my word? Couples try to be more open to each other and so they can easily solve problems in their own.Not because you know that your partner is not your match,you give up immediately,no, find ways to be more possible that your partner will be your match.