If you were in my situation, how would you feel?
By icecroft
@icecroft (449)
Philippines
March 17, 2009 1:52am CST
How would you actually feel if there's a girl making a move on your boyfriend (or if you're a guy, there's another guy making a move on your girlfriend)? Me & my BF are now working in different offices and I'm 100% sure that he's not even giving this girl any hints. She's like some sort of stalker, even got my BF's cellphone number out of nowhere. And people at his office know that he has a girlfriend.
I don't feel jealous and threatened at all because I trust my guy very much but this girl just irritates me. What she's doing is just plain disrespectful.
How about you, if you were in my situation, how would you feel?
6 responses
@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
hi icecroft,
I have similar experience with you.As with me is quite difficult because my boyfriend is in another country.But we do have an open communications. We promised to each other that we will share all the goods and the bads that is happening on each one.We got this problem when his boss resigned from the company that he is currently working. His new boss is an Italian woman.He told me that he noticed something with his boss. At first, they have good relationship. But when she saw my picture on the table of my boyfriend, she suddenly become irritated.My boyfriend notice that her boss has a crush on him and he was not wrong. He always try to get the attention of my boyfriend and whenever she will be ignored, she always got upset. There also comes the time when my boyfriend entered his office and saw my picture torn into pieces. He suspected that it is his boss who can only do that kind of thing with my picture.My boyfriend opened up to me how angry her boss with me and she always say not good things to my boyfriend regarding my appearance but my boyfriend is not listening with him.He told me after he found out my torn pictures that he really got mad with his boss but cannot do anything because he might got fired to the company if he did something against her. What he just did is to print more pictures of mine and put it on his table.
I trust my boyfriend and he keeps on telling me that his boss is really aggressive and he will not really like her. He is also angry with her because of her bad characteristic.I really got irritated with her boss but feel so sorry with myself that I am not there to talk personally with her.If only I am there, the first thing that I will surely do is to talk with her boss about what she is doing. It will be a heart to heart, woman to woman talk so she will stop what she is doing with my boyfriend.
@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
he told me that if only the status of economy is good, he would surely love to look for another job. As of now, he really needs money to support the medications of his mother and to help also his brother.
I really feel so sad about this but my boyfriend make sure to me that he will really not go to her boss. He said that his boss is just perfect in body shape, but when it comes to attitudes and face, I am much better.
I really feel so sad about this but my boyfriend make sure to me that he will really not go to her boss. He said that his boss is just perfect in body shape, but when it comes to attitudes and face, I am much better.@icecroft (449)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
This is taking it to another level.. I can only imagine how you must feel, annierose. Most especially that you're in a long distance relationship!
That is not just annoying, it is simply unprofessional and inappropriate! If I was in the situation of your boyfriend, I'd rather look for another job and resign from his current company. His boss is totally crazy! Really bordering on insanity, if I may say. This is something that should NOT happen in a workplace -- mixing personal life with business. That's just not how things should be.
Good thing you both trust each other. Keep it up.
@maianpon (25)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
i would feel irritated too.
actually there's also this girl who's making a move on my man.
we have the same situation, except that mine's worse because mine's a long distance relationship. I have full trust in my boyfriend and i know he won't give in to that girl, but it's really disrespectful for her to do that especially when she's very much aware that the guy has a girlfriend.
She keeps on sending him text messages, even calls his cellphone,
and takes pictures of herself with my boyfriend.
She keeps pushing herself closer to my boyfriend, and my boyfriend does try to stay away from her discreetly because he doesn't want to be rude also.
It's hard to deal with and it's irritating.
Sometimes i feel like i want to call her and tell her to back off.
But i just control myself.
Don't worry. :)
She's just a stalker.
You're the girlfriend.
But if she goes too far don't hesitate!
-maian-
@icecroft (449)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
It's good to know that I'm not alone with this feeling! I was thinking that maybe I'm just overreacting, but deep inside, I'm so sure that this feeling is pretty much normal.
I just don't know why there are girls who just don't know when to back off. They just don't have any respect at all.
I hope that girl that's making on your BF finally realizes that what she's doing is just plain wrong.
As for me.. well yeah, if she goes too far then I guess she'd know how feisty I can get haha. But for now, I'm just playing cool. Irritated, but cool. :)
@tenchi18ph (176)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
I would also feel irritated if i was on that situation, your doing a good job in trusting your partner.
@wangyinfeng (75)
• China
15 May 09
no, I will let him go if he wants!
That is very easy, because if he loves you, he won't go with her, but if he wants, just let him go, maybe it is a present for you, as he is not the one you love and you will find a better guy to love in, so it is a test maybe.
@zelrick96 (20)
• Philippines
15 May 09
nothing..............................................................................
